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Does dating out of your league work?
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I once dated a guy and I thought I was under his league because he was rich and had a car (he actually knew girls that took plastic surgery.) He thought he was under my league because I got accepted into a great college and tested better than him. The relationship didn't last of course. He had rich friends, I had nerd friends. We were in separate leagues and had a lot of trouble relating.

What even defines a league? Money? Personality? Success? Recognition? Talent? Intelligence? Beauty?

If someone's lacking in one aspect they can make up for it with something else?

Do you believe relationships in separate leagues last? Or is just some Hollywood idea put in our brains? I mean Hollywood says sweet innocent girls should date dangerous delinquents or that you only get love if you change everything you are.
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flutterhigh
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
try little league.

sincerely,
pedobear
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MaskedGunman
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: flutterhigh
Pedobear back from the dead.
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DeadGIrlsDon'tSayNo
10 months, 2 weeks ago | pl
@: MaskedGunman
Did you just say "dead"?!
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MaskedGunman
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
"Leagues"? Are you from some starving, dirty, impoverished, sweaty, uneducated, overpopulated, class-structured country or something? Here in the U.S., there are no "leagues". If someone told me she was out of my "league", I'd probably break her nose.
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joybird
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: MaskedGunman
I agree!!
This is not something I would ever consider.

However, my sister married a guy who was hyper and always had to be doing something new, while she was always fat and lazy, preferring to sleep rather than socialise. So it wouldn't have taken a genius to know their marriage wouldn't work out. Funnily enough, he started sleeping (around).
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howaminotmyself
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
I think it depends on how attached you are to your "league."
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bryson_willis
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
I'm seeing two different things here league and clique.

anyway, I think the you guys would have been excellent compliments.

It's not about finding someone similar (like two matchsticks in a box) or the someone opposite (like magnets) but rather someone who compliments (like a jigsaw).

...and that my friends was a nerdy explanation full of hopeless similes, but I hope you understood my point of view.
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Anonymous Poll Creator
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: bryson_willis
We couldn't relate, it was so bad that we made an effort to relate to each other. Once we broke up we stopped making that effort and couldn't even be friends.
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bryson_willis
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: Anonymous
not even friends?! So it really fell through the floor then... better luck next time.
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Kaylagreen
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
I don't think it will work....
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NothingxCrazy
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
Leagues only exist in ones mind.. it's all about personality type. If you have the confidence, you can get anyone.
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Anonymous Poll Creator
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: NothingxCrazy
example?
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NothingxCrazy
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: Anonymous
It's hard to really give an example of this sort.. If you don't think you're good enough, you won't be. But if you think you are, you can do anything and get anyone you want as long as they are into you also. Don't give yourself limitations because you don't think you're good enough.

In school, if there was someone you liked but they were in a different crowd, you might be hesitant to talk to them because maybe their in a higher "social class". But all that really matters is the mental connection and the physical connection. No one is too good for anyone.
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liiaaa3
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
Leagues don't exist unless you choose they do.
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Anonymous Poll Creator
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
@: liiaaa3
What about standards?
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DeliaRG
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
I think dating out of your league would work if you didn't feel the person was too good for you, or if you are confident with your 'league'. Some people would feel intimidated by their other half if they felt the person was above them in standard. That could cause jealousy and worry which isn't good for a relationship. But, if you realize that the person probably doesn't care if they're 'out of your league' or not. You guys might fare well.
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gamer123
1 year, 10 months ago | pl
every girl I know just turns you down if your slightly ugly. Every girl says personality puts you in the same league but it is really looks otherwise why would all the good looking guys have girlfriends and everyone else not have girlfriends?
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Anonymous Poll Creator
1 year, 9 months ago | pl
@: gamer123
So do you define leagues by beauty?
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gamer123
1 year, 9 months ago | pl
@: Anonymous
no im saying that every other girl does so that even if you would be in the same league if it were personality, they will still put you down because of your looks
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Anonymous Poll Creator
1 year, 9 months ago | pl
@: gamer123
Because a hot guy will date a girl that's slightly ugly? In fact I'm sure it's tougher if you're anugly girl. No need to get one sided resentment.
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BoredGuy
1 year, 9 months ago | pl
@: Anonymous
yes he does, and so as any other guy in the world. In fact no guy will ever get horny cause a chick is rich.

That being said. There are no such bullshit things as leagues of people.
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cupcake_wants
1 year, 9 months ago | pl
It's hard to make a blanket statement, because it really depends on a lot of different things.
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iintolovethissite
1 year, 8 months ago | pl
relationships take alot of work on either sides to make them work and overcome obstacles such as these and if u really like/love each other these should not matter anyway, it is only insecurity on both parts that cause ur break up.
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Cylinder
1 year, 3 months ago | pl
Have you guys never seen Pretty in Pink? Jks
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DeadGIrlsDon'tSayNo
10 months, 2 weeks ago | pl
Sorry, I cannot answer, the OP is an idiot. ugly and pretty, rich and poor date all the time, never heard about leagues.
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