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The tape
Hi IIN people,
I know there have been alot of stories posted just for amusment, but I have a serious question and would at least a couple of opinions and advice.
My dad killed himself this year. He left a tape adressing everyone in the family individually. I have just gotten over losing my dad, who i felt was my soul mate too, and I know that listening to him crying and speaking his last words will shake me to my core. I don't know how I will react, and I am scared.
But he believed he killed himself for the family's sake... in his head he was acting for the better. I think, the least I owe him is to listen.
Gah, I don't know what to do, I am scared and conflicted.
Is this normal?
Thanks, any advice appreaciated :)
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Comments (27)
Don't listen to the fuckbag above me. Listen to the fucking tape!

And wtf do ya mean by soulmate? Creepy
Yeah the soul mate thing is a little weird have a friend by ur side and watch it
Yea so you can keep your willy in your pants.
listen if you want now or 15 years from now whenever you are ready.why are you asking this bunch of cretins anything anyway?
Well, I haunt here often and there are a few people who I respect (few lol)I wanted to know what they thought.
No, I am not lying.
And I don't mean the soulmate thing in a creepy way, its just that he was my best friend in everything. I was always the fucked up one in the family, and he was always there for me. The irony.
Hey roughrider I appreciate the idea, I was thinking I would need support, but I don't really have any friends that would be able to be supportive in that way. I don't want to sit with my boyfriend, because I don't think we will last forever, and I don't want to make stupid associations.
Thanks slack, that makes me feel better :)
I don't know what you mean by the willy thing, but thanks for your opinion.
You've explained yourself:
A. your a girl (no willy)
B. Soulmate thing not in creepy way

So I take back what I said. What do you mean I can't delete it!? Damn...
I usualy refrain from making a serious comment but this one deserves it.

My uncle killed himself for much the same reason.

I think you should listen to the tape, but keep in mind that he wasn't in his right mind at the time. People don't kill themselves when they're thinking straight.
I'm sorry for you loss i recommend listening to the tape.You will never have total closer to his death until you have done this.Sometimes people have personal problems that a to difficult to share with other people especially their family.Im sure your dad loved all of you very much remember that and things will be fine.
Yeah, it was sort of selfish. But he must have been very ill.
He was not a cunt though, he loved his family intensly. He was obsessed with getting us nice things and filling our every whim. Apparently the obsession overcame him. Its also not nice to call him a cunt like that.
I don't think I am any lower than people who post about fucking their sisters. And this is not crap. I am looking for advice. Merely opinions.
Why are you such an angry and rude person?
I do want that sense of closure, but I am just starting to come to grips with what happened. I am afraid that listening will set me back to the day he died emotionally. You seem to have good insight, thanks very much for your reply.
I guess, what I gather from this, is that I should just listen to the tape and get it over with. I will listen when the summer semester ends and I have time to be all emo and shit :)
Thanks all.
Look. People kill themselves. Now, having said that, the next time you have a few (3) days off get REAL drunk, pop in the tape and play it with out the sound on. While it is running look him in the eyes and talk to him. Tell him anything that you never took the time to tell him before he died -ALL of it! Don't leave anything out. You MUST continue talking until he disappears from the tape. Say the most important things first and if the tape ends befor you are finished, well, it wasn't that important to say anyway.

Next, eject the tape, burn it and peace out. Fin. The end. Get on with yourself.

Jess
I wish it were that simple. I care too much about what he would have said. Its hard to "get on with yourself"... its easier said than done.
But thanks for the suggestion XD funny
I have more of a life then you will ever have.
You are a little troll boy. You sit behind your computer making stupid comments for hours every day. It is sad. You are sad. I feel bad for you.
Shaver, I think you need to listen to the tape now, or your perception of the whole situation might be building up on misconceptions. I had a friend commit suicide, and I finally got over it, then I found out some details about HOW she killed herself, and I felt the whole shit over again.
So yeah, get that shit over with, and ignore cocksucking trolls like knuckifyoubuck.
I think if I shaved your twat, you'd feel better... Sorry about your loss, but a slick pussy always boosts your confidence. Doesn't it?
I can't help but think I may know you, in a round about way, and I had a friend go through the exact same thing last year.

The first question is, video tape, or audio tape? If it's audio, listen to it, and if you feel you need to answer him or talk to him, go ahead and do it, no harm in that.

If it's a video, I totally agree with watching it with the sound off, at least once, and then, once you've said your peace, turn the sound on.

But, of course, wait until you're ready for it. And, I would do it alone, because there are things that, no matter how good the friend, you will not feel comfortable saying or doing with them in the room.

You'll get through it - just keep your chin up. Best wishes. :)
You should watch it at his grave, because if you don't, I will release excrement upon your father's grave. (If he was cremated, I'm gonna find his ashes and snort them)
Thats disgusting... don't you have a sense of decency or do you get off posting shit like that? Shit.
Thanks mymunchkins :) its an audio tape. I still have not listened to it. I still have to decide about if I will watch it with someone... I didn't think about being inhibited but you are right.
listen to it.... whho knows, maybe in yours it says where the lost city of atlantis is!!!!
I would listen to the tape...Maybe he said sumthing that can help u cope with this tradegy!!! Hang in there...!!!
raise them like you are sapost to.
and yes to all the people out there you can impragnat a dog.
same to you.
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