If you like her that much ask her out it should be OK just dont get them mixed up in the dark

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Great Advice Stargirl. I don't understand why people are so mean to you.

dude... dont go there if u look at them close enough i bet u they look alike... even in a small way when u 2 are having sex... ULL SEE YOUR MATE!

Alright if you really feel this way about her go for it, dont wait,(believe me im having this problem about this girl,but already got a dude,back to the subject at hand if you and her brother are real friends hell let it slide

Talk to the brother before you make any moves on the sister.

No, you should NOT ask for his permission; he doesnt really get a say. However, you should make certain to mention that you came to him FIRST, before approaching her. You'll earn his respect - whether he's mad at your or not, he'll still respect you more.

Also, no one likes to be the "last to know" and that will make it clear that this is not a confession about something that's already happened, but a statement of your intentions.

Lastly, without actually saying it, you imply that you're going to do this no matter what he wants, but that you still cared enough about his feelings/friendship to talk to him first. That way, you both save face, and the girl doesnt end up feeling like property later on.

Just be honest and deal with him straight. "There's something I've been wanting to tell you. I like . I've started to really have feelings for her. I wanted to talk to you first because you're friendship means alot to me and I don't want things to change between us. I'm not trying to put you in the middle, but I just wanted you to know that sometime soon, I plan to ask her out."

Lastly, when you talk to him, make sure your just about ready to talk to her too. Don't make him hold your secret for a long time. That's just going to create more awkwardness.

On the other hand, do NOT schedule these conversations back to back! Give him at least a day or two to let it settle. Then it won't feel to him like it was an empty gesture, but that you genuinely wished to give him some time to absorb it before you plowed ahead.

And whatever you do, do not break communication with him afterwards no matter how standoffish he gets. He might be cool to you for awhile, and you might experience a couple unreturned phone calls or emails, but this is NOT a time to match his stubborness.

If he does get chilly toward you, stay WARM toward him - even (and especially) if things go well with his sister. I suggest that after a couple dates with her, you make sure to schedule some time ALONE with him, doing whatever you normally do when you hang - the more normal the better. It will show him that things really don't need to change much between you and that he isnt being "traded out" for his sister.

It's gonna be a bit of a balancing act, but it's probably all worth it. Anyway, Good luck.