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just wondering...anyone else with this problem?

Ok so I'm 20, I've had the same boyfriend for 5 years and we haven't had sex yet (both of us are virgins still). I mainly haven't wanted to yet because I'm PARANOID about getting pregnant (and I'd rather not go on the pill), but I'm also a little afraid that it's going to hurt. I have a septate hymen, which is one that looks normal but also has a "bridge" of tissue that goes across the opening. It hurts to even try to put in a tampon, and I've never been able to masturbate (for some reason it just doesn't work). So I'm a little worried that it's 1)going to hurt like hell, and 2) not going to work (i.e. he won't be able to get his penis inside or it just won't feel good like it's supposed to). I know it's normal for it to hurt a little, but does anyone else have any experience with this (septate hymen/first time?) Thanks!
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sisophous (3738)
2007-06-04 01:31:05
Yes, I can relate to your story based on my experiences. The female body has 4 folds of vaginal tissue that need to all be broken to fully enjoy sex. Most get broken prior to engaging in sex and there is no pain when having sex. If you speak to a gynecologist about this problem he/she will most likely tell you to use a lot of lubricant when you have sex and to just go about having sex slowly, patiently, simple as that, and to do little more.

I'm guessing you likely have already spoken to a gynecologist about this issue, and if so, I urge you to nevertheless speak to ANOTHER doctor and ask for an opinion on this same issue. Doctors are not all alike, there is a huge diffence in the treatment/advice one receives from doctor to doctor.

One last point I would like to make. Do not feel any embarrassment or shame in speaking to a gynecologist and asking literally any question. They are professionals, trained to deal with sensitive issues and to diagnose and treat them. They have dealt with it all, and are not easy to surprise or shock. Your topic is their specialty so approach it as an ordinary issue that they deal with and do not be afraid to bring up any matter.

THIS IS THEIR LINE OF WORK!!!!

Please post back what happens and the result of your doctor visit should you go. I strongly suggest you see a gynecologist if you have not already done so.
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galeni (2821)
2007-06-04 04:11:17
plus:
relax dont try to have sex being so up tight with absoulutely every detail, you boyfriend probably dont want to hear about your septate hymen and the bridge bla bla bla while he is trying to find where to put his dick.
unless his dick is made out of paper it will go inside no matter what. you two can go little by little, the first time maybe you two are not gonna have an orgasm since it will probably hurt a little, motsly to you. but is only the first times then you will be able to enjoy every second of it. he might have some pain too but maybe not such a big deal as for you.
birth control pills are NOT gonna kill you while your mom can kill you because of getting pregnant. at least use a damn condom from moment one, as soon as his pants drop, get the condom on.
enjoy sex, get as much information as possible but do not vomit all the information while trying to do it.
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slackjawedyokel (6678)
2007-06-04 07:15:29
im not getting why your hymen is interferring with your clit and masturbation.
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mtdew (8690)
2007-06-04 13:38:17
@: slackjawedyokel
@galeni

I'm not retarded. I don't tell him all this stuff, and even if I did, he's more of a man than you are and therefore would care more about hearing it than you think he would. Also, I would never even let him near me like that if he DIDN'T have a condom on. And I can also tell you that I would kill myself if I got pregnant before my mom ever would. Not that she wants me pregnant right now, but I especially don't..because unlike a lot of you I am actually responsible.
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mtdew (8690)
2007-06-04 13:39:42
@ slackjawedyokel

I never said that my hymen got in the way. I simply said that I just can't get it to work. Dumbass.
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CrazyMoFo (1953)
2007-06-04 17:25:55
I think u should just grab a pillow and bite while he pounds u out.
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galeni (2821)
2007-06-05 05:42:49
@: mtdew
you know, now i see why he has not fucked you, is not your damn himen is not that u are affraid of pain or anything else. is that you are a damn controlling mother fucker bitch. and yes you are fucking retarded because it just requires a little of logic to figure out what u have to do. but no you had to post the question to know what to do, and i never said that he dont want to hear about it, i said that while having sex, to hear such a thing is defintely not gonna work.
die as a fucking virgin
up yours! ohh wait is definitely up your ass cause up your cunt is impossible, you titanium himen woman
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comalies (6298)
2007-06-07 18:44:26
my suggestion is to use birth control, get over your fear of pain..its not gonna kill you..and just enjoy it.
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WHITEGUYROBINSON (8832)
2007-06-12 01:33:32
have the tissue surgically removed, go on the pill like ever other woman in america, and use a rubber.
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JealousMuch (11378)
2007-10-27 14:53:55
5 years!! wow!! yous should just go for it. take things slow your both vigins so yous can take it slow together. once uv done it your gonna wish you started a whole lot earlier.

people make sex seem like such a big deal.
it makes you happy its always a good time wers the harm in that . use protection dont sleep around and have fun.

unless of course its agaisnt your realign then id have respect for you still. if your just scared! serously just give it a go .
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