I really like boys. I've never had a boyfriend but that is more because I am either nerveous or too picky. I lost my virginity a few months ago, and I didn't enjoy it very much. I am 19 and have always been curious about hooking up with a girl. My friend and I were both curious so we decided to kiss each other. It was weird at first but the more we kissed we starting making out and getting into it. Next I knew our clothes were off and we were feeling each other up and making out like crazy. We both said afterwards that it wasn't weird. We both thought it was fun. I really enjoyed it and actually felt more comfortable being naked against another girl than I do with a guy. I would definitely hook up with her again. But I still very much like boys. So what am I?
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No. You are what you are. Wanting has nothing to do with it.
I totally agree with the second part though:
"Only you can decide what you are."
as for "you are what you are" ... that's a bit self-defeating. if one never tries to be the person they actually WANT to be then they become stagnant.
True.
"as for "you are what you are" ... that's a bit self-defeating. if one never tries to be the person they actually WANT to be then they become stagnant. "
It may be a bit self-defeating. One can change a lot of things, but NOT their sexual preference.
Everyone's preferences can change. My tastes in men have not remained the same so why should someone else's tastes be dictated to never change either?
No matter what someone's preferences are they shouldn't allow others to try pigeonholing them into remaining that way forever if it's not what they want.
It's interesting really. In most aspects of life we try telling people that they can overcome their own biology. Obesity runs in the family? It's OK you can chose to not let it happen to you and pick a healthier life style. Alcoholism runs in the family? No worries, you can pick a lifestyle that helps you stay free from the disease.
But sexual preference. O no no. You're not allowed to chose what you want. If you think you're gay or straight or bi you HAVE to pick a lifestyle that matches it. You can't ever change your mind or chose differently. Your label will determine what you're allowed to do in bed.
I say, throw down the labels and shit on them. Do NOT let labels decide your lifestyle. Why throw away your greatest gift - the gift of free will? To satisfy someone else's bias? fuck that.
its kinda scary if you have a friend and tried to kiss for curiosity, she might take it the wrong way and ruin a friendship or hurt you with deep insults... so I think its very nice you found someone like-minded and trustworthy.
Then there are the far larger percentage of "bi" people who want attention and/or to feel special. I'm not saying all, but seriously everyone these days says they're bi, but yet 10 years ago there were shit all. It's impossible for that many peoples sexual development to skew off like that.
I seriously think this site was put up because not everyone has the word definitions.
You are what you want to be, of course, and unless you experience the same, or similar thing with a lad you won't be sure of what or who you really are. :P