It's sad there's not more people like you out there. My family did the same thing to my aunt when she came out, and I never really understood it either. Then when I started questioning my own sexuality I tried to figure out why being gay was "bad" but couldn't find anything logical to stand on.
I kind of agree that it's a way of fitting in for a lot of people. Finding a group of guys making gay jokes and stand up for the gay guy. In under 5 seconds they'll be calling you a queer because they know it's wrong and you just made them uncomfortable.
Now as for the more personal homophobia, just about everybody has a different trigger for it. It's religion for some, insecurity for others, and a subconcious fear of what they don't understand for other people.
I kind of agree that it's a way of fitting in for a lot of people. Finding a group of guys making gay jokes and stand up for the gay guy. In under 5 seconds they'll be calling you a queer because they know it's wrong and you just made them uncomfortable.
Now as for the more personal homophobia, just about everybody has a different trigger for it. It's religion for some, insecurity for others, and a subconcious fear of what they don't understand for other people.