Ok, so I am in this relationship with my only friend of about 5 years, and I feel trapped. the problem is that she is an emotional wreck. everything gets to her, if I don't answer her call for more then 3 hours she starts to get panicked. and that was before we got together. the reason i got with her is because she had a break down from having been betrayed by two of her friends and she started to feel like she would live alone forever. that is when she asked me to be her boyfriend. the thing wrong with me is i dont feel the same as she does, but i hate to see her so upset. so to make things better i said yes. i know this is not right but I'm not good with emotions and dealing with them. i had asked her not to tell people just yet that i wasn't ready for them to know, but she went and told her family. now i don't know what to do and would like some advice. anything would help. thx
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I think that by staying when you don't want to you can't help but give off signals that will confuse and upset her.
Not only are you wasting your own time, you are also keeping her from finding someone that she really belongs to. Granted, she will probably not feel this way now, but if there is somewhat of a sane person trapped inside of that woman then she will eventually realize it too.
So that's your solution right there!
Tell her that you think she is great and that you love her as a FRIEND only and that you both deserve people who will fully love you for who you are and you two are not it. Am if she starts crying and bla bla, shit happens, tell her you still care for her but don't want to be with her. Even if she is crying let her have her say and you have urs and then leave. There is nothing more to it. You have our own life to live, she had chosen to be like a cry baby and dependent. I know it harsh but, if you don't do anything, no one will! So, move on hun. Good luck x