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Okay, hear me out! The first five years of my life, my mom and dad were together. After my brother was born, he was in and out of our lives. They divorced
when I was ten and she rebounded, in denial all the way. Shortly after that, I was sent away to school for seven years where I only saw family during the
summer, holidays and weekends. Yes, I felt angry, bitter and abandon and realize where my parents were ignorant and negligent. I didn’t then and still
don't understand the logic behind my mother. She and my biological father would fight over money, my money and I was made to choose sides and felt a lot
of guilt. Needless to say, I didn't see much of my dad, as I was away and she had that new guy in her life. Efforts were seldom made by both mother and
father. She heard of his history and took him in still, accused him of inappropriate behavior and/or thought regarding me. I thought, "If you don't trust
this new guy, why put your children in danger?" He never did anything to me, accept saw me naked twice, once when I opened the bathroom door to yell back
at mother. I didn’t know he was there and the second time, he checked on me because I was so drunk and had passed out nude. I don’t know if he knew I was
or not because the last time he saw me was when I was dressed, but he claims he was just concerned. I drank like a whole 5th. She seemed to enjoy the fights,
mainly over me and over money. She’d even provoke him, almost on purpose. I just felt caught in a cross fire all the time. What was it about me? Was she
jealous? I never felt comfortable around her new guy, so we seldom spoke the whole time he was in my life. Is it normal a child/teen doesn’t want to talk
to or feel comfortable with a step-figure? In general, is it normal for a mother to choose a man over her own kids, favor his kids over hers and ignore
or deny red flags? I'd like to say, she has been hurt so bad and she is just ignorant, but would I be in denial then? Yes, my dad has a role as does her
new guy, but I understand more of my biological dad and his ordeal. It isn't right to abandon family over your own ups and downs (alcohol, money), but
that is more typical than my mothers psychology. I really hope to hear a tactful respectful consensus soon. Also, hope I explained in enough detail for
all to keep up!

NOTE: She was sometimes apathetic and seemed to value men and/or their children over her own. She knew of his history and still let him in our lives. She claimed she didn't trust him, especially alone with me. It doesn't make sense to me. Does anyone else have a similar story or parents who are apathetic and illogical? How common is this?