My boyfriend left to Singapore for a month and the night he left I went out drinking with some coworkers. Nothing funny was happening until I decided it was time to pass out, well 2 hours later I woke up to someone stroking my arm. At first I pretended to be asleep but then I don't know why but I moved closer to them and we started kissing. I know it isn't a good excuse but I was really depressed about my boyfriend leaving. I didn't feel anything with the kiss, I felt more guilty than anything.
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My bf went on vacation for a month and I cheated, should I tell him?
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If my gf cheated on me and she'd confess, I'd probably get angry, but I'd appreciate her honesty. There's a big chance that I'd break up, but I wouldn't hate her.
If my gf cheated on me and I'd find out myself, I'd get furious, and there's no way in hell I'd spend any more time with her. So consider that bridge burned.
So IMO, the first option is the best one. It might alleviate your feelings of guilt. Other than that, he deserves to know. Tell him exactly what happened, and why you did it. Maybe he'll decide to stay with you, maybe he won't. But at least you'll have done the right thing.
The choice is hers, but I think coming clean is a healthier way to deal with this. If she covers it up, she'll feel like crap throughout the entire relationship.
If she lies about it, then I'm none the wiser. So there'd be no breakup. But consciously lying in the face of someone you're supposed to care about... that's disgusting.
The choice is still hers, but if she wants to keep her self-respect, she has to take responsibility for her actions.
Her relationship will never be the same, sad as it is. But she should deal with it like a grown woman.
To do otherwise is to promote miscommunications and those can have disastrous consequences.
If the two of you committed to an agreement of faithfulness, then you broke your end of the deal. A relationship is almost like a contract, you exchange certain benefits for certain promises and you broke one of yours. Think, borrowing your Dad's car and hitting another car with it. You're going to have to tell him, part of your obligation was to not damage it.
So tell him. For all you know, maybe he is willing to forgive you and if not, well, you should have thought of your value for the relationship and what you were putting at stake before you did what you did. Often times in life, two seconds of forethought can save you a lifetime of consequences and it seems as if you are to learn that the hard way.
You can't continue a relationship built on dishonesty, the house is doomed to fall at some point.
Are you serious? The second most chosen answer is "Don't tell him"? Ugh. Yeah, just reverse the genders, and the maxed out choice would be "fling all his things out the house".
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You should tell him straight away. You don't deserve him. He leave, and straight away your legs are wide open. Stupid slapper.
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Would you be telling him so as to make you feel better? (again!)
Or would you be wanting to tell him to let him know the truth about you?
I presume that most will take the selfish answer. Tell him so you hope he'll forgive you.
I have a more valid concern.
If this is the way you are, when drinking? Or when partying? Or when without your Bf ON THE FIRST NIGHT! Then you need to realize that this is just you. It would be nice to tell your Bf, as he may be like that as well, and possibly admit to an intimate time whilst OS.
You could possibly expand your relationship even further. You just need to be brave enough to tell him the truth about you. IF he leaves you for it, then thankfully you found out he's not the same as you before you got married!
You felt 'guilty' for it. But did you enjoy it?
If yes, then you'll do it again.
Such a naughty girl.
Even if it means nothing, you should be open about it.
- if there is a mild to moderate chance he could find out from someone else, tell him first.
If it's very unlikely he will ever find out, say nothing.
if you want to keep this relationship, don't tell him.
Take it from me cheater, you should tell him the truth becuase sooner or later it WILL COME OUT. I promise you it till, karma oh how it comes around. It may not come out now, or even in a year or two or more, it will come out when you least expected, when you have settled down and possibly have children and he finds out, what then? He does not deserve this and you should tell him the truth. How would you feel if he had done this to you.
Personally I would be upset if my GF got smashed and kissed some guy, but TBH I would rather not know if it meant nothing to her.....If she had done a HJ, BJ etc I would dump her like a shot, even if it meant nothing. it's completely different. The other guy is going to get high 5's for that, thinking my GF is a slut and I am a cuckold. She would get a reputation. All the kiss would do is sexually frustrate the guy, whilst I get her in bed 7 nights a week! It's the same reason a (loyal/non slut) woman is brilliant if she shows it off when she is out with you....!
Some people as well, I would kiss but never allow them to do anything else with me....funny that.
And my comment made to you in the first response was correct because you have clearly stated that 'I would kiss' therefore of course you would not see this as cheating because you believe it not to be cheating because you would and most likely have done this yourself. You know, this could be the manifestation of you trying to not feel guilty about having possibly cheated on your gf since you dont consider snogging someone cheating.
And the joke's on you.
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