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I feel guilty about not wanting kids
I'm in my 30s and I have bipolar disorder I. My illness is pretty severe and I need lots of medication and therapy to make it through the week. I have a brother who is a paranoid schizophrenic and many other family members with severe mental illness as well. Despite this I have a loving husband who
wants kids (but just a little bit). His parents really, really want grandkids.

I've never wanted kids. I am pretty sure my illness would make it hard to be a good mother. Besides, I have a very good chance of passing on the illness to any kids I would have.

My husband and in-laws are so wonderful that I feel very guilty about not wanting kids even though I know it would be a bad choice for me to make.

If I was healthy I would still not want kids, it is just not something I want to do with my life. Part of me wants to have kids as a sacrifice for my husband, because I love him.
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ragamuffin (10641)
2007-09-18 16:33:39
I don't think having children as "a sacrifice for my husband" is an ideal situation. If you really don't want children, and your hubby was aware of this before you tied the knot, then he should understand and be supportive. As you say, you familly has a history of some not very nice problems. If you were to have a child in the knowlege that you could pass it on, and indeed did pass it on, would you be able to look at yourself in the mirror? I very much doubt it. DON'T have children if that is what YOU want. Good luck.
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slackjawedyokel (6678)
2007-09-18 20:03:41
stick to your guns.all these people wanting you to have a baby will be gone at the end of the day,even your hubby to some extent,and this kid will be your responsibilty.


if you know deep down you either dont want kids or wouldnt be a good mother or both then be firm in your decision.


frankly hearing your conditions I think you are making a very wise decision.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2007-09-18 20:04:45
If you and your husband agree on this dont worry about what anyone else says or thinks do it your way fuk the parents
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Orochimaru (9975)
2007-10-22 14:31:03
@: ragamuffin
sick gay!
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Potato (7428)
2008-01-31 18:30:34
don't feel guilty... it might cause marital problems in a few years, but take it as is comes... you are being smart
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Logic316 (15489)
2008-08-01 11:28:04
If you have no interest in having kids, then don't have them. Many educated, healthy, and financially secure people these days are choosing not to produce children because they realize that kids often just end up interfering with one's independence and peace of mind. Not everybody is able or willing to do what it takes to be a good parent, and it's far better that those people recognize that and remain childfree. Raising kids is not all giggles and sunshine, and if you're having problems in your life then there's a good chance they'll just make you even more unhappy.
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