GGrrr I think I would dump him. It sounds like all he wants to use you for his to dump his load. He sounds immature and I know if he was my BF I sure wouldn't want him to impregnate me becuase he is the kind of guy that is irresponsible.

Let me put it to you lke this also if he wants to have sex with you and you want a kid with him why don't you get married? Or, is he to irresponsible for that!

Well, I am on birth control, thought I should mention that and ive asked him before if I ended up having a kid would he take care of it and of course he says yes, but its just that he says he doesnt want a child at all if possible, but then he just tells me during sex he wants to make me pregnant and it just makes me sad afterwards when he says he doesnt mean it. It turns him on during sex, the thought of impregnantion but it sounds like he doesnt want the responsiblity for it as well. Maybe he just lkes it because I do? im not sure

Oh, and maybe I should mention that he his german too and im american (living in germany) and they dont get married like us americans do after a few years and have kids. (im not making this up lol) but still it means a lot to me

I have to say it agian...I think he is using you for his personal pleasure and my guess is this guy doesn't really care what you think!
Want you to try something and don't tell me you already have...

Next time you 2 have sex look up at him and see if he can keep eye to eye contact with you. especially when it comes his time. I have learned that if a guy can't keep I contact he is hiding something! Something like maybe he is thinking of someone else???

I got a friend thats a stripper..k? Her and I did a little experiment with her "BF" she told me he never looked at her when they had sex. I told her to try and make him even when she was on top...he wouldn't. So she finally point blank asked him and come to find out he was tinking of one of her coworkers while doin her...ain't that F***ed up!

why dont you just make her out to be a slut

Um... it sound like you are just imagining getting pregnant to get off yourself... you don't seem to be paying any attention to the child that would result.
I think you and him are both doing the same thing- using the idea for sexual stimulation.
No one is being taken advantage of- lol.

might sound uncouth but he just wants to cum inside you without a condom for some reason its alot more satisfying that way. also from a guys perspective its quite freaky some one staring trying to pyscho analyse youre body language when youre getting your grove on, unless therye pulling fuck me faces might make the dude self-concious

That guys my hero, he is a liar and still getting pussy.

guys will say anything to get laid or to make a chick hot.

An honest guy!!!
I never thought I would hear a guy say that. But you are right!

He just doesnt want a child yet thats all it is. there is no reason to dump him, He is problably not emotionally ready to have a child in the house. Thats all just wait a few more months get him to read up on some stuff and then he might want a child

Guys want to dump girls want to feel it.

Sounds like babies haven babies.

Why the fuck would say she is trying to make her out to be slut. She is trying to help her...get a grip.

Actually, we're both over 30 and we both have careers and a life. I have talked to my bf since then and he says he wants to haev a kid its just that he doesnt know how to be a father and he never really wanted a kid before me so it will take him sometime to get use to the idea. we're both responsible adults, not "babies having babies" as you say(which is also a really fast judgement on your part) but people who are undecsive if they want kids or not. To me, thats better than getting off of birth control and seeing what happens. Yeah sure a guy will do anything to get a girl hot but we've been living with each other for 5 years and never had problems..theres no need for him to "get me hot". Im not some chick he picked up from a bar...In fact, he has never really provoked me into having sex with him so its hardly fair i think to say hes just using me
Kristina, sorry your friend and yourself maybe have had bad experiences with men but all men are not dogs. I think its mostly my man wanting to make me happy without putting his life in a path he doesnt want it to be

Try to get pregnet then he is stuck with a baby

how old are you?? my perspective is.... dont have a baby because he will ditch, and you will be stuck with it. Unless he really wants it. And if what you think of a baby is pushing a stroller, dressing it, feeding it, and you getting a lot of attention.....wake up.....it's not like that. I have lived with teenage single moms.... they wished they never have.

i think you think in 18 or so, but I am 30. I know very well how it is to raise child seeing my friends i grew up with on their 2nd or 3rd child and i know they can be sometimes more trouble than their worth, but I still want one with my boyfriend. And you cant say he will ditch me because youve never met him. he would never ditch me, hes even said if we had a child he would take care of it. its just that he doesnt want a child.

dont get angry at foreplay. He found your fantasy and is playin on it

Your nasty

-crank dat

it means u want to work at KFC

MUAHHAHAHAHAHA

peace jah bless

He clearly doesn't want a baby now... but he might in the future. Ask him if he ever wants to have children and he should give you the answer that will make or brake your relationship.

you sound young... if he doesnt want a baby respect this....i mean not all are planned.. but dont be a kniving skank.... but babies arent what they seem when you are young...

a girl i went to school with wanted a baby... so bad.. she had a baby at 14.... she wants to kill herself now..........

babies aren't cute and fun like a doll... they suck, smell, scream, and ruin your life....

when you turn 21... you cant go out, because you cant find a baby sitter..... and when your kid is sick but you cant get off of your shift at mcdonalds.... what will you do, because there is no way to go to college... to find a good job.

also simple things like taking out the trash and getting a jug of milk are near impossible...

you have to dress it, pack it's bag, strap it in, unstrap it, strap it in, unstrap it, strap it, deal with it screaming in the store, or shitting, put it in its car seat, unstrap it, undress it...unpack........

i get called to baby sit becuse my friend wants to run to the store to get a few things....


now that seems like fun huh?

you should read above before you post, Ive already graduated from college...in 96. My boyfriend and I both have steady jobs and we live together. I know what it is like to have a kid, because ive been around plently of friends with toddlers. But ive changed my mind about having kids, for now anyways. My boyfriend and I have adopted a sheltie puppy and its a good start for us in taking care of something thats dependent on us. Ive never been off of birth control and I would never trick my boyfriend to get a child- but we're planning to have one someday. Thank you for your concern, but i dont like it when people assume im young, plenty of women my age want kids, and plenty of women my age have kids right now.

sorry... just most of the posts like this are from 12 year olds....2/3s of the site are 12 yr olds.... and i assumed your post was....sry.... glad youve worked it out.