You guys met at some random event, public instance, what have you. You have gone on more than just a few dates and you now hang out quite frequently. You have had sex with her and you emotionally connect with her and she seems to be the woman that you've been looking for! You share so much in common and you have a feeling that this is the one and then you find out 6 months past the point at which you started getting intimate that she is only 16, going on 17 soon.
She seemed so mature, and many people live with their parents into their mid-twenties so it's no big deal. She carries herself like a real lady and when she said she was a student, well, I guess you assumed she was in college, right? We don't all ID card our dates, do we? You just trusted your assumption and she never corrected you...
So what do you do?
She seemed so mature, and many people live with their parents into their mid-twenties so it's no big deal. She carries herself like a real lady and when she said she was a student, well, I guess you assumed she was in college, right? We don't all ID card our dates, do we? You just trusted your assumption and she never corrected you...
So what do you do?
I certainly wouldnt, I mean you couldnt even go out to adult environments (bars, clubs).
Not to mention the girl lied to you about her age anyway. Something that probably has to do with her maturity level.
Don't you ever like to go to a nice bar, sit back and relax with some friends? I can't imagine you have all your social interaction at home, without any alcohol. What's wrong with the occasional glass of wine or beer?
It's your call. If you really think you can spend your life with her, stay with her.
However, do you feel like you can trust her? She should've told you about her age a LOT sooner.
And you just assumed, she never corrected you.
Even if she is under-age, you've already crossed the line and should make the best of your current situation.
You've already broken the law. The last thing you want is to upset her and give her reason to report you for it.
You've already stated that she's your dream girl and more mature than her age.
Ever consider that the reason she never corrected you is because she didn't want you to dump her over something like this?
Also, age-of-consent is 16 where I live.
Ah, yeah, those ridiculous "legal" issues in...US, is it?
Seriously, your age-of-consent-laws seem like a load of BS to me and many other europeans.
Here it's 14, but parents could "overrule" up until 18.
But other than that, it's all fine and legal. When i read your stuff, i was first like, "Why, he didn't write how old he is, so he can't be asking about their age difference, right?", it only dawned on me when one of the answers was "Wait until she is legal".
Here it would be so extremely normal that it not even occured to me that could be unacceptable someplace else -_-
Really, some laws are just meant to be ignored, stay with her.
Come on, what else did you expect from "Conservative Christian" America? Where the women can run around and have 4 babies with 5 different guys but making love to your long-term girlfriend is taboo?
Even looking at underaged girls can get you arrested here, assuming you're 18 or older v.v
I am just saying that it would be totally legal in SO many other countries...to show that from a moralic standpoint you are on the safe side.
You are happy with her, so i would not care about the laws when they are so stupid. Heck, if SHE wants to get you into jail she would already have. And if you both deny you ever had sex(with one another) who wants to prove you wrong :P
I'd say just stick with her and forget about the stupid laws.
I am 20, my husband is 27 and I am a female.
I didn't even state in the post that I was dating a 16 year old girl. Where did you all get that from?
despite that, then my advice would be to a hypothetical person.
As you could read in the beginning, in my country it would be perfectly legal, so no problem to begin with.
For the options to make sense/be able to respond to the core content you were getting at, i need to reply to a hypothetical person in this scenario...because i doubt you were looking for an answer along the lines of "What, thats legal anyway, why would you break up with her, you stupid?", right?
For the record, i'm also female, but bisexual in my mid-20s, and if i did not already have a wonderful girlfriend, and this theoretical scenario would take place during a long-term visit to the states, i would follow my own advice and just stay with her, or convince her to come to europe as exchange student-at which moment it will probably matter what kind of people her parents are.
But I understand that. I didn't know you had a girlfriend, you guys have an open relationship?
And ya, i have a girlfriend, and yes, we have an open relationship - which lessens our bond in no way :)
I never questioned it.
I'm serious, I don't know.
In others, when you are under the age of 18 (and you are 15+) you have have sex with someone up to 4 years old than you so that is not even an issue.
I voted stay with her, but if you're mid-twenties or above then don't see her again.
What I would do doesn't matter here.
Dumbass.
Btw this happened to a friend of mine when he was 20 and he dumped her feeling betrayed and disgusted.