Ok so i'm in a relationship with this girl from bolivia. It was good for a while, but after a little bit she's really been getting on my last nerve. We both go to the same college, she's 23 and a junior, I'm 21 and a freshman. Long story, i just didn't attend college until i was 21 because i went to a retarted post secondary school. It's been bothering me because she has a higher GPA than me. I have a disability with learning and sometimes i feel that i can't learn new things let alone remember new concepts. But she on the other hand can do extremely well in school, and apparently, my university has a reputation of being easy! She gets mostly straight A's and a occasional B's. Its seriously getting on my last nerve. This year on my freshman fall semester, I was able to pull off A's & B's because my professors were "Nice" and gave me another chance to bring up my grades with assistance. My parents doubted me that i couldn't get A's and B's. I only got them because of the rare occasion of getting the second chance to bring them up with assistance. Her success is becoming an aggravation. This summer she's working in miami for the Embassy of Bolivia. I feel so stupid when around her, and the really messed up part is english isn't her first language, and she still makes me feel like a imbecile. I don't know what to do? I mean i like her, she's pretty and has a nice personality, its just at times, well to me, in my opinion, she can really make you feel stupid. I don't want to date a person who is smarter than me or that i can't feel confident with. When i'm around her, i feel so unconfident with school and with myself. She makes school look like a joke, while i struggle profoundly to maintain good grades which hasn't worked out my freshman spring semester. I could say that i had hard professors and also juggling 5 classes in total of 15 credits. But she has one of my hardest professor for another class the professor teaches and gets A's on her papers. This professor's class was the hardest class i had this last spring semester, and she grades like the devil, AKA Extremely hard. At times and feel like complete dung. I like her a lot its just my set backs and extreme aggravations with my issues of learning makes it a struggle to be happy.
Any advice? I just need some other peoples opinions on this one guys - Much appreciated! =)
Any advice? I just need some other peoples opinions on this one guys - Much appreciated! =)
2) If she's belittling you for that, she's not that much of a catch.
3) If she's not belittling you, and you just want to break up with her b/c you feel inferior, you're not that much of a catch.
4) School shmool. I'm sure you're better at a bunch of other things.
Accept the reality. I do not want to tell you to be dashingly smart or something else or brilliant. Remember, you are a human being, so if anyone want to be with you then she should accept what/how you are. Otherwise the relation is not supported from my point of view.
Be yourself, tell her you want to be with her but she has to accept you wholeheartedly. If she agree then fall for her, otherwise just move on before you hurt you too much in future with too much expectation from a relationship.
Different people as also good at different things. No reason to stress at her being better on a given subject.
As long as she's not treating you like shit for it, I don't see a problem.
This comment is based on the idea that she's never belittled you, as you didn't state such in your post.
[By the way... If she is saying that she's smarter than you (or something to that effect) then walk away because that's just mean.]
At the end of the day, she can't help the fact you have learning disabilities and she doesn't. You should just be proud that a smart, pretty girl with a nice personality picked YOU out of all others. So just stop worrying, stop comparing, and keep up the hard work at university. It WILL pay off. Be happy! :)
If shes mean to you about it and brings you down then you deserve better! No one should have to put up with that..
Well, intelligence can't be measure only by grades (for this I agreed with flutterhigh). Sometimes good grades can't guarantee to have a good solution for life.