Can I get her number?

Whew, the more I try to put myself in your situation, the more I feel how shitty your situation is.
Let me say that I've been through something similar, but now I don't have any contact with that girl so I don't give a fuck.

I know this may be hard, but the more you are thinking of it alone, the harder it gets, so i suggest You to talk about it to your wife. But not in tone of some sort complain, just tell her your feelings, get it off your back. She should be oyur best friend so she is the perfect person to talk to. You both need to hold your temper during this, because it's - as you may notice - a delicate matter.
I can imagine you will hear something like "that's past, get over it!", but try "drill" the subject. The more you will talk about it to her, the more you will get used to this, and soon bore with the tought of it.
Hope that helps ;)

And you are mad because you caught her or that she did him better than she does you? She propbably gave a lot of blowjobs that you never knew about and you even didn't care about the one when you caught her (what did you do just stand and watch?). "Hey buddy, she never sucks my cock like that! I'll give her a good talking to later!"
If she can really give good blowjobs than yo uhave to find a way to make her want that again. Maybe have her give you one someplace that you might get caught.

I know exactly what you mean.it wasnt cheating but old boyfriends that my wife had that I got in my head and this was several years also after we had been married.for some reason I got these little teenage fumblings of hers that we all do in my head and nearly went crazy thinking about her and her few bfs before me.it took alot of talking and just plain old time to get my mind right again.hang in there it will pass and youll be stronger for it.

Women are whores, they will ruin your entire life then move on to another guy. I suggest go get some classic country alubums and a bottle of jack daniels and just dwell on it until it eventually kills you.

Not all woman are whores... Butthere are some slutty woman out there. Thing I don't se is what ths guys problem is. First it says he was dating the girl then it is his live in then his wife.

His story sounds iffy at best to me!

Ever thought about marriage counceling?

The guy gets a BJ and then bangs the fuck out of her and wants us to feel sorry for him. Whats wrong with this picture?

I don't know a ton about marriage, but I have heard it said (on both sides of the line from both sexes) that married men and women tend to slow down and not be as sexually creative or driven after marriage. I also heard that a lot of men AND women stop giving oral to their spouse fairly early on in the marriage. This is by no means a golden rule, but I've heard many a complaint about it. Try to spice up your sex life by giving her oral. Suggest that you have a night in which you relive high sexual drive and first give her head and make it great. She'll be more inclined to return the favor then.