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Feeling Very Depressed (REAL. PLEASE ADVISE)
my partner and I have a two and a half year old son, he is beautiful and we love him to death! :)
We also have a Brand New (now) two month old baby boy whom we also love dearly.

The problem is... I work five days a week, 7a-4p my partner works fri,sat,sun overnight. The problem is Mine.

I don't relate well to infants in general, but to get up at 5am on fri, work all day, then be up most of the night - then next day while my partner sleeps, then next night and so on...

I don't relate to babies, and I get so tired, sometimes I SCREAM ! at my son(s) and I got so bad I NEARLY hit the baby a few weeks ago. (I Didn't. I Wouldn't, but it was a near thing.)

We live with my dad, and he is now taking the two month old over night, from about Eleven PM to eight so I can sleep - thing is, my dad... he will feed and change the baby, more or less, but when my son screams/cries, he will just let him scream and cry and lay there - for hours.

I am humiliated and ashamed that I get so mad and I am so bad at taking care of my younger son for a long time. And I feel terrible about letting my dad take him over night because he lets him shreik. I feel so depressed and overwellmed that I am thinking seriously about taking my own life. I am convinced my partner would do better without me.

I know I am sick and Not normal - but some advice would help. PLEASE PLEASE no smart ass comments here - I am on the edge.
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Comments (10)
thejackel12 (10508)
2007-09-10 15:33:40
oh.. thats bad il try and give some good advice but im only 16. first DON'T KILL YOURSELF your partner loves you and would get very depressed if you killed yourself. second you need abit is self control hitting your kids will have you put in jail or something. and finally talk to your partner or dad about it im sure they will supoort you good luck with that. i
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Orochimaru (9975)
2007-09-10 15:33:51
go to a theripist, talking it out is the best way to deal w/ ur problems
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thejackel12 (10508)
2007-09-10 15:34:20
@: thejackel12
sorry about the "i" i accidentally put on the end of the comment
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BlasianBeauty (10467)
2007-09-10 15:37:22
Have you tried to talk to your partner about it? Try sitting him/her down and telling them that the baby is overwhelming you and that you really need their help. Babies can of course be very frustrating and it is normal for parents to have some depression. I think it is best if you talk to your partner or perhaps seek help from a babysitter/nanny/ etc.

Can your partner change their work hours?
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sisophous (3738)
2007-09-10 16:16:49
What you really need to do is have your partner work and you stay at home full-time or vice-versa. If he or you have to work several jobs then so be it. The problem is both of you working and not having a person you can rely upon to assist you. There are ways to earn money part-time from a computer and still reside at home the entire time. I can't vouch for any of the home business plans authenticity but people have earned money from their home computers, one way is handling medical billing.

It sounds like you are suffering from burnout, where your body is shutting down from too much stress.

The next step is to set up an appointment with your doctor and explain your story and ask for a referral to a professional who deals with depression. You come across as depressed and depression is a treatable illness.

Taking one's life is not only selfish but extremely cruel to your children so quit those thoughts. Your children need you.

So, speak to your husband and explain what really needs to be done, that both of you can't be away from the home and working during the week. One of you can work full-time and the other must be at home full-time.

And, see a doctor about the depression.

If you work together, and seek help, you will resolve this problem no matter how disillusioned you may feel at this time.

Good luck.
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comalies (6298)
2007-09-10 16:32:48
killing yourself will not resolve any problems, in fact it will only make matters worst.
is the easy way out for you, just leaving all your worries and troubles behind, but think about your husband and your kids...what will your kids do growing up with out a mother to support them, and your husband without a wife to be there for him.
think about that. killing yourself is not an option is just an easy exit to avoid facing the problems life throws at you.
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beatles_steffi (9285)
2007-10-16 06:42:06
lots of women get depressed after giving birth.... like andrea yates.... so go to a doctor unless you want to risk drowning your babies too. It can happen to anyone. Even though babies are gross and weird and slimy... they get taller and arent so bad once they can wipe their own ass and feed themselves.... so hang in there... your slime ball may be the inventor of the cure for aids or something.
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MichelleLivesMusic (10021)
2007-10-16 15:37:46
Yea I suffer from depression also. I wanted to kill myself plenty of times. Since I was 11. I planned it ou and everything, dont do anything rational.


NOW THAT, THATS SAID LETS ALL CRY OUT EMO GIRL!!

Fuck you
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October (10003)
2007-10-16 15:47:10
@: MichelleLivesMusic
Ohhh Michelle... :(

Let me tell you something kiddo, just Babysitting, for hours on end, is more than enough to make me want to have myself spayed.

Having to take care of an infant 24/7... The mind boggles.

You have my respect if not my empathy.

Tobra
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MichelleLivesMusic (10021)
2007-10-17 09:11:47
@: October
Thank you, Its hard to get through some times. I guess I can relate.


Its just really hard. I even get counseling....
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