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inappropriate feelings for 26 yrold stepdaughter
For over a year I have had feelings for my wife's 26 year old daughter--my stepdaughter. My wife is 24 years older than me, we've been married 10 years, and I am only 4 years older than her daughter.She lives out of state, but whenever she visits, I feel my marriage being threatened, because I give her all the attention and basically ignore my wife most of the time. I feel really badly about this but these feelings are impossible to ignore. I believe that my stepdaughter may harbor some feelings for me but if so I'm sure she will never express them out of respect for both me and her mother. Right now I just consider her my buddy or good friend, or something of that nature and I know she considers me her good friend too, but you see, I can't shake the urge to run away with the girl and forsake my entire life with my wife. I know it will never happen in my wildest dreams.
My wife is aware of my feelings and guardedly accepting of them (what can she do otherwise?). She doesn't think it's sick or anything--she said herself it's logical, but I know it must hurt her and cause friction between the 3 of us.
Another complication--my stepdaughter just broke up with her boyfriend and may be moving back in with us for a few months. I think I'm in trouble.
So, uh, how normal do you think this sounds??
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Unlike the gentleman above, my feelings for my stepdaughter are not an emotional love. I love her as a person and a friend, have strong carnal feelings for her for she is incredibly beautiful, much like her mother but do not desire to run away with her.
I am empathetic with your situation. The truth is, I love my wife more than life itself, and her other two kids are, as far as I'm concerned my own. But a mans mind sometimes wanders where is shouldn't and all the praying and meditation in the world can't stop the thoughts all the time.
It doesn't help that my wife will never be able to give birth to my child because her tubes are tied. I never dream of running away with my stepdaughter. I'd hate that. I dream mostly of having relations with her, her giving birth to my child and the three of us living in the same home.
If you do still love your wife, then your answer is right there. The grass is always greener on the other side, after all; you may want the daughter, but you *love* the wife, so what more is there to say?
Accept that it's natural for you and your wife, at some point, to have feelings for other people. Then realise that doesn't mean either of you should, or must, act on those feelings. And then move on with your life, because nothing good would come of it.
If you don't love her, then you're pretty much doomed no matter how things go; stick with someone you don't love, or go for her daughter who may not love you in return and ruin her life. There is no way, under that circumstance, that this is going to end well.
You may find happiness with the daughter, but things will never be perfect because your ex-wife, who could one day wind up your *mother-in-law*, will always be in the picture. It's never going to be a happy life regardless.
Oh, and one last bit of advice; if the stepdaughter just broke up with the boyfriend, then she's probably not in the correct emotional state to know if she likes you. Even if you were to go there, this definately is not the time.
Also, do something romantic with your wife. Take her out to a romantic dinner and just have a great time with her, make it all about your marriage, get the romance back.
That's my advice. Even if the stepdaughter does end up living with you you should still do something with your wife. I personally don't think you should get a divorce until all other options have been exhausted. By all means don't stay in a loveless, unhappy marriage, but divorce is a last last LAST resort. And by all means DON'T run away with the daughter.