What if the woman wants the abortion but the man doesn't?

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I think that they should have talked about this before having sex. Made sure that they agreed on what which party would do should this happen.

Talk it over with him and if he makes it clear that your relationship will end if you get the abortion then you're going to have to sort your priorities out. It's his wishes and the relationship over your own wishes. So what's more important to you?

You're the one that has to carry the child for nine months. If you are willing to do that but you don't want a child then hand it over to him. He can take sole custody and you can have visitation. If he's not willing to do that in order to keep his child then there's no use in going through with the pregnancy without some legal assurance that you won't end up single with a baby on your hip because he thought he wanted to be a Daddy but then he couldn't handle it or you. You can do all of this before the baby is born.

If you two have a very trusting relationship then you can marry him and have a family with him under the premise that the childcare is mainly his responsibility.

But if you just can't have a baby right now and he can't accept that then you guys may have to break it off. I'm all for men's rights but not when it comes to this. Carrying a baby for nine months and giving birth followed by the recovery process isn't a joke or something to be discussed hypothetically. A pregnancy changes your life and body regardless of where the baby goes afterwards and until men can know what it's like to carry a child then they don't get the right to force pregnancy on a woman.

I think it would be horribly demented for one person to make such a decision of which two people are responsible for.

I would say it is a 50/50 choice.

The poll answers just irritate me.

"It's her body, so it's 100% her choice!" Is something people agree with 9No doubt mostly women)

But "It's her body, so it's 100% her responsibilty" is something that should never be said. Pfft.

If women get full choice of having a child because it's "her body", then she should have full responsibility of it due to it being "her body".

But watch, look at the thumbs downs I get, yet watch nobody come with any good reasons to say I'm wrong.

Maybe its not yours. Let her have the abortion then leave her.

She should have the kid, let the man have custody over it, and she should pay child support for the kid.

Wow. This is a tough one. I sincerely hope they talk this over a long while and consider all options to reach a satisfied conclusion but if they can't, I do believe ultimately it is the woman's choice. It would most likely lead to divorce though.

It's the woman's choice. It's her body. If the relationship ends, she'll be the only who will have to care for the child. If the man can't support her decision, perhaps he is in a relationship with the wrong person.

Well, the cold hard reality of it is that it really doesn't matter what the man wants most of the time.

This actually happened to me - I was 28 & my g/f was 18. I wanted her to have the kid, but she felt not ready & wanted an abortion. Despite my preference, I ultimately supported her in hers. So, she had the abortion with my financial and emotional support (pre-Roe v. Wade). My life (and hers, of course) would have been incalculably different, had it gone the other way. For one thing, I wouldn't have had the 2 great kids that I have now, with a different woman.

Just talk about it and maybe try to convince her if u truly feel like this baby would make you happy. Show her you want to be a dad that will take care for this baby while she continues to work towards her career.. And ask her to marry you! If u really love her and feel like you want this baby.. Make that big step and propose. Good luck bro!