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I just want to know who has had one & if it is really fun to have one.
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Had one and it's fun for a while...def not a long term thing. Relationships are better.
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I used to have a friend that would give me discounts at McDonald's. All I had to do was show up with a gun. I also had a library friend who payed my over do books for me.
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Never had one, although I've always wanted to.
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I can't/won't have sex with a woman I'm not in love with. I'd rather masturbate... That way I don't have to worry about my breath or becoming a dad.
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Fuck no, i screw then ditch, repeat.
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I had one, and I fell in love with her (because I am a love struck idiot, and she was a great girl). She stopped talking to me because that is not what she was looking for. I won't ever have one again most likely.
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Yeah, i had. Funny thing is: He was a guy and he knew i prefer girls, so he never got any hopes up for a relation. It was really just buddy-stuff in a casual clique, and usually ending up having sex. That far, it was fine. But when we had to move to another part of town, it kind of went downhill.
Basically he would only use me as "booty call", that is, every time we met it would be about sex, and there was little time for anything else.
Now of course THAT can also work, but not if you start with a friendship. Eventually, time between meetings became longer until we eventually stopped calling(me first, half a year later him too).
We met at a mutual friends birthday party a while ago and took a "party break" in her flatmates room, but other than that, contact has not been reetablished.

Another guy with whom it worked nice eventually got a girlfriend. He continued meeting with me for a while, telling neither of us. Funny thing: I had shoulder-long blue hair back then and she found some of my hair in their bed(as i later heard). He made up excuses about that but, when he took her to the student bar we and friends were usually going to and greeted us, and she saw me, she slapped him, turned around on the spot and left. Obviously, he had some explaining to do and we ended that right there.

So long story short: Yes, and it is great fun, but know going in that there's a unknown "best before"-stamp on those kinds of relations.
They are fun while they last, but there's not enough "bonding" in there to make them last over problematic times, the novelty may eventually wear off, or it may become more than it should be for either partner.

But by all means, go for it and enjoy the ride. I had and would again, with the RIGHT kind of people.(Sadly, my definition of "right" narrowed down a lot over time).
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This is a concept for matured who can balance very well, especially where I am (Hyderabad,India). This works well for like minded people and who respect each others personal space and respective interests. (According to me the movie ended the way it did because it was between to kids who are not matured enough to handle it)If it is not between matured people (not by age but by mind)it is safe not taken.
Disclaimer is it is my view from observation and practise :)
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yes... but i'm talking a real FRIEND as in hang out, talk on the phone, enjoy each others' company... just not in a romantic way. there was no romantic love there, but we were still very close friends.
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Well sort of ,had a few chances but I just don't like it much to be honest. It doesn't work for me, just feels all wrong so I've usually resisted anything happening. Have ended up in bed a few times tho and one did get started but it finished pretty awkwardly bc again , just felt all wrong.
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I would have one if I could, but I guess I look too much like shit to ever get hopes of having one...

Nuff sa(i)d...
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@: Kagean
Being attractive is all about confidence, trust me.
I never changed my look, or changed my style. But once I got confident, I got alot more attention from girls then before.

And I bet, you're beautiful.
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I want one, but I'm in a relationship.

Let's just hope I'm not too old to try and find one after 30
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DeadGIrlsDon'tSayNo
Lol, i just posted a question about something like that earlier today.

No, and I don't think it's right. But, well.. you'll see the problem if my question gets approved.
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It obviously didn't, since you left IIN.
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My cousin is actually my FWB. He's great at eating me out.
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Yeah, I had friends with benefits. I used to use their Benefit card and Madicaid all the time. Boy did that pay off. Suckers!
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Its ok until feelings grow uncontrollably and youu find yourself in a right predicament. Its a risky thing
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I've had a couple at different times. It was great. Just a friend that you could call up (or get called by) and just get it on.
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I've had one for over 10 years. At first he fell in love with me, so I tried to date him, but it never happened for me. All this time, we remained great friends and whenever I was single there he was, calling me - even when he wasn't. He still calls me, now more frequently than before as he knows my current relationship status, but nah... If it didn't work out 10 years ago, not gonna work now. As far as the sex goes we both have gotten better with time, but still I'd rather masturbate and watch a fucking movie instead of having meaningless sex that I *know* can't lead to a new relationship.
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