Do you dress in black? Do you sit in the dark reading edgar allen poe and slice yourself and show it to people for attention? Sounds like a typical teenager in this day and age. Get over yourself and stop trying to be depressed.

If for some reason you actually ARE depressed and not just some little girl trying to keep up to her "style" in clothing while shopping at exclusively at hot topic, go see a counselor and perhaps get on some little blue pills that will make everything better.

I am a definatly not a goth and medication dosn't work. It coats the problem, not resolves it.

Sometimes I feel just nothing like you explained, but not all the time continuously. It could just come down to being a teenager: Everyone reacts differently to adolescence. Especially since you're 13, you've only really just entered it. If that's the case, you'll probably get over it sooner or later.

You are only 13, theres time for that.

Empty feelings are part of psychology at that time. dont worry

Hon, you're not going through anything that any teenage girl doesn't experience to some degree or another, though you're a little young for it I think. If it get's too depressing where you start thinking about doing something foolish, talk to someone. Medication may only "mask the problem" but it's better to mask it than to let it all hang out and end up hurting yourself or someone else. Hang in there... the hormones stabilize and things really do get better :-)

I am dead all the time. Nothing ever truely ever makes me happy. I'm not gothic and definatly not emo. I don't think its related to growing up. Do you think not ever having a crush on anyone ever in your life is normal?

I accidently said I was the oringinal writer srry.

Of course it's notmal. I didn't decide I liked anyone until I was at least 15. 13? You're still a child. Give it time! Why SHOULD you have a crush on anyone? At 13 some of the boys in your classes still gag at the idea of kissing a girl. Admitting they like one is just out of the question. Girls mature faster than boys (and stay that way!), but once they start showing a little interest in you in return you'll probably decide that one of them's not so bad. Again, give it time. Things will start looking better, especially once the hormones start calming down a bit.

Somebody said girls mature faster than boys. I was 100% right.

yeah but the girls at my school make out with guys everyday and they date too.

Sweetie if you want to think that something is wrong, and you want to be depressed about it there's nothing "I" can say to change your mind... I'm nowhere near your age hon, in fact I'm over 3 times your age, but it works the same way. If I told you "I have friends at my job who are living together and others who are married. I can't do that because I have kids and I don't have time between my kids and my work. Because they do it and I don't I'm so depressed... I have no love, no joy, I'm numb inside. No men like me, All I feel is sadness. I can't pay attention to anything" All this despite that my kids love me, my extended family loves me... You'd think I was overreacting, and you'd be right. You see it works the same way. Looking at MY situation I'll bet it really makes no sense to you that I'd feel that way. And truth is, I DON'T feel that way either! You shouldn't either. You have a lot going for you, and you still have the opportunity to make something beautiful out of your life. Don't destroy it by trying to be melodromatic. Give your hormones a chance to calm down, give the boys a chance to notice you... believe me they will, and you'll be fine.

hey I know everyone is trying to be nice but that they're a little off- this isn't something that should happen when you're a teenager. i don't believe the original poster is trying to pull herself off as being depressed either- why all the accusations? give her the benefit of the doubt. Just because she's young doesn't mean that her view on the world is "a phase". dear whatever your name is, i've had this feeling too, in fact i get it every day. sometimes it feels as if i haven't any hope or love anymore, and apparently you dont' either. for me it happens whenever i start thinking that maybe we truly did evolve, God doesnt' exist, and we haven't any souls. I'm working on figuring out the truth and what i should believe right now. what do you believe?

I believe that we are all little pawns on God's chessboard. We move all around and sometimes we are knocked down by larger figures. We only win if we reach the end of the chessboard. I believe in God and I strongly believe we all have souls. We only use 10% of our brains because we are not yet fully evolved. I think we pocess unknown abilities and attributes in the 90%. I sometimes think God dosn't exist, but then I change my thoughts later. Buts its also wierd because most of the time I'm in a daze or in my own little world of thinking. I don't have ADD because my grades are fantastic. It just seems that I'm constantly sad and miserable because I'm constantly thinking about the universe and everything beyond man's knowledge.

So why bother

Hey Honey!(Ican call you that coz I'm 25 now). Emptiness and loneliness is something I felt alot when I was your age. That wasn't very long ago. I don't like people who say "get over it". There is alot more to teenage depression than others know. All my counsellors made me feel stupid at that time of my life. Continued

Do NOT do anything unless you've really thought it thru. In my teens, I tried to get out of life. I was lucky to have no brain damage.

Maybe I shouldn't have mentioned that I am 25, that might have put you off. Even so, I remember all too well my teenage years and they were HORRIBLE. I felt nothing, only the bad things in life took my attention. It is up to you to look up, and help fix it. If you need help doing this, you only need to ask. I have been on antidepressants since I was 15, only when others found me out and helped. I am now happy, 2 kids, nothing gets me down. Try it.

That's not al ALL odd. . . I think you probably just have to wait for something. . . like a someone that is right, or maybe even a book you love, or a passion? I'm 14, and I know what you mean. I have something (something, not someone ((unless you count odds with this one. . .)) that means so much to me, that I love so much, if it were ever gone I wouldn't even want to live anymore. Just wait. . . I think it'll come on it's own.

it sounds like you are a very intelligent girl, and, sad to say, some of the most intelligent people have been the most lonely in their lives. You say you feel dead inside...is it because you see nothing to make you feel good or is it perhapse because you deny yourself emotion as a way of punishing yourself? Humans are amazing creatures with very complex brains and very deep emotions; sometimes we torture ourselves without even knowing it, and without even trying (it kinda just subconciously happens). I know that you believe in god, but I am going to reccomend a book to you that helped me level out when I was 12. It's called the Tao Te Ching. It is a Taoist philosophy that is very simply about balance. It really helped me to understand the complexities of life and helped me to understand myself more. I reccommend some meditation for you also. Sit or lie down and become relaxed, let thoughts flow in and out of your mind without holding on to them. Just hang out with yourself and most of all have NO EXPECTATIONS. You expect yourself to feel certain things for people and about life. That is alot of pressure on your emotional self that your mind and heart may not be able to sort out to you right now. Be patient with yourself, love yourself, and be kind to yourself. Start small, and TALK TO SOMEONE or eve many people. I used chat rooms also when I was your age because no one around me understood me. Also, I didn't have a crush on anyone when I was your age because I thought no one was intelligent enough or worth it. Things will work out for you, it just takes time. And please, talk to someone you can trust. Talking helps SOOOO much.

Hey, I'm a 14 year old guy. I think I know what you mean by feeling empty and numbed inside and not feeling love. I didn't think anyone else was like me but I found you... I don't know when I started feeling like this, but it was some time around 13. I get really good grades too, but lately I've been so discouraged, unmotivated and depressed that all my effort, willpower, efficiency and concentration have faded away, and I can still remember when I had all these attributes in elementary school. I feel wierd because it's like I'm almost never fully connected with reality, and at times I'm completely disattached from reality and I'm in some state of deep philisophical thought, which I wake from with a sense of confusion, and I feel like I might have just discovered or comprehended something amazing and far, far beyond what any other person has, yet I don't seem to care... everything kind of seems cheapened, like whatever aspect of it made it fun, exciting, special, etc. has been ripped off leaving a cold, boring, materialistic and sad thing... people smiling, saying hi, jokes, new clothes, upcoming events, it all seems... pointless. And I don't want any of it anymore. I fear I've really strayed from how I should be at this age and I'm not developing mentally, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually in the right way... sometimes I really don't care about anything, nothing, not myself, not my future, not God, not heaven or hell, not people, not innocent little babies, not things I once enjoyed, not society or the world, I just don't give a fuck. And it makes me feel all the more cold and bitter, but it makes me even more cold and bitter when something makes me feel like I should admit it.

I hope it's just a phase, but I have my doubts... and whatever you do DONT take any medication or therapy, it'll fuck up your mind. All the people who tell you "it'll help" or "trust me" or "I know what you're going through" are a bunch of worthless, braindead, unsympathetic liars. If you're going to get better it should happen on your own or only the way you want it to happen.

Have you really never had a crush on anyone? I did, when I was 11... it felt so amazing, so good, so powerful, so perfect, I just wanted to be with her and for us to be alone and close together forever, forever, ...

I feel like I've lost sight of my love and I don't feel any emotions of love towards anyone else, and I mean everyone, not God, and ESPECIALLY not my parents, I'd only ever feel a platonic love for them, or more like being grateful because they did something for me without me asking, but I don't. I want my parents and all my family to die, they make me sick. I don't want God either, all I want is to be close to my love... but even that is fading, that need I felt inside of me that seemed so intense and like it was the only thing holding me together, my only reasont to be and to carry on and all I was hoping for, that's fading... soon I won't even be a human anymore, I'll just be a cold, unfeeling biological thing, once my soul is gone...

I wish you bliss, I hope some how you'll forget everything you've thought and you can leave a happy, joyous, normal, peaceful life... Your soul isn't dead yet, and if you feel love once more it'll heal and grow, there's hope!

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Wow you remind me of myself in many ways. And yes I 've had a little crush previously but It didn't last too long because I lost interest in the guy. Its like nothing really matters anymore and I don't really care about anything. Reality almost dosn't exists for me anymore. You also share the same beliefs like me. You sound very mature and smart for a boy of 14. Go you! lol

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Medication dosn't do anything.......

Everyone needs help sometimes, and being experienced at antidepressants, I know that they usually don't work. There is one antidepressant that will, but you have to do trial and error to find it. This medication, If you get the right one, will help you see the probs and also help you deal with them. In the end, there may be no need for drugs. You could be happy.

i am 34 years old .my name is judy . i feel your emptiness. if you wanna talk to me email me at judyndonnie@yahoo.com ......well talk

Wow...I can't believe people actually commented with remarks such as,get over the depression.You can't just snap out of it.Depression is a mental illness.Would you tell a cancer patient to "snap out" of cancer?Ofcourse not.So,no it's not normal,that is mentally to feel that way.It is common however.And is highly likely to be treated.

Dont want to sound harsh but life doesnt get any better on its own. You have got to make positive change for youreself, no one else will do it for you. When the major things in life hit you will know it like been in massive amount of debt that seems like a bottomless pit, being shat on by people all the time, some one close dying that sort of shit and having real mental problems stress anxiety clinical depression etc lifes throws you these things at all the time as you get older just have to learn how to deal with them and not being in love will seem small compared to these problems!!!! Be positive and positive things will happen old cliche but true.

I could care less..

i have felt like that constantly for the past ten years, i have never had a crush, i am 15...i have no idea how to do anything about the emptiness, and the only thing that has ever made it go away is pain-i am NOT goth or emo, i never hurt myself visably only where people cant see, i hope you do better than me...

It's normal...coz i've experienced it before...it's like, no one cares about me, i'm sitting in a corner, under the moon, locked up...or sth...just an image...
But i'm telling u, u can escape from it...with God's love...u will never understand it, until u really experience and know his love
the love u could never had imagine...the love u can feel it...the love greater than any love on earth
greater than ur parents, ur friends, ur siblings...
The Greatest love...

i wantED to be love, i wantED to be hugged and cared...i DIDN"T want to be alone...i've searchED for it sooo long...but actually, God's love was there for the whole time...it was just there
he still loves us when we walked away from him...he still loves us even if we dont...he still loves when we don't know him yet...he lvoes us before we were born...becoz we are his son/daughter...becoz he's our almighty father
accept it...God's love...his greatest love...