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So i have really liked one of my friends(girl) for the last year and a half, and for that whole amount of time, I've waited for a chance to be with her. And through all my kindness and being there for her, I've gotten soooo freaking deep into the friendzone. I'm getting ready to give up and try to move on.so my questions are, how long would u wait to be with someone you really like? And also comment with any suggestions you have for me. Oh and sorry for any poor grammar, spelling, or punctuation.
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You're torturing yourself. Either take her and grab her or forget it. You could be missing out on better things.
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This. Don't wait around like a creeper. It puts unfair pressure on everybody involved.
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Yah but that would either ruin our friendship or it would work, and i really dont know if i want to risk what we have
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Damn meant to do that anonymously
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I won't tell anyone.
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Lol
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Gods among men don't get friendzoned.
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Lol
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Crusad3s
Dumbass!
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I agree with dirtybirdy. Don't let her pass you by, that will be something you'll regret for years to come. I know because its happening to me right now.
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Im sorry. I hope it all works out for u
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Thanks, me too. I'm planning to try and make things right in a few days.
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I never dated my best friend in high school, although he made it obvious he wanted more. He waited years. When I got back from college, though, we got together. We've been together ever since.
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Im happy for u guys
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But...

When I was a senior in college, I was super jealous of this girl he dated briefly. I also was jealous of his other female friends. (immature, I know)

I thought he would ALWAYS wait for me. When he moved on, I realized I almost missed out on something great, so we started dating.

I wouldn't recommend getting a girlfriend JUST to make her jealous. That would be really mean to the girlfriend. But, do you have any other female friends you enjoy being around? Hang out with them more, and see how she responds.
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Thanks for the advice
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Just man up you pussy, missed your chance long ago.
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Light yourself on fire. That will get her attention.
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Hahaah
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"So i have really liked one of my friends(girl)"

So would that be your friends daughter or his girlfriend?
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hinata
Stop thinking so much dude! Ask HER OUT NOW!
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Bro, every guy goes through what you're going through right now. I certainly have. I don't normally give actual advice here, but I'm telling you man, you fucking need to hear this.

You've said that you're already deep in the friendzone. This should tell you straight away, that she's not interested. You should stop giving this chick the time of day, because you deserve better than to just spend your life pining after someone who doesn't give a shit about you. There are so so so many women out there that would NEVER friendzone you and that would do anything to be with you. We accept the love we think we deserve.

My best advice is to simply stop having any contact with her at all. Go completely cold turkey. It'll be soul destroying to still spend time with someone who you secretly are in love with, and it will stop you from moving on fully. The added bonus of this, is that once you start ignoring her completely she MAY start to miss you and try to contact you and things MAY work out, but it's very very unlikely. Right now, you're too 'available' to her.

You need to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Why waste your time on a girl that doesn't care about you in the same way? Spend your time on someone else who will love you for who you are. Time is the most precious thing we can give someone, so don't waste it on someone that doesn't want it. Life is so short, so don't spend it waiting for some girl to suddenly start liking you. It's not going to happen. If you like a girl, and after a week she is still not interested, MOVE ON! Don't waste your time on people like that, it's pointless.

Furthermore, don't see this as 'giving up'. You never give up, you just stop pursing her. It doesn't make you less of a man to just say "Fuck this" and go after someone else. What makes you a true man, is being able to accept that, for now, this woman isn't interested and you'll have to try elsewhere. It makes you a true man to get back up after these things and keep your head up.

I know it'll be hard to just move on straight away, but it is honestly the best thing for you. But once you start liking someone else, you will realise that this girl isn't everything.

This can be such a good motivator for you as well. This can be your chance to take hold of your life and make yourself a better man. You can start hitting up the gym, get swole, lose some weight, get some nice new clothes, new haircut, a tan, take up a new hobby, new friends, go out more, whatever. Move and become a better man. Ditch the girl and stop waiting for girls like that. Move on man, move on!
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Thanks
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Crusad3s
Boooooooooring!
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Cunt.
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tommythecat
"And through all my kindness and being there for her, I've gotten soooo freaking deep into the friendzone."


Because that's not how you get most girls. I am an arrogant, narcissistic, quick tempered, unfaithful, occasionally violent, unemployed, liar and I have never had a problem getting chicks. It might sound really bad but the truth is when a person thinks they are on par with god, really believes it like a deluded narc, many others will believe it because that's what will "emanate" from you. How do you think cult leaders get so many to follow and love them? Because they radiate the charm they believe they have. Many people have the perception that you must be nice and that is bull, "nice guys really do finish last". To escape the friend zone never be a friend to begin with, don't show obvious interest, but don't ignore them entirely. Don't be a total asshole, but treat the person as a valuable follower, and they will follow completely unaware of the fact that you are no better than they, maybe even akin to the devil.

"We are what we believe we are at given times."

- Tommy, the king of all cats.
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This is true. Confidence, even arrogance speaks volumes to women.
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tommythecat
Sorry, wrong meeting.
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tell her. if you don't get the response you like, move on. she's a girl, i promise when you meet somebody new that she will come crawling back to you.
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But what if she doesnt?
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If she doesn't, then you know it's time to move on, and you haven't ruined your friendship.
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not wait
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You can have me. ;)
Haha but yeah, it sucks waiting to see if someone likes you or not. Just move on, that's why I'm trying to do. Eventually you'll forget about the person.
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Coolieo
For the kid I like now.. I would wait for him forever. Even if.. he had *2?* exes.. he's probably still with his girlfriend so that makes 1 ex I think, but she moved schools.. I don't know. There's not that much out for me there because I know that he does like me, ...
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I've experienced this.
Only, the friend was my best friend's girlfriend.
Sooo... that didn't work out.

But I'm happy now. I found the girl that I've always wanted, and I'm so glad that I got over the other girl. (Mostly because I realized how awful of a person she really is.)

Maybe just take that into consideration? Of course, this is just my experience. Don't take it as gospel.
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I've actually only waited about a month to get the attention of a person I liked. But started to move on once I found out who they really were and glad I didn't invest on too many feelings for said person. They were so hung over on s person who they don't have a chance with, and they're all "I hate this country I'm moving to England." Ok...not stopping you there. Now it gives me a chance to find a person who truly wants to be with me, and I finally understand the message "Wait until the person comes to you, don't spend time chasing after something that isn't meant to be".
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I've had this soooo many times it's not funny. My conscience won't let me be an asshole to the opposite sex and I strongly believe in "treat others how you'd like to be treated." So in the process I've always been the nice guy and I frequently get put in the friendzone rather fast. So my answer is within 3 weeks. A little bit of advice though, if you get put in the friendzone, try to learn to accept it and keep her as a platonic friend. Friendships last longer than relationships anyway and can be just as enriching. Too often we get caught up in the lust of wanting to be with someone. If you're head over heels in love though, this could be rather difficult. Last time I was head over heels in love with someone who considered me a best friend, I just did not contact her for a month or so to allow myself time to get over it, then re-established contact and it was fine. Hope this helps.
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I never thought I'd say this, but the cat is right.
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If I liked someone who was in a serious relationship, I would wait a few months then start looking for something else. I wouldn't forget about that person, but I wouldn't waste my time waiting for the day they are available and possibly get shot down.
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Well dang i was rejected
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