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Online Realationships
I've had a few, but they always trun out bad. All of them included me and a guy 3-5 years older than me, sometimes I didn't know. I always want realationships because they occupy me. But when others ask me, I always say things like, "How old are you?" they usually reply around 16 and I say, "Right" and walk away. But a few times I've said okay.

#1 a guy I met on runescape and I always RPed husband/wife neither of us knew ages, YAY! But then one day I logged on and he called me appauling names like a b*tch.

#2 a guy I met somewhere else one time was 16, he knew I was 12 and yet insisted we date. I called him my "b*tch" and we always hung out at my virtual tea shop. 1 problem, his brother and his brother's friend always said things like, "*f**k Nisch", "*shoves c*ck in Nisch's mouth*" It made me uncomfortable. I always ignored it, but my "b*tch" always chewed them out. then he asked for my MSN and we talked. Once. I haven't talked to him since. We even got virtually married. i now feel uncomfortable talking about it.

Am I normal to want an online realationship but then shoot it down when it's offered?
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Comments (49)
wow. i'm virtually married too-chrisUFC

its a major commitment lol
lol, I just want someone. And these stupid realationships always happen at bad times, hence when I like a guy in RL that likes me back and I usually don't know if these realationships are for treal.
yea why don't you just ask him if it is
12? a little young to be dating online people you dont know I think.
Yes this is so major, did you get the wedding band in the mail yet?
Hahha....
yes i loved it!!

you??
The boy always says age first but I'm always uncomfortable. I just want a friend online that ALWAYS wants to hang w/ me. Besides, the wedding I had was so fun and everyone who's ever really had a wedding that knew me said it was fun online. I never have even gone to honeymoons. I know the above sounds like I'm cybering, but i'm not, it makes me sick.
Not that easy, that's like questioning your liking twards him. If you ask and DO like him, he might think you don't. *shrug*
this is scary, you got married online? Not right, that is strange. I understand your young and just want people to talk to and thats great but dont be looking for love at the age of 12 online there are to many freaks out there that are out to have sex with you and stuff. Wait a little while and if you still want this online thing to happen then do it but be careful.
Yes, I knew you would. When are you coming over for the buttplug?
I know what you mean. At these times, I feel like I'm not me. Inside I feel like I shouldn't but I can't get it out. Yae, strange. I know.
mmm now...=)
*sticks finger down throat*
:3
GTG, keep commenting and looking out for more tales of my super miserable life.
just get out and be with your real friends and forget the internet.
i agree
I (my character) got married online once while playing a RPG. I realize that wasn't real, but it was an intersting and odd experience. I think internet relationships are better, and often safer, and don't require as much effort. They allow you to get out of your own head at times as well. It's all good, as long as you don't get too obsessive over it.
@: Fred
Do you have internet kids from you marriage?
Na, we didn't, but some do (have other people as characters that play the role of their children).
@: Fred
that sounds very sick.
How so? It was just a RPG. Keep in mind that this was back when I was a teenager as well. I don't see a point to that stuff anymore, now that I've matured, but it was fun at the time.
Excuse me people who think I don't have a life, but I do. I have five pen pals and I'm in the "in" crowd at school. Life at my house isn't the greatest though. I also don't get out much durinbg the summer, considering I live ATLEAST 30 minutes from any of my friends and my parents are always at work. I do this to occupy me.
-.- In fact I CAN handle a realationship and usually have to break up with the guy myself. This subject is different than clique/friend issues. It's about my feelings twards this practice. It makes me uncomfortable and I still do it. I'm asking if that's normal, not if I have a disese that glues me to the computer and keeps me from life. -.-
@: Fred
ok I understand and atleast you arnt embarrassed to admit it.
#1 1 year, 4 months
#2 I never said OVER an rl realationship, you obviously can't read
#3 I have NO siblings
#4 We just moved here so everythings packed
#5 Get off my back, you don't know me
#6 Call me what you want, all my friends and NOT friends would disagree
#7 I could handle no internet
#8 Then why are you on?
#9 None of my friends are home to talk to on the phone
#10 I get sick easily
#11 I could go on....
#12 I just joined and you're already harassing me, go harrass those 11 year-olds who are wanting sex, 9 year-olds who masterbate, GO BUG THEM! I did nothing wrong.
PS I was internet married once, the com corrupted in the middle and someone spammed the chat room-so technically, I've never REALLY been internet married.
That's all your own opinion. Personally, I think online relationships are better. People are more open about themselves, and have less of a defensive front.
@: Fred
*nod*
But Online Realationships are still second to real and don't take over my life, but I have to admit that it's easier cause you can tell stuff instead of being worried about it being told and you can dump/block that person anytime! ^.^
Everybody lies, whether it be on the Internet or off. I've been on the Internet long enough to know who is being real and who isn't. The Internet to me, is like real life to most of you people. I know it inside out.
Please clarify, how have I fooled myself?
listen, freds got a point. People hide shit from each other in real life so thats not much different then the internet. You dont realize plenty of people have got married after meeting on the net. If someone here is looking for someone and they find someone they like then more power to them. I dont really agree its the right choice but its not worse then in real life. Vikings from Iceland LoL Indians from australia LOL LMAO LMAO LOL
Na, I haven't fooled myself into anything. People on the Internet are real people, not just words on a screen like so many people believe. If you actually take the time to get to know somebody on the Internet, you will get to understand their personality just as well, or better than, people offline. If you talk to someone long enough on here, you should be able to determine whether they're just full of bullshit or not either. It just takes time, like any other relationship, so it shouldn't be rushed into.
I handle critisism alot better than you.

Besides, 1 year and 4 months IN REAL LIFE. I had to dump him because he moved and he's in Norway.

Now stop bossing me around and calling me little girl. Atleast I'm honest and not a poser. Stop acting like you're so wise and know everything. You don't. Now please don't reply or I will report abuse.
He was young too, its not a real marriage, you talk so highler of people who are different then you so why do you talk down on people like fred? Who gives a shit get a life.
I just dont like what a hipocrite you are. You claim to love everyone but when people like Fred are honest and tell something they did you jump their bones and degrade them for it. You really know how to hurt peoples feelins on here and make them feel like shit.
You are contradicting your self
First off, there's nothing wrong with 'kids' playing 'family'. I remember when I was pretty young, there was this girl next door to me that was the near same age as me, and we both had the biggest crush on each other, so we used to play family quite often. We pretended that we were married, and her little brother and sister pretended to be our kids. You never did anything like that when you were younger, and less logical? C'mon now. I think most kids did stuff like that. Do you think these kids are disrespecting marriage by doing this, even though it isn't real?

As for internet love, I don't see a problem with it. It's not for me, but I wouldn't look down on anybody who only has an internet love life. I certainly don't think the majority of them have been fooled by anything. Most of my closest friends are online. They're far more real to me than any of my friends offline.
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...I'm just saying that people who base their love life soley on internet relationships obviously are lacking something.

Especiall people who get "internet married".....sorry, but marriage is not something to be taken that lightly....not even fake marriages.

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I never said I hated fred for his choices, just that my opinion is that he is being fooled.

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That doesn't sound much like an opinion to me. You have stated it like it's all factual. Maybe you should consider revising your wording a little, to denote that you are expressing opinion and not fact.
You cannot hate on people with how you speak about loving all humans in our arguments. You cannot support races and queers but bash on him for his online life. You cant do that.
Feels nice to have someone talk shit to you about stuff you claim isnt true. Doesnt it?

Were all going to hell anyways so it dosent matter anymore. Ive thought about fucking my friends girlfriends before so I'm really going to hell.
So you're officially changing your 'opinion' from "marriage is too good for make-believe" to "kids shouldn't do it on the internet because there are 60 year-old pedos on the internet"? Realistically, the odds of finding a 60 year-old pedo among the massive amounts of teens on the net, well, the odds aren't good. Seriously, I've been on the internet a long time, and haven't witnessed anything of the sort. The media just tries to make people paranoid. Most people on the internet are as real as you or me, and it's pretty easy to determine if somebody is being fake.

So it's my fault that you don't add "I think" or "It is my opinion that" to the beginning of your sentences, instead of making them seem factual? I always try to make it clear whether I'm stating fact or opinion, since it often makes the reader less defensive. I think it is a good practice that more people should follow, since it would cause far less misunderstandings among people.
*points at VERY upper left hand corner*
We're here to help each other. PLAY NICE.

Looks kinda like a rule.

Also, much agreed on the factual jesture here.

*flips through comments*
If I'm not the only one to do it, maybe you're doing something wrong, eh?
Yeah, the rules really aren't enforced here.
I don't do the online thing, I suggest no one else do it either. I got raped.
@: Potato
nice
@: Fred
Should be, either way.
Not so Chris, I started cybering around 11, awkwardly, out of rebellion! I quit long time ago though...

BORING.
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