I ran into this girl the other day at a red-box (movie rental place) at McDonalds. We started carrying on a friendly conversation, and I could tell there was a connection between us. She seemed really nice, and she was pretty cute I thought too. Then she asked me my age I told her I was 20. So I asked her age in return, and she told me she was 16. At that point, I got a little nervous and told her that she was probably too young for me. I am definitely not trying to get thrown in jail or something stupid like that.
I just feel really bad about the way it happened though, because I think I may have hurt her feelings a bit when I told her she was too young for me. She seemed pretty dejected, which made me feel really horrible afterwards. I just feel like I could have handled the situation a little better by maybe saying something different. I don't know.
Do you think I handled the situation appropriately, or should I have done something different? I can't help but think that she probably would have been a very fun person to hang out with, and that makes me kind of sad because I don't meet new girls too often.
I just feel really bad about the way it happened though, because I think I may have hurt her feelings a bit when I told her she was too young for me. She seemed pretty dejected, which made me feel really horrible afterwards. I just feel like I could have handled the situation a little better by maybe saying something different. I don't know.
Do you think I handled the situation appropriately, or should I have done something different? I can't help but think that she probably would have been a very fun person to hang out with, and that makes me kind of sad because I don't meet new girls too often.
EDIT: I don't get the poll options. I didn't vote.
EDIT: Everyone thinks they have a connection when they meet someone nice. It's not the truth in a lot of cases.
Okay, you don't meet girls too often but that shouldn't justify the situation. She is too young. Full stop.
I had no idea this girl was only 16 when I was talking to her, and as soon as I found out, I cut it off.
So, I respectfully disagree with you.
All in all, you did the right thing. Even if you did hurt her feelings slightly, she'll get over it. The times I have felt dejected when I were younger (even now actually) are countless. But that's life.
Thank you for your input :)
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At the risk of sounding a bit creepy, did she mention any places she likes to hang out or activities she likes to do? It would give you a good idea of where you might run into her again. I'm not suggesting you stalk her or anything like that (then you would get in trouble), but you might be lucky enough to see her again :)
Also, it's like Spacey said; it's easy to think you might have a really good connection with someone nice who you've only met once, but it probably wouldn't have been as great as it seemed. It's easy to have regrets, especially if she looked disappointed, but don't feel too down about it :)
She did tell me what street she lives on, but I think it would be pretty weird/stalker-ish to try and find her or something.
I will just let it go I think. Maybe I will see her again, considering she lives rather close, but if not, then there is always other girls (and more 'age appropriate' ones at that).
I am just glad to have some reassurance :)
Either way, I am impressed that you were able to make the right judgment call and not try anything with her. So many people would have not made the good decision that you did!