In love with fairy-tale character as an adult
This story may sound silly but it's for real. I am 22 years old at the moment, and I just wanted to get these two things out of the way.
When I was a kid, I was madly in love with this girl that was from a children's fairy-tale story. Why was I in love with her? It was because of her personality and just the way she was. I had some dreams of her when I was a teenager, in some of the dreams, she told me that she was real and I had to find her.
I believed that she was real not mainly just for the fact she appeared and told me this stuff, but because everything looked convincing. I searched for her within the years of my life, but I couldn't find her. At this rate, I felt like I was a failure in life because I thought that I couldn't even fulfill my desires to be with this woman.
Well this is what happened. When I turned 18, I gained depression and would sometimes cry at night on my bed. I was sad because I couldn't find her, and I really wanted to be with her. Because of this, my world was shattered. I was so heartbroken and depressed from time to time, it refrained me from talking to people, including women.
I had just recently found out she wasn't real when I turned about 21 years old. I figured she wasn't real because I was 21 and she never showed up, even though she kept making promises in my dreams. I figured it was my mind just playing tricks on me.
Now that I found out she's not real, I still don't really know what to do. I think my only solution is to find a woman that was like this girl. But I know deep in my heart that I may never find a woman that was as romantic as this girl.
I seriously doubt I'll find someone who's like her because she was way way too perfect.
Here's a picture of her. Her name is Marin.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v99/JoshCube/marinhot.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v99/
JoshCube/CongratsMarin3.jpg
PS: I'm not gay.
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The post I made was serious. I really did want to be with her, but when I found out she wasn't real, it crushed me, etc. etc. Please learn to read more closely.
It's a lovely image, this anime fairytale gamine. But I guess I was kind of atypical of most girls in that my big childhood crush was Sherlock Holmes. I always looked up to fictional characters who were brilliant, eccentric, and artistic. I'm not sure that this fragile-looking creature would do that much for me.
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I don't think I'll find someone like her. I mean, it would probably be almost impossible to find a girl like her. I may not fall in love like I did with this girl, but I mean, it's a risk I may have to take.
More of like a shot in the dark, I may have to just aim for the bullseye on this one.
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I can see the case for getting emotionally involved with a fictional character when you're a kid, but there comes a time to put away childish things. Keep a little place in your heart for her if you wish, but move on and learn to love REAL things. I wonder if you cling to this fantasy because you find something unpleasant about being an adult. It's called "Tinkerbell Syndrome" -- remain in Never-Never Land if you wish, but don't expect many adults to understand or want to go with you.
But at one point, I did think she was real. I used to think she was somewhere in the world and I had to find her. But if she isn't real, there is no point is trying to have her.
I think there may be some women out there who are LIKE the girl in my dreams, but may not be exactly like her. But I guess we can't have everything in life right?
It's just hard for me to accept the fact she's not real because we meet sometimes in the dream world. She's really nice to me.
i think you could have it till you were like 13
and then, you could really wish and search for a sweet girl that makes you feel good like that girl till you were like 19...
but beeing 21 with a crushed heart about it? thats a problem.
I think it's about time for you to look for a psychiatrist, just to talk with a professional.
good luck man, you talking about it is already a great step to see you have already grown and that you are mature enough to see what you really want is to meet a nice girl that is romantic and cares about it, that's actually all that this is all about =`]