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I was deployed to Iraq about a year ago. I recently retunred. Now that I am home, my wife is acting very odd. While I was gone, she hired a handyman to help her around the house. Never giving his age etc. We were in a hardware store and she was talking to him and we finally met. I know my wife has the hots for him, he's a buff, 20 something with long blonde hair. Yeah he prob. tapped that ass a time or two. In addition, she was married before me and had a child, although she doesn't know for 100% fact who the father is, some drunk story passing out and not being able to recall much, so she's narrowed it down to 3, I am guessing. But her ex sent a letter to her mom's house wanting to get his name off the birth cert. She agreed, she wanted to do dna to find out if he was the father. He wanted something and so did she. However, out of no where, she send the letter giving her permission to take his name off the birthcert. w/o doing the dna testing. I found out last week, she tracked him down and has his number, she told me. In addition, I find out that she is contacting old friends via a website, which she never mentioned to me. I am ok, I have no problems with that, what ever makes her happy has always been my thought. Now I find out that she was emailing a long time friend of mine while I was gone. Telling him things like "my computer is broken in my bedroom" wtf? of course he told me, but she doesn't know I know. It could be honest, but the fact that she never told me about it makes me very suspicious. Been home for a few months now, kids are at school all day long, I'll walk around naked.. she doesn't even pay attention, she goes around and does her own thing, and when I prompt her about sex or oral anything else, she simply get's upset.. Wtf?
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It might not seem like the smartest move, but you tryed talking to her about this? if she trows a fit or gets angry then atleast you have the asurance that your better off without her.




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You married a woman with a lot of issues going on so fault yourself. Why go for a girl with all that baggage when there are plenty of single girls with no kids out there. That was your first mistake.

It's tough to keep a relationship going when one person is deployed for so long and the other person grows restless. The divorce/separations rate for military personnel is well above the average.

I suggest you both go for marital counseling and see if you can work on your relationship for the sake of your children. Try to make the best of your situation. And whether or not the handyman "tapped that ass a time or two" is history.

Good luck.
This seems like a touchy subject, but just to give my opinion about what I would do, I would NOT stand stuff like that. I would be out of there at no time.
You gotta confront her, talk honesty, tell her your honest thoughts, she will probably reveal stuff to you then...

All I know is silence wont do you any good man.
however bad it gets at home its better than fighting in Georgies war.
Listen dude I understand your situation and I hate that you are a military guy and have to go thru this. If you have all these things to make you think shes cheating she probly is, being away from one another for a large block of time will bring you closer together. In your case it sounds like its seperated you like she is use to her life with out you there, more or less a single life. You look like you have a long dark road ahead of you but dont stand for this crap if something wrong address it and get to the bottom of it. I know you can get marriage counseling thru the military I suggest that has a last ditch stand to save your marriage. GOODLUCK
shes cheatin or maybe something is wrong or shes upset
what do you think you went 'raq for? pwn some n00bs. and its really awesome when you catch em in teh act. then like, execute em. with your m4 or m16 or whatever they gave you. or if you had to return it, just use one of those ak's you got off a 'raqi corpse. if you dont have one of those, dizzam dude
umm cheating is one thing my friend. your girl is having an affair tell tale signs

1> she dont wanna give it 2 you
2> she's being secretive
3>she tried to fuck ya friend
4> she fucked the ''handyman''(who probably didnt fix nuthn at all

but yea she's having an affair probbly with the handy man or the guy from down the street
Sisophous's if it does work out u got infinite baggage on her for Life "Honey take out the trash" "Hang on dear I'm talking to the handyman" "..........shit"
I'd be suspicious as hell too dude, she's probably cheating on you, all that stuff you said she's doing sure as hell makes it look that way. No offense but, she sounds like a deceitful lying slut that isn't even worthy of drinking your piss. You ought to find out for sure if she is cheating, then if she is, combat boot her ass to the curb asap.
ITs cool man do you love her? Dont drive yourself crazy she may have been faithful to you.Just forget all that crap put it outta your mind,And try to salvage your life together,that poison is going to ruin your family,forget the past and make a better tomorrow together.forget all that crap your here with her now,show her you love her or you may destroy your family for nothing,even if she was unfaithful with you 1/2 a world away.be a smart man bury that shit.forgive her and love her,never mention it and let it go just let it all go you can do it.just start over an love your family .good fortune and thank you so vary much you have my respect.
Im a girl, and my initial thoughts after reading your story were that she definitely cheated on you. Im sorry, that is just my opinion. But there is no reason for her not to want you, unless she has been getting it somewhere else. But first things first, try talking to her. Be gentle ask if there is anything on her mind or anything you can do for her. Let her feel that you want to help, if you love her. If she doesnt respond to this i think its safe to say she cheated and maybe doesnt know how to break things off with you. Good luck. Hope things work out for the best.
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