is he bi?
2 years ago we were briefly using a dildo. we stopped when I watched him sucking it. I didn't think straight men did that! Being mortified I threw it out. Now recently he purchased one for me and used it again and he told me he wanted me to do him hard in the ass. Now I am really thinking he is bi- but don't really know how to get him to admit it. I also think he is because he was molested as a child by two different people. What do You think- Am I imagining this?
Because anal sex is something associated with gay men, and a lot of straight men are afraid of being seen as gay, a lot of straight men don't want to be anally penetrated. But some straight men experiment with their own bodies and realise that they do enjoy having their prostate massaged. I think it's strange for a straight guy to feel comfortable enough to ask his partner to use a dildo on him, but he obviously has a lot of trust in you.
Basically, he might be bi, but the fact he enjoys having his prostate massaged with a dildo just makes him male.
Second: If he wants you to put on a strap on and slide that slugger up his Casey Jones, do da deed and ride that ride with a smile - If it makes him happy. Be as gentle to him as you hope he would be to you should anal sex come up, but pleasing your partner is part of a relationship.
Third: Molestation as a child probably wouldn't have anything to do with it at all, either way.
I don't think he's gay, and might not even be bi. Maybe he just likes the idea of YOU doing him or the way YOU look with a cock-simaly. Maybe he IS a closet bi, the type of guy who might like cock but doesn't like Guys (I have a younger brother something like that) if so, please him.
Tobra :)
Pleasing my husband is what I want to do but if he wants me to do that I can't bring myself to for the reasons in his past.He was hurt by the situations and yet it is now and only during sex these things are coming about- which is what is making me wonder. I have never heard of liking cock but not guys- the two go together don't ya think.