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I went to a work christmas party. I was told that the expenses would be covered by the company. I ordered food and a $30 bottle of wine, cos at the time other people told me they would have some. In the end I was the only one who drank it.

At the end of the night, it was revealed that only $250 of the bill had been covered by the company and the total bill was $350. My work colleagues thrust money at the manager who paid the excess. All up she was given $130, which makes up the difference. When I offered to pay for the bottle of wine, she told me to keep the money.

I now feel a mixture of guilt that someone has covered the cost of my bottle of wine mixed with an attitude of "well I was under the impression it was all covered"

What would you do in this situation?
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felixy
She did you a polite gesture, and it'd be rude to reject it. Forget about the money, as your manager said. Accepting generosity gracefully is part of every workplace relationship.
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Don't fret over it, and just calmly pay her the difference when you see her at work.

I'm the same way, whether it's 10 cents to whatever amount, if I owe, I'll pay.
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xfg39
So she got free food and drinks plus $30 in cash, and you want to give her another $30.
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here2help
@: xfg39
might as well give her the house and car and dog
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@: xfg39
Yeah I know, she actually made money! Haha it got so confusing with all the people offering and her refusing, but then not putting up a fight when they physically put it in her wallet. My problem is that I only had a $50 note and wanted change, but saw no way of doing that the way the situation was at the time. I just fear I look stingy among workmates, really. Oh well.
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The way I see it, your manager actually made $30 anyway.
As well as that, you offered - did the whole dance of "I'll pay, no no no, I will" etc with the end result that it was all paid for anyway. The point is that you offered, and the manager refused.
It would be too ridiculous to split a $30 cost to pay your co-workers as well.
I'd probably feel guilty and weird about it as well, but that's a waste of time - so don't feel bad.

But next time, if you get a chance maybe you can contribute more - don't go overboard though. Some people are nice, but some will just take advantage of kindness. Especially at work things, take all the perks you can get. They're already making a profit from your labour every day.
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@: tittle
Thanks very much for your advice.
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Glad to be of help :)
Not worth worrying about, for sure.
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@: tittle
She made a big deal about it when I got to work so I just gave her the money.
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MethSmokingSatanist
You should focus more on how to continue to drink alcohol at work
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Pay nothing. You were led to believe it was free, so it should be free.
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You ordered the wine to share and they refused, I wouldn't worry about it.
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RamenNoodleMaster#3
It was clearly a gift from her to you, she would feel bad if you gave her back the money. I wouldn't worry.
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Remedy your guilt with gratitude.
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