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First of all I’m a 19 year old guy going out with a 17 year old girl for 8 months and I’m just after a little advice. We both study and have part-time jobs. I really love and care for her and I remind myself that when times are down.

Lately things haven’t been the best, I’ve had things on my mind but she’s hard to talk to and will often turn the conversation about herself or get easily offended. I know some of this may seem trivial and even bias or non important but here goes.

We go out to parties and she will often run off with her friends, leaving me with people I don’t know well but I can sort of get along with, and then will come back when she sees other people with their boyfriends. She will mention things like, a random guy she met that sat down next to was eating her food or talk about going out to parties with them, I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like its crossing the line?

I feel like I do all the right things, I invite her to dinner, go to the movies, city, parks, just spending time with her when I can. I will pick her up from study on her late nights; ask her how she’s feeling, share my ideas with her. I make mistakes and might say the wrong thing but I do try and make up for them.

If we aren’t going out we spend most of our time at her house, but it feels so restrictive. Like keeping doors open, watching where our hands are, being checked up on. Her parents love me and always tell her to invite me over for dinner, lunches and special occasions. Her family are great, but when we’re at her house I feel ditched, a lot of the time she will just walk into another room leaving me by myself. I’m always welcome to stay but I feel weird about being in another room it’s like we have no connection.

She is very open about sex, talks to her friends about it and finds it interesting. We do everything but have sex when we go to my house once a fortnight. If we ever talk about sex and she asks, I will tell her how I feel but she considers this to be me putting pressure on her and says we will wait longer now, I’ve never forced her to do anything she doesn’t want to. We are both virgins, I’ve met many girls and had quite a few non sexual flings, but wanted to wait till I felt a relationship connection before doing anything sexual.

In the last 2 years my family and I escaped a violent situation which resulted in my parents getting a divorce. I feel like I just need the love and support of my girlfriend. Am I being paranoid or am I at fault? What should I do?