Hmmmm, what's this 'allow'? She may be married, but he doesn't own her. She should be 'allowed' to do whatever she wants within the boudaries of normal, healthy marriage. As long as she doesn't plan to go sluttin around with old loves or new strangers, what's the prob? If the relationship requires permission for things, there may be something wrong there.
Both answers are stupid, why would you need to involve trust in the subject of Facebook? You can do the exact same things on Facebook as you can on Youtube and nearly every other site on the internet, to say you can't trust them on Facebook is to say you don't trust them with a computer.
Have you ever even used facebook, if your the husband asking this your an asshole!, and maybe the whole reason her being on facebook makes you uncomfortable because you know you would be whoring around on it, but just cause you an asshole doenst mean she is, if you dont trust your wife chances are its because you know that YOU cant be trusted but i can tell y ou now if my husband ever told me i wasnt allowed to do something he wouldnt be my husband much longer
What sort of question is that?! The girl needs her privacy! Just cause your married doesn't mean you own her! If your the husband you need to sort out your trust issues. If you've ever been on Facebook then youll know it's not a singles bar. If you can't trust her to have a Facebook page you shouldnt have married her! Sort yourself out and learn to TRUST her!
She's allowed to have one without needing the approval of her husband. But if things would get out of hand aka her flirting with guys, always spending time on facebook and not spending time with me, I'd voice my feelings and I'd ask her to stop using it.
I don't know if you are from another religion or have certain beliefs but "allow" is not a word I associate with marriage really at all. I mean if my husband (hpothetical) ever tried to not "allow" me something, he wouldn't be my husband for much longer!
The thing about a marriage is not if something is or isn't allowed. A man and wife should discuss things that they dont agree with. A married couple shouldn't "be allowed to do whatever they want" but rather "do what is best for the couple as ONE". People are forgetting what marriage ia about completely! Marriage Is a unity between two people. TWO LIVES MAKING A MUTUAL BOND TO BECOME ONE. I'm not saying the OP is right but I'm not saying he is wrong either. THEY have to decide what THEY feel is right and find a compromise that will satisfy the both of them.
Me personally...I don't think FB makes for a very healthy relationship tool. I think it promotes airing your dirty laundry to friends, relatives and strangers when it is none of their business. Also they are only hearing one side to the story when everybody knows they all have 2 sides....
In my opinion FB is neither healthy nor unhealthy... that all depends on how the person uses it. If they use it as a gossip tool then yes that will be what it is... but that's how they chose to use it.
As for "allow" - yes there is compromise in a marriage. however with generic things such as what websites you go to, how you cut your hair, etc... it should not be an ultimatum from either party. The only time something like that should come into play is if it has caused issues.
if someone says "no you can't use it" with no reason other than their own personal dislikes of the site.... then it's time to evaluate if it's a legitimate request or if someone is just being controlling
Attitudes vary depending on your country, culture, and religion. Where I'm from, the word "allow" would raise eyebrows because wives have the same freedom and say as their husbands. But I know other attitudes exist.
She has her own life
o.O
"I don't want to be equal to men... I don't want to stoop to their level"
=)
Is the wife now his personal property to tell her where she can and cannot go in public and online?
If he's ordering her around like that he's got some serious control issues.
People are forgetting what marriage ia about completely! Marriage Is a unity between two people. TWO LIVES MAKING A MUTUAL BOND TO BECOME ONE. I'm not saying the OP is right but I'm not saying he is wrong either. THEY have to decide what THEY feel is right and find a compromise that will satisfy the both of them.
Me personally...I don't think FB makes for a very healthy relationship tool. I think it promotes airing your dirty laundry to friends, relatives and strangers when it is none of their business. Also they are only hearing one side to the story when everybody knows they all have 2 sides....
As for "allow" - yes there is compromise in a marriage. however with generic things such as what websites you go to, how you cut your hair, etc... it should not be an ultimatum from either party. The only time something like that should come into play is if it has caused issues.
if someone says "no you can't use it" with no reason other than their own personal dislikes of the site.... then it's time to evaluate if it's a legitimate request or if someone is just being controlling
personally i think the *real* issue is that too many people snoop other people's pages