So I'm going through some heavy thoughts lately. Been feeling very emotionally cheated. I never expected such simple behaviour would hurt so much from an ex.
So I decided to cast a poll. What do you think is worse in a relationship? Emotional cheating, or just outright having sex with someone?
So I decided to cast a poll. What do you think is worse in a relationship? Emotional cheating, or just outright having sex with someone?
Physical cheating is way, way worse!
There is such a huge difference! I could handle knowing my boyfriend/spouse had the hots for someone else, but knowing they fucked someone else made me puke in reaction to finding out.
I've been going over my old comments and even though it's five months past due, I owe you and all IIN virgins an apology.
When I wrote ^that, in particular the first paragraph, I felt it necessary to point out I was not simply hypothesising about how I *might* feel in that situation, but that I'd actual gone through it. But the way I wrote it could be interpreted that I am suggesting virgins should maybe not have input; I am sorry it came across like that.
My intentions were quite different than they appeared. I thought you might want to know that the majority of the opinions you'd be receiving on your poll were coming from people who've never been in a physical relationship before. That is because it's something that I would have wanted to know if I was asking the same question. I was being presumptuous then and it was wrong of me. I am sorry. Sometimes I am horrible at communicating.
I have been on both ends of the stick and in my experience, cheating usually occurs when one partner has practically given up or lost interest in the relationship. Otherwise, they would have been more conscious of the company they keep or the situations that they get themselves into.
I think emotional cheating is worse.
Without emotional elements, the physical cheating is "just sex". On the same level as when, say, a married men goes to a prostitute because he likes anal and his wife doesn't.
It's not the nice thing to do, but in the end, it's only sex. The person doing the cheating may love the cheated-on-person all the same, wanting to be with them and them only till the end of their live. It's fun on the side, but their heart is always with their partner.
Now emotional cheating, thats where you lose the bonding between people. Even if nothing physical is involved, the moment one of the partners becomes emotionally attached to an outside person, the basic structure of the relationship is being damaged.
It's simple, really, i can have sex even if i am not in a relationship, so sex is not something exclusive to a relationship.
I can NOT bond emotionally and empathically without a relationship(at least not to the same extent), so the emotional part(love, trust, feeling lonely without the person) is exclusive to a relationship.
Being hurt in the aspect that is exclusive is worse to me. That's not to say if you decide to be monogamous, physical cheating will hurt less than emotional one, but it's causing mainly superficial damage, while emotional cheating breaks the backbones of the relationship.
depending on what you consider to be emotional cheating.
if you're physically cheating or cyber-sexing someone ... that's cheating.
if you're just jerking off to a photo you found online then you're not cheating. and shouldn't be punished for it.