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15 years going to a party event
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My 15 year old daughter has approached me regarding a up and coming party that will be taking place within the next few weeks. I trust my daughter 100% and she is allowed to attends her friends' birthday parties when they occur. But this particular party is for 15 - 18 year olds. As I said before my daugther is 15 years old and I am unsure as to whether to give her permission to attend this event. When I told her that I did not think it was a good idea that she go to this event she sulked and said that she does not ask to go out often and that I should allow her to go as all her friends will be attending this event. (Her friends ages range from 15 - 18 year old). She also said that she is doing very well at school and that i should allow her go. I am at a lost as to what to do.

I have not yet asked any details about this event because i was adamant that she was not going to go, but after speaking with her father he does not seem to have a problem with our daughter attending this event.
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Comments (17)
Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-26 23:15:10
What adults are going to be supervising activity? If you know and trust them, I would think it would be OK. If not, not. If there are none, definitely not.
Maybe you trust your daughter, and maybe she even deserves it, but do you really want to trust those 18-year-olds you don't even know?
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piercebrosnan (21557)
2009-04-03 20:50:09
If you know her 18 year old friends and trust them to look out for her then I don't see why not. And if she's also a good girl then they're really isn't much to worry about.
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chakmak (21484)
2009-04-09 13:33:19
@: piercebrosnan
Let her go. She can't stay a virgin forever.
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theanswerisprobablynotnormal (21883)
2009-04-12 17:28:20
let her go. just be sure she's smart enough about drugs, alcohol and sex. if you didn't talk to her about it, she probably doesn't know any facts aboutt them and how you can die the first time you take them or dangers of STD's. Let her go if she knows about these things. Otherwise, if she doesn't, it's your job to inform her about it as a parent.
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JoeyAnne (21868)
2009-04-16 16:05:46
even if you dont let her go, there will be many other parties.
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Sexmachiene890 (22678)
2009-05-06 04:12:03
let her go if she has friends who are 18 then she
should be fine
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Stryker (23243)
2009-05-20 12:31:27
she sounds like an amazing kid, and one who's respectful of herself and her parents.
those are the kinds of kids who don't get in
(a more than normal amount of) trouble. everyone wants to go out and have fun with their friends, and if she knows she can call you for anything, why not? she's just as likely to get hurt walking down the street honestly..
if it would help you out, ask her to phone and check in a couple times during the night, to make sure everything's alright.
let her go!!
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truly (23612)
2009-05-29 13:48:18
Weren't you young once? How would you feel if you were being denied the chance to attend an event you've been waiting for very eagerly?

If she's smart, everything should be just peachy.

And if you deny her this, she's not gonna bother asking you next time - she's gonna go right ahead and do it, without your knowledge. So the question is, would you rather a) let her go and know about her goings or b) not let her go and remain clueless about her activities for the years to come?
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ralphffr (23902)
2009-06-05 22:46:48
Wait until she becomes an adult(18). Speaking on experience, ANY party that a teen goes to will have drugs and alcohol present, then the question isn't if you trust her but if she'll trust herself to say no, most kids don't have self control.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-06-06 06:52:55
I agree with your husband that you need to be more open about this, though you are right to be concerned.

Ask her for the name & phone number of the parents at whose home this party will be held. If she can give you that info, call them. If she can't its no go, and its not about her teen pleading.
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Anaid (24236)
2009-06-14 15:19:58
Don't be a retarded parent. If she wants to have sex and drink beer she'll do it no matter what you say and what you do. You'll just make things worse and make her miserable if you don't let her go. As for drugs, trust me it's not so easy to be a drug addict, drugs cost and you have to be a fucktard to use them in the first place. Btw your daughter sounds like a smart kid, if you don't treat her right you don't deserve her. Parents are the ones that ruin their children, not stupid harmless parties.
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TrIxXxY (26652)
2009-08-05 14:08:13
i agree with Anaid (24236)
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Morphie (27152)
2009-08-16 02:05:56
@: TrIxXxY
@ I agree with Anaid too! Let her go to party and have some drinks and sex IT IS ALL NORMAL cause she is 15!!!
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holio (27854)
2009-08-30 21:05:42
Anaid (24236) is correct. Smother her now and she'll go crazy and rebel the moment she's off the leash entirely. If you raised her right she may experiment but will make good choices when it counts. Let her exercise her responsibility muscle.
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oquenbe (28566)
2009-09-25 11:06:23
dude i know im a lil late to comment but i will say this im 18 years old and one thing i know for sure is that were teenagers and we do stupid shit in groups THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS AN INNOCENT TEENAGE PARTY! keep her home leave the partying for the male because ill tell u what she might be a good girl but guys dont stop asking ITS CALLED TOUGH LOVE.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-11-18 04:28:38
@: oquenbe
I agree. Its not even being all that tough. Just sensible.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-11-18 04:31:41
@: holio
Wrong pitch - they are letting her exercise responsibility while exercising theirs. Get the names of the parents at the house party, verify & she's there. This is a parenting question. Not a teenager question.
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