We have a 10 month old dog. He is a sweetheart and he has the most adorable wrinkled face. I have gotten him trained pretty ok. He is mostly housetrained and when I tell him to go lay down, after the third time he usually listens. He doesn't chew on our stuff if we pick it up off the floor and keep him in stock of chew toys. But I have an almost four year old that loves to fight with the dog. I have to constantly make sure she isn't jabbing him in the eye. He gets too rough when they play and knocks her down, which in turn she screams bloody murder every 5 minutes. I thought this was a phase but it isn't easing up. I am trying to go to college while taking care of my kid and running all of the errands and doing all of the housework. Now I have the dog on top of that. My husband said he would help with the dog when we got him and we thought it would be good for my daughter since she won't be getting a sibling anytime soon. But all they do is fight and when my husband gets home he is too tired to play with the dog. Every once in a while he will give it five minutes of play time but has only walked it once in the past six months. The dog slobbers on me every time I get near it. So if I manage to get a shower that day and put clean clothes on it doesn't last for more than a few minutes before I get gross again. We bathe the dog weekly but it stinks and the house stinks. The walls have drooly scum on them. He gets poop on its butt when it goes to the bathroom and then I find poop stains around the house. The vet told me to use wipes on his butt every time it uses the bathroom. (Really?! That is what I am suppose to do everyday?) It won't go to the bathroom unless you go out and watch it. We have a fenced in yard but it has dug holes and bent the fence to escape every time we put it outside by itself. I didn't realize the dog would be like an infant that needed this kind of constant attention when we got him. I love this dog so much but I want to have a sanitary house, I want my kid to stop screaming about the dog, I want to stop arguing with my husband about sharing the responsibility, and I want to be left alone and showered for a few minutes. My husband keeps saying, "well play with him more, we spent all this money on him, try this, he's just a dog, you agreed to getting him, I work so I don't have time to help more". I want to find the dog another home. My husband is obsessed with having a dog for some reason but I am the actual owner because I take care of it. My husband even says he has more empathy for animals and likes them more than people because they aren't bad like people. I think that is absurd. I care very much about animals as well but not over my family. And also I feel like the poor dog is being neglected because no one has time to play with it or even wants to. So what is the point in having him? And when we leave the house it is by itself in the bathroom all day. Will the dog adjust if we find him a nice place to live? I know they have feelings and get attached to people but I am not sure how similar to people dogs are emotionally. I'm starting to feel like having pets is just wrong, for everyone involved. I wish my husband would agree but he doesn't. What should I do? I'm worried my husband is going to hold it against me if I find the dog another home.