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The thought has honestly crossed my mind, and in one instance I was actually going go through with it and call the girl. However, the thought of looking at myself in the mirror afterwards took me away from doing so. I just can't stand the thought of having to look at myself and realizing that this is the only way for me to obtain love, by paying someone. I know I'm worth more than that, at least I'd like to believe so. Still the urge was there, a friend of mine even encouraged me to do it. But I just couldn't, I just can't. I didn't want my first time to be like that.
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@: Anime7
Your problem here is that you are mixing sex with love, my friend. They are not mutusally exclusive. It's harder for guys to obtain sex without having to work and jump through loops of someone else, so in my opinion a prostitute is ok and not shameful, infact it's a smart choice assuming you have the money to spare.

And that's coming from me, the pride filled son of a bitch. Lol. :)
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@: ItDuz
I get where you're coming from and you're right sex and love aren't always the same thing. For some reason though I feel like I can sort of convince myself to at least view at that way, like in that scenario. I'm having sex with someone, and hey maybe I could pay her to actually say loving things while doing it.

I honestly have no problem with prostitutes, heck I think it should be legal. I don't see it as immoral, but I do look at people who pay prostitutes with a bit of sadness. Since like they believe that's all there is for them.

Perhaps when I hit rock bottom and lose all hope I'll turn to a fancy lady but for some reason no matter how lonely I get, that's not how I want my first time to go. Other times however, when I'm not a virgin, well....

I get where you're coming from, prostitutes really aren't bad if you just want sex. But like you do have to sort of look at yourself in the mirror the next day and wonder why it is you have to pay someone to pretend to love you.
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@: Anime7
Is it more so you want sex to be about love than it is just linking sex with love? If so, I can see your perspective. It would be a tricky thing to do in that case.

I agree, I think it should be legal. I myself wouldn't exactly see someone who was or is a porstitute as partner material (just a preference) however I think if they want to do it, then let them. Owner ship of your own body and all.
I could see it being a problem, though, now that I think of it. Would women, primarily (obvious reasons), try to educate themselves as much to contribute to the world in productive ways if this easy source of income was available and had no stigma behind it? Hmm.

See, now I am stuck on it, because in one sense it would give women the right to their body, but on the other it would be so easy for women to gain an income that they may not take other career paths due to such a career (prostitution) is generally easier and would get more income faster and easier, in which then social aspects of women being seen as just people to have sex with rather than contributors to society would happen, and so on and so forth.
...It's a hard one to see what would be more harmful.

But I digress.

I don't really see it as a sadness thing. Sadly there are men that can't find partners to have sex with, and being able to find a way to gain sex rather than not being able to get any at all is a better solution in my mind. Ofcourse, people using prostitutes aren't always those types of people, but just sticking to the context.

Don't look at it as hitting rock bottom, man. Some may find this sexist, but it is harder for guys to find someone to be sexually active with. Guys are primarily the ones that have to impress more, do more, jump through more hoops, to gain sex, and if I ever wanted to have sex easily and was't able to gain sex easily, and I had the cash to spare, I would gladly rather go to a prostitute and have sex that way than having to jump through hoops like a dog to try impress someone.
So don't look at it as a low point, just look at it as an alternative route to sex.

Not sure if you value your virginity or not, but in my opinion, the whole "losing your virginity in a special way" is overrated, in my case it wasn't all that grand. But then again I am an apathetic bastard aha. :P

I wouldn't really see it that way, but again we are two different people so I don't know how you could feel that way about it or if your view on it can change. It really depends on what you're seeking. If you're seeking a relationship and love to have sex in that, then I can see your point, but if it's just sexual release, I wouldn't really bother thinking anything other than "Dayum, you sexeh" :3 Aha.

Keep your chin up, friend. :)
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@: ItDuz
I don't know why I got two thumbs down...Someone mind explaining what someone could possibly oppose from my statements?
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@: ItDuz
I know that there is no love involved, but I feel like I can pretend. Like if I can pay someone to pretend to love me, like tell them to say kind things to me, but if she could act as if she genuinely means it. It would be nice, minus the part where I'm paying for it.

Another problem that I'd run into would be that I'm sure I would want more, maybe I'm wrong but I'd imagine that after I actually have sex I will want more and perhaps I'll spiral down a vicious path where I'm flat broke because I spend all my money on prostitutes.

I actually do sort of believe you when you say that losing it in a special way is overrated. I mean hey it's great if you have love in there, but sex without love doesn't sound so bad. Sex is good. Love is good. Put them both together and great, but separately they're still not bad.

A relationship is something that, I dislike to admit, but somewhat scares me. I'm trying to overcome this fear, but it isn't easy for a guy to do. Still I'm trying.

Thanks man, I know I'm actually kind of a cool guy, but there's more to obtaining sex than that.

Also I have no idea why you got thumbed down, but I thumbed you up.
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@: Anime7
Prostitutes sell sexual pleasure and not love. I know some men who have visited prostitutes and I don't think less of them.
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@: kelili
Well I have to say you sound like a very pleasant person to be around because I imagine that people would have a wide range of negative emotions towards the person.
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WELL IM A PROSTITUTE AND I LOVE IT xD
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How much? ;)
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How much you got?
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10,000 bucks ;) Do I get something extra?
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well, if you have that much i guess i'll have too. I'll go get my Leather trench coat and black eyeliner and let you goth/vamp me up first then lol
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Anthian
*Fap fap fap fap*

Haha you would almost look like Magnus Bane if you went with that look!
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Never would, I'm already pretty insecure so the idea of paying someone to have sex with me who doesn't want to makes my skin crawl
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handsignals
I fell in love with one.
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Did you fall in love with one during your days as a drunk?
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handsignals
Yes.
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Man here. I wouldn't see a prostitute as I believe it is immoral though I do think prostitution should be legal and I would try not to judge someone for being a prostitute or seeing prostitutes.
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I've thought about this before. In the end though I just would never do this. I'm not saying it's wrong by any means. I think it should be legal and men and women should be allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies, even using currency to exchange sexual satisfaction. It's no different than buying porn in my mind. But if I am going to seek out casual sex with someone I just think a more traditional approach, while a bit more complicated, is more fun and would be an overall better experience. Buy them dinner, have a few laughs, have a drink or two, fuck, then move on. On top of that, I think when you share that casual fun experience with the person, the sex will be a little bit better. Just my personal take on it though.
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I don't think I would ever want to pay for sex. I don't think it's any more wrong than anything in our commodified world is. It's just that for me sex is a natural social process, and I don't have any desire to make the process artificial. Too much has been transformed from trust-based to commodified already, and I'd rather sex didn't join that list.
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@: dom180
Well put. I salute your writing skill.
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Thank you.
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I knew men who were so desperate to lose their virginities that they paid prostitutes. Most of them regretted it later on.
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I don't have an issue with prostitution from the ethical perspective, as long as it isn't forced. However, I've never bought a woman's company. If I felt the urge to do it, I would.
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I have been reading some of the comments and I'm wondering if I am this different or the guys here are really too young to debate about this subject????

I think that seeing a prostitutes is not that bad. I have known a few men who have visited prostitutes. I have had boyfriends who told me that they have been with prostitutes. It's just easy sex without commitment.
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I will tell you a funny story about my country. Like 20 years ago, there was a tradition in which the father or big brother would take a boy to a prostitute when he reached 12 or 13 years old. It was supposed to be done so that the boy wouldn't come up gay or something like that. So well, at that time, prostitution was something looked down upon, but at the same time, something that more or less "everyone" did.
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What country are u from?
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Where is the "I simply don't want a prostitute" button?
Cause I don't want to be with a prostitute for various reasons
1. Don't want to catch some disease
2. Too used... The fact that I know that X-number of people have had sex with that woman
3. I don't pay for sex
4. No desire to sleep with one
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There are two, if you don't want it bcuz you're married, or if you don't want it bcuz you prefer masturbation, and also of course if you're a woman or a virgin.
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The answers aren't that great though, are they?

I sort of assumed based on the answers that this poll was meant to be a joke (maybe it is?).

You could have at least included an 'Other' option.
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No, I don't want a prostitute, cause I can sleep with a woman that doesn't sell herself for sex!

Pretty easy to get laid at university parties... XD
So no reason to pay for something you can get for free.
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I'm female, and I would never sleep with a man who has had sex with a prostitute. I think that a man who is happy to pay to have sex with a woman who he knows isn't attracted to him and isn't enjoying it isn't that far from a rapist. Obviously I am not saying that prostitution is rape, but I think the psychology is not that dissimilar. Women are not objects to be bought and sold and used, even if they themselves are willing to let it happen.
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Is a woman who sleeps with male prostitutes "not that far from a rapist" too?

Is her psychology similar to that of a rapist?

Serious question, I want to know what you think.
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I've never met a woman who has used or even considered using a male prostitute, so, being no expert, I couldn't really say. I'd certainly be interested in learning more about it from a woman who has, but I think they're pretty hard to find.
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But it seems like your idea that they are close to rapists is based on principle, not individuals you know.

"I think that a man who is happy to pay to have sex with a woman who he knows isn't attracted to him and isn't enjoying it isn't that far from a rapist."

So why would a woman paying for sex be different from a man paying for sex? If that male prostitute isn't attracted to the woman and isn't enjoying it, does that mean the woman isn't so different from a rapist?
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You are going to compare someone consenting to sex and initiating the offer of sex, regardless of wanting that sex, to unconsenting sex (rape)?

You can't just claim that the psychology is similar and expect it to be seen as so. Explain how otherwise you have no point behind your statement to support the statement.

"Women are not objects to be bought, sold, and used". So, what if two people are friends with benefits? Because they use eachother for sex they are "objectifying" them? You're a feminist no doubt, right?

Listen, wanting to have sex with someone and only sex with them is not "objectifying" someone. You see it as "I want to have sex with it" rather than "I want to have sex with that person". You can want only one thing from someone all while knowing they are still a person. That is like saying "Oh, you hired someone to repair your car? You are using them as an object of utility!" "Oh, you called the authorities? You are using them as an object of safety!"

It's ridiculous.

"Women are not objects to be bought, sold, and used, even if they are willing to let it happen". Since when were "you" the arbiter of what other women do with their lives? Oh yeah, you aren't.
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@: ItDuz
Yes, I'm a feminist in the true sense of the word, meaning I think men and women are equal. If you disagree, there's really no point us having a conversation because we're basically talking in different languages and we're never going to get anywhere.

Just because a woman is willing to sell her body doesn't mean it is right for you to buy it. If a woman needs to do that, that is her right. Doesn't mean it's ok for you to exploit her vulnerability (whether she's poor, an addict, or simply too poorly educated to find another job). A rapist enjoys sex with someone who doesn't enjoy sex with them. So do men who use prostitutes. I'm not saying it's the same thing, but the mentality is close enough that I certainly don't want to give MY body to someone like that.
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"I'm a feminist in the true sense of the word, meaning I think men and women are equal".

All feminists state that, that doesn't mean their opinions or views support their claim.

"Just because a woman has the right to sell her body does not mean you have the right to buy that offer".

Depending on the law, that gives me every right. Same goes for women selling their bodies, if the law says they aren't allowed, then they aren't.

If I, or anybody, is being offered something from the owner of that something, then yes, people are allowed to take up that offer. I like how you are trying to pass the "reaction" of transaction as more morally wrong than the initiator of that transaction. It doesn't work that way. That is like saying "It's ok to sell black market firearms, but it is not ok for you to exploit that person who may be in that situation due to their upbringing and can't get a job, feed their addictiom etc". Same analogy can be made for drug dealers. Your point falls apart completely.

"Rapists enjoy sex with people who don't enjoy the sex". No, rapists enjoy sex "regardless" of the woman's enjoyment, that doesn't mean that they would pass up the offer to have sex with a woman willing to have sex with the same woman when unwilling. Yes, there are rapists that do enjoy forcing someone in to sex, however that is just "one" type of rapist out of many. All rape is wrong regardless, but your ignorance on it is my point.

"So do men who use prostitutes". Who is to say that the prostitute does not enjoy the sex? Also, if men enjoy that, would they not simply rape the prostitute and not pay them, ergo having sex the prostitute may of not taken part in without the transaction rather than pay them? If they wanted to have sex with women that were not willing, then they would not want the prostitute to give the impression she is enjoying either, would they?

But still, your point falls apart under my first point to you regardless of how much we could get in to this, that if she consented, then it is consentual sex and is not comparable to rape, nor are the people taking action in it comparable to rape.
I could say the same on the flip side: If a woman enjoys having sex with people she does not want sex with, well then that means she is comparable to someone that enjoys rape. It's just as absurd.

You, more than likely, will say "It's different because she may be a prostitute due to her situation, be it financial, etc.

I would then respond saying "It's not different because he may of rented the prostitute due to his situation which is that he cannot get sex elsewhere, so him renting a prostitute is due to his situation of not being able to gain sex anywhere else, just like the prostitute cannot find a financial benefit anywhere else".

So no, it isn't close to it at all, and if you don't want to give your body to someone like that, then fine, I am sure others will feel the same about you with the choices you have made in life or your beliefs, etc. Point being, nobody is going to care that much on it if they can go to a prostitute for sex anyway.
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Do you like your men to wear Fedoras during sex?

lmao
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"Doesn't mean it's ok for you to exploit her vulnerability (whether she's poor, an addict, or simply too poorly educated to find another job)"

What about prostitutes who aren't doing it because they're vulnerable, poor or poorly educated?

Those who aren't 'victims of circumstance'?

Is it OK in your opinion then?
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But it's not just women, there are male prostitutes
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Yes, but this poll is meant for the conventional sense.
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That's true, and they're mainly used by other men. But I don't think it's moral for women to buy sex either. As I said to someone else, I don't know any woman who has or has considered using a male prostitute so I can't really comment on it the same way I can about men doing it, cuz I know a number of different men who have used prostitutes and that's partially formed my opinion of those who do.
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So is someone that goes to a store and buys things not that far from a thief?

It seems like you are comparing buying to stealing so to you would they be psychologically similar?

Does it ever bother you that pretty much any man you date is going to have watched pornography and therefore has enjoyed watching prostitution happen?
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That's a terrible analogy which basically proves my point - women are not products in a store.

I watch pornography, but I don't feel great about it. Same with the guys I date.
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How hypocritical. You oppose women used as objects of pleasure but watch men and women being used as objects of pleasure for an audience?

So, it's ok for you to do it, and you accept men that use women as objects of viewing pleasure but not men that use prostitutes for objects of pleasure (in your mind)? Why? Because if you use someone as an object in a certain way then it's ok for others to do the same, but if someone uses someone as an object in a way you don't, then it's wrong?

-Sigh-
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@: ItDuz
I said, I don't feel great about it. Pornography is exploitative, no two ways about it. Some of the stories these women tell would make you cry. But the distancing effect, the fact that I'm not paying or contributing to the industry (I don't even see ads, APB FTW) is how I justify it to myself - in so much as I can. However, to use a crude analogy, it's the difference between committing a murder and viewing snuff films - viewing the film is shitty, but it's not as bad as actually perpetrating a murder. And please don't say I'm comparing men using prostitutes to murderers because if you take that line I will know I'm conversing with a teenager.

I understand that you feel judged by my comment and that's making you defensive. I don't think men who use prostitutes are bad people - I just don't think they're as gender-progressive as the men I choose to be with. Rape is about taking something by force, but it's also about using and discarding another human being for your own ends. I can't imagine enjoying sex with someone who I know isn't enjoying it. I don't want to have sex with someone who can.
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That doesn't change the fact that you do it. Are you saying it would be acceptable if someone hired a prostitute and didn't feel great about it, yet contiued to do it anyway? If not, then how is this any different?

"I am not contributing to the industry", that doesn't change the fact you still objectify them by observing them for your visual pleasure, so you can't justify it due to that reason, or any reason, if you hold your belief about objectification.

"Crude analogy, it is like comitting murder and viewing snuff films".
No it's not. The topic is objectification, in which your view of objectification runs under prostitution and objectification by observing. Watching a murder does not come under murder, they are two different things.

I'm not going to say you are comparing them, I understand the difference between an analogy and a comparison.

"I understand that you feel judged by my comment and that's making you defensive".
...Actually, no. I don't feel judged, infact until you even mentioned it, you judging me wasn't something that entered my head, and even now when it is possible you are judging me, I can't say I care much at all. I am not being defensive, you can hold your opinions on me all you want, everyone has opinions of others, I am merely responding from a rational perspective, not a personal one.

" I don't think men who use prostitutes are bad people - I just don't think they're as gender-progressive as the men I choose to be with."

Well, I don't know, because you only speak of prostitutes as if there are only female ones. That aside, you have stated you think it is wrong for a woman to sell her body of her own free will if she chooses to do so above when you stated, and I quote: "Women are not objects to be bought and sold and used, even if they themselves are willing to let it happen.", so you feel that you don't think women have a right to their own body, and you also don't think that men are wrong for seeking sex in easy means if those easy means are willingly presented to them by women.
So when you say you are gender-progressive, I would have to say I beg to differ on this aspect.

"Rape is about taking something by force, but it's also about using and discarding another human being for your own ends."

Again, if this was the case, men would not pay prostitutes as they discard the prostitute being a human being that is making a transaction with them. If this was rape, they would have sex and not pay them, making them leave with the sex they wanted and the money they were going to spend, in which they gain while losing nothing. You haven't considered that.
Again I'll say, if that is what rape is, then friends with benefits are raping eachother each time they have sex with one another, as they are there to have sex for themselves, hence why they are not comitting to one another by being in a relationship, the intention is purely sex for their own pleasure.

"I can't imagine enjoying sex with someone who I know isn't enjoying it. I don't want to have sex with someone who can."
That's fine and dandy, me too, but that doesn't work as a point in this subject. Regretted sex or sex not enjoyed does not count as rape if consented, otherwise I was raped twice a a few months back (lol).

When it comes down to it, the difference between sex and rape is consent. If the person initiating the sex has somehow blackmailed the person they are asking in to sex, then sure, it is rape, however if the person gaining sex has not blackmailed the person in to sex, and that person consents by the transaction of sex, then it is just that; sex with a transaction.
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Money can be exchanged for goods and services. One of those services is sex. I'm asking you why this one purchase is different from any other?

"women are not products in a store. "
No one is discussing slavery here please don't change the subject.
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Rihhhhhghttt. Another service which can be purchased is the service of paying someone to murder someone for you. Or you can buy crystal meth, or you can buy child pornography. Doesn't make it right.

As you've just learned, the availability of something for purchase bears no relation to the morality of purchasing the item in question. Next argument plzz
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Those things are immoral for reasons besides the purchasing of them. I'm asking you to give me a reason why purchasing sex is immoral, that is what I asked you from the start. So far you haven't given one reason.

Do you have a reason or is it just a sort of childish "it's icky" thing? I wouldn't normally assume that someone had no reason behind their beliefs but your inability to give any reason at all makes me wonder.
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I think you have to understand that both parties are consenting. I mean so long as the prostitute isn't forced into doing her job, she is consenting.

It sounds like the whole idea of a women putting her body out like that angers you because it dehumanizes the whole female gender in some way. But the thing is, if it's her choice to do it, then who are you to stop it.

Let me ask you, how would you feel if a women willingly became a prostitute? Or better yet how do you feel about female pornstars?

It's a service, no different than a mechanic. Doesn't mean that one is being objectified. If you're angered by anything it should be if the women were forced into their position, but otherwise, there isn't much basis in your argument other than personal disgust, which, while understandable, doesn't stand much for valid evidence that something is bad.
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Never used one, probably never would ('m confident in my ability to obtain sex). That aside, not everyone has the capability to find sex, especially men as they tend to have to jump through hoops for someone else to obtain sex.

To me, it's a smart choice aslong as you have the cash to spare and protection.

If there was ever a situation where I wasn't able to obtain sex and was desperate (unlikely as I think I have a low sex drive), then yes, I would probably use a prostitute.
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I could never get the whole idea behind prostitution.
Why would you pay a huge amount of money for someone to have sex with you? Can you really be THAT desperate?
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Of course, nothings better than a tight slut.. Put keep that rubber on your chingchung!
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hookers are too high mileage to be tight... NEWS FLASH
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i would if we monitored them at all if they actually got regular std checks and well you know if it wasnt illegal then i would definitely pick up a prostitute
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Immorality would discourage me from hooking up with a prostitute; I will never settle to pay for sex.
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I would never hire a prostitute because I don't want STDs.

I would never be a prostitute because I don't want STDs.
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anti-hero
No thanks.
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Sorry, above commenters, but I think some of you are arguing too much with bleach_baby. I'm not against prostitution either. But I don't think it's wrong to find it unsettling, either. I think many people, at some point (or always) come across at least one aspect of sexuality that makes them uncomfortable.

Even though acceptance of sexuality/ and people's choices, is a good thing. And it's healthy to be able to talk about sex. But, I think people should also be able to talk about the aspects of sex, that make them uncomfortable. I know it's controversial, because some people get oppressive toward other people, about the things they're uncomfortable with. But, why should anyone be pressured to feel comfortable or agreeable with something they're not? Or pressured to be quiet about it?

I know it's a gray area, and hard to tell when a person(s)'s discomfort with something, is becoming too oppressive and controlling of others. Or whether that person themselves is the one who is oppressed, by being pressured to pretend they're not uncomfortable with said thing... etc.
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I understand where you're coming from because it does look like a bunch of people are ganging up on one user for what appears to be a person's own personal opinion. But if you read what we're asking, you'd see that we're simply trying to find out what exactly equates a person who sees prostitutes with a rapist and why paying someone for sex is different from paying someone to fix your car.

We're not shoving opinions down bleach baby's throat, we simply just haven't received a clear answer to what appears to be her contradicting statements.
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@: Anime7
I agree that it’s not the same as rape, to buy a sex worker’s time. Then again, according to what she says, she has known men who did pick up prostitutes. She has the experience, to form an impression of what those men are like. I’ve never had anyone tell me they’ve picked up a prostitute- so I don’t have enough familiarity, to form an opinion. I can only guess whether the idea of sex work/buying bothers me, or not.

I got the impression, from her first comment, that it bothered her in a personal way- to where she would not want to date someone who would hire a prostitute. That’s a personal decision, and I think it’s hard to change how you feel in personal ways. And this is a semi-anonymous site, where people can express their personal feelings, so to me it seemed valid to express how she feels. But maybe it did sound a little too farfetched. I thought she meant that, she *feels like she’s looking at a rapist, when she sees a person who would hire a prostitute. Even if she does not literally believe they’re a rapist. The two feel similar, to her, even if they’re not the same. She did say that, she does not think it’s literally rape. But I don’t have any opinion against someone who does sex work, nor hires one. I know what you mean, and it should be legal, & consensual. I think it’s also possible to support the idea, yet still have a bad emotional response to the idea of prostitution- or any aspect of sexuality. Because a person can’t help what they feel. Not everyone will have a bad reaction to it, that varies. Sorry, I didn’t reply to you, or anyone else directly. There were too many of you.
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It sounds like you do get our frustration though, as you stated

"I thought she meant that, she *feels like she’s looking at a rapist, when she sees a person who would hire a prostitute. Even if she does not literally believe they’re a rapist. The two feel similar, to her, even if they’re not the same."

Please don't think I'm looking for an argument, it's just the way you wrote your reply makes it sound as if you understand our confusion since you as well expressed some sort of doubt as to what she is actually saying. As you read more of bleach baby's replies you'll find that that doubt will grow into confusion because there is no definitive answer as to why she believes what she believes beyond an "it's icky" reply.
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@: Anime7
Nah I didn't mean to sound like an argument either. It was just what I thought she meant. It's true that I get weirded out by multiple people crowding on one person, if it doesn't seem to be for good enough reason. Even if it's only the internet, it weirds me out, that it's human nature to gang up. But to be fair, the idea has crossed my mind before, to hire a male prostitute... (for explanation- it's unbelievably harder than you'd think, to find men who are the type I like.) Though crossing my mind is not the same as actually doing that, so I really don't know what it's like.
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I completely understand where you're coming from, both in being annoyed by people coming against one person and also about thinking about getting a prostitute. I'm just going to point out that that second part is a bit shocking. I feel like there's a shortage of long haired pretty boys in your life, which kind of sucks since that's like telling someone that there's a shortage of attractive people in his life. I'm sure you can find someone, I mean you know you could always just like date someone and tell them to grow out their hair. That's one option and I'd imagine it's way cheaper than buying a prostitute.

As for the whole ganging up on bleach baby thing, it's not really out of human nature, at least I don't believe so, it's simply people attempting to go about their own way to get a straight answer out of someone. I see as no different than attacking a math problem. You go about it in different ways, only difference is that you try one way and see what you get. Then another person tries his own way to get the answer. It just so happens that everyone has their own method to finding the answer. We're not trying to gang up on anyone, just trying to get a straight answer. And I think it's fair to say that at this point people just gave up.
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It's not so much her being against it as it is her reasons for it.
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@: ItDuz
I know what you mean. I would write more here, but I already wrote a lot, above.
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All this talk about sex is making me horny
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I think it would be fun just to make friends with a prostitute. As in, simply talk to them. I find personalities more attractive than bodies, so I guess that has a factor in it.
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green_boogers
What ever happened to the "Happy Hooker"? A sex positive uninhibited feminist that liked to help disabled men with their sexual frustration. Women like that are inspiring and very compassionate.
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Well, I've used prostitutes when there's nothing else. Hard working girls doing a sometimes dangerous and frequently unpleasant job. I try to be as inoffensive as possible for them. I've seen over 700 over many years, some fantastic, some adequate, some frankly bored or unresponsive. I've never caught a thing despite hardly ever using a condom. I'm happily married now so don't need them but my wife and I often talk about them, especially some of the nicer people I met over the years.
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With a career in the military and many yeas in European and Asian countries. It was just a fact that you would drift to having sexual relations with prostitutes.
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What is the final verdict for you? I mean, do you not really like going to prostitutes now you're beyond the military?
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I have never visited a prostitute in the USA when I was married and now that I am widowed I still will not. Even at my current age it is still easy enough to meet a woman who will go to bed with.
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Have you gotten an AIDS/std test?
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