Friend, you clearly have some boundary issues and a deep rooted insecurity about yourself. If you feel secure in a relationship, you don't get jealous. Jealousy is not the problem; jealousy is the SYMPTOM of the problem. It is good that you spotted this trait and understand that its unhealthy. If you find that your jealousy is rooted in fear, for example, the next step is to explore why you are afraid, and what you are afraid of, and if there's anything you can do to allay that fear. Confronting the jealousy head-on without addressing the things that lie beneath it is often an exercise in frustration. Don't live in fear, talk openly about your fears even if you think they are irrational. I would recommend to go talk to a therapist he/she should help.

Until you deal with this issue you are not fit for a relationship. Jealousy is a symptom of being "spoiled". Just from the way you described yourself in your post says alot about how you consider yourself. Lower your standards and see what happens.

i have heard this story somewhere on the net...ah i remember its on yahoo question/answers

I have just started to see a shrink and I really hope it will help.

Good luck...

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i have the same problem. if i see my boyfriend talking alot to another girl i wonder why he is. my boyfriend isn't super-flirty. i dont feel like he likes her or he's checking her out though. i have alot of confidence that he would never cheat on me or like another girl. i just don't like it when he spends time with other girls. i really can't figure out why i get jealous if i'm not afraid he's going to like someone else. does anyone know why im getting jealous? i know, i know that it's natural to be jealous, and that everyone gets jealous and blah blah blah, but i get jealous so often that it interferes with our relationship. we ALWAYS make up in the end, but that shoulnt mean it's ok for me to get jealous alot. i shouldnt take it for granted, because it won't always be this way if i stay the same. i dont WANT to get jealous at my boyfriend, but i just can't help it. and i know i need to do something about it because it will become a problem in the future if i don't control it better. i don't want it to cause problems for our relationship because it is very special and i would do anything to keep it that way.

I hate it when people do that.

You don't sound very mature to me.

How come when people post a story about how mature they are they always seem to prove otherwise with their own words?

If you think you're mature, you're probably not.