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Well its all about a guy whom I met online 2 years ago, he is from Turkey and I am american, so I have really fallen madly in love with him, I think about him 24h/24, and he also seems to be in love with me, he was my first love, but he is 8 years older than me, I'm 19 so sometimes I feel that he is just using the fact that I am still young to use me and just spend some time with me, sometimes he flirts with other girls, but he gets jealous if he knows that I'm talking with a friend who is a guy, I would like to know if this love that I feel toward him is real? because for instance whenever we have a very simple problem I find myself crying, and I have never thought I could cry that much because of a man, and one time we had a problem and we broke up for 3 weeks it was the worse 3 weeks in my life , I couldn't eat and neither sleep and I have even fainted, should I break up with him? and if I do, It would be possible for me to love again?
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There's a lot of problems with this.
1. He is Turkish and you met him online. About 99% of Turkish men you meet online are perverts. They will tell you ANYTHING to see you naked/perform sexual acts online.
2. You met online. Have you ever even met in real life? I stress real life, because internet relationships are not real life most of the time.
3. You need to work on your emotions. Your emotions are extremely strong for someone you met online. You don't know him and you are 19. You should be more mature.
4. If he makes you cry all the time, he isn't worth it. A man who loves you will not make you cry.
5. You live thousands of miles away from each other.

Get off the computer, go out and meet men. Real men. It will make your life SO much simpler.
Sorry if it all sounds very harsh but you need the truth. The truth hurts sometimes. But you can't go starving yourself, depriving yourself of sleep and collapsing over a man you don't know. Over a man you met online who probably has another 10 vulnerable girls on the go.
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Your figures are completely wrong: 100% of Turkish men are perverts.
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I was going to put 100%... but... I was too scared :'(
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You should judge a whole nation according to few people, those still just steriotypes, I have many other turkish friends who are very nice and friendly, some are my best friends
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@: solytis
It was a joke!
But 99% of Turks you meet online really are perverts.
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*whispers: 100%
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But seriously, have you met every single Turkish person?
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Yes I have never met him in real life, but we usually talks in phone and we talk to each other for more than 2 hours every day, so I guess this fact had made our relashionship stronger..
also I know many men in real, but I have never fallen in love with one of them, because his personality is exaclty like mine, and I guess he is the only man who can understand me, he is also very polite and caring, and he respects me
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Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
Forget him with the smooth, rich, bold flavor of Marlboro.
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I'd be more alarmed at the fact that he thinks it is ok to flirt but not you,that shows just what a sexist bigot he is already and you haven't even met him yet , is that what you want ? My advice would be not to pursue him any further on this fact alone .. It would be sheer stupidity in my opinion !
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but the fatc that he gets jealous if I talk to another guy doesn't mean that he has feelings for me?
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No he probably thinks you are his property.
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how can you have feelings for a username on a computer screen anyhow .. chemistry is totally lacking in the cyber world
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For some people, it's easier than you think.
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I didn't even believe in love before I met him, I didn't believe how can someone have feelings for another person, and I found myself in love with a man I've never met .. we cannot chose the person we fall in love with
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tommythecat
You don't love him, you've never met him.


Get a real life boyfriend and stop pretending that speaking to someone on a computer is a relationship.

Any woman he's slept with in real life has gone further than you, technically they are closer to being his girlfriend. Infact any woman he's been in the same room with is more involved with him.

There are men outside, go outside, do it, do it now.
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I don't know about much of this, but I do know that even if you break up with someone you really love you *will* be able to love again. It might take a while to get over, but you're young and you've got your whole life to forget about him and find someone else.

Why are you thinking of breaking up? Is it just because of his hypocrisy about you having male friends? Have you tried hard to fix that problem, or is it a lost cause?
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@: dom180
but I'm not sure I will love again, because now I'm 19 and I have never loved another man, no one had effected me that much..
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you're 19... you've got so much time to find someone else, seriously???? chill out, your life has just begun, now is the time to live for yourself, not some sexist, stinky, paedophile.
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thats the sad part .. the world today consists mainly of people who live in cyberland rather than getting out to experience real human interaction ..
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@ bluejeanswhiteshirt .. couldn't have said it better myself .
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I really think you should break up with him. He's not good for you and you guys live so far anyways and you wouldn't get to see him much often if you decided to give it another try....
and i can't believe what you said that he gets jealous if he knows that you're talking with a friend who is a guy!! That's not normal o.o You can speak to whoever you want to...
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Reading this sends up red flags for me. Its okay to crush on people u met online or whatever, but for ur own sake, don't invest as much as u are into a relationship. There are far to many factors to go wrong in this relationship, I've even met people online, had a wonderful time, but after they left it was too hard and had to break it off. Do urself a favor and move on, maintain a friendship maybe, but move on. At 19 ur so young and not to seem rude, but naive that it benefit u to try a few relationships in person first
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Lobotomy is the quickest but dumbest idea.
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No it doesn't mean he loves you if he gets jealous about you talking with other men .. Especially if it's ok for him to do so with other women but not ok for you with others .. and yes you can help who you fall inlove with as , essentially .. all you have "fallen inlove" with is -
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A user on a computer screen .. Unless god has not blessed you with legs in order to live away from your computer , walk outside into your end of the world and actually meet people around you then you must be severely limiting your own self in life , either that or emotionally disabled.
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Fact - most turkish men are married and use naive vulnerable girls like you as a way to bring their young wives , themselves & families out to a new country of preference but .. Continue to find this out the hard way as - you sound like the perfect victim so you can't complain when it happens & take
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my word as i have dealt with the repercussions of such matters many times in my line of work .. please do update me if anything more comes of your hopeless fruitless pursuit .. i will guarantee you it wont.
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Men are very very deceptive,all I want to say here is be carefull dear,I'm not saying he's jerk but he might be,men can be cruel.
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