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The Girl I Like!
Hello folks! I had posted something on here before (maybe a week ago, IDK) about how I should contact a girl I liked, because I was interested in her. To see the story if u want (it may help u comprehend my post easier, but if you dont read my other one, I think u will get this anyways) Here is my post: http://isitnormal.com/story/17896/

Ok now that we have gotten that out of the way. Here is the synopsis. So a few weeks ago I was interested in this very cute and gorgeous girl. Keep in mind that I havent talked to her in person and online. But I was interested in just meeting her somehow anyways. So after I looked at all my options, I had decided to leave her an online message explaining that I would have the pleasure in meeting her and told a bit about me. Well at first she didnt respond so I sent another message and she did finally. It was very brief saying that she was confused and all because she didnt honestly know who I was. She acepted my apology for my request of adding her as a friend. But since she doesnt know who i am, I realize that it is hard for her to want to know me when I fact I really want to know her.I sent another small message out and she hasnt responded yet, and I'm planning on giving her another day, see if shes still interested. So that is where I'm at right now.

Now, my true feelings are like "wow your very cute and pretty" And my original idea was to keep an even line. I didnt wanna write in there as an anonymous guy looking for a date and I didnt wanna tell her in the first message that she was gorgeous. I wanted to be humble so I was like, cant we just be friends..along those lines, you see what I'm saying here? Because I want to start out slow, just be friends. But I really need help on the transition. Now that she knows me online, how should I go about starting up a conversation and a way for her to help her realize my true feelings for her? Should I send a message soon finally telling her "hey I think you're really pretty"? (keep in mind we have never talked in school :( ). Do you think I should try somehow to contact her in school?

Thanks for reading guys. There are so many things going on in my mind about this right now and there are so many factors and questions that i have that need to be answered. So if this sounds confusing, please tell me on here if you are willing to leave nice comments lol! Well thanks for reading this long post!

-DaBIGcheese
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Comments (5)
gizzie56 (8681)
2007-11-03 22:15:47
Well guy your right this is a long post concerning a subject that is very easily answered. My suggestion is to come right out and tell her what you think about her. I'm sure she will be flattered in the fact that you find her very attractive.

You have already basically "broke the ice" so to speak so use a little bit of your exceptional personality and let her know how you feel about her in your own special way.

I suggest you ask her out and see where it goes from there.
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JanIAm (10668)
2007-11-03 22:33:50
I remember your original post, and I'm with gizzie. The plain, unadorned truth is generally the best way to go, particularly if that truth is flattering. I'm assuming, of course, that you've already provided her with some basic information about yourself such as how you noticed her in the first place, a little about yourself and your interests (a photo, perhaps?), etc.

I wish you luck on this one. You seem to be going out of your way to be respectful and cautious of her feelings, and I think that says a great deal about your character.
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DaBIGcheese (11085)
2007-11-03 22:43:39
To: Jan and Gizzie, first off thanks for the help.

here's a little something on her. She does seem a bit shy and it appears (but not 100%sure) that she would be that willing to just add me as a friend online and start chatting. I don't know, it seems if I just just go out and tell her that I think she is pretty, then it may not go the way I like and she might stop talkking to me. And thats the problem, I dont have any friends that know her and I dont really know any of her friends. It seems like both parties are isolated and me telling her shes cute makes it seem weird, do you think that it would be weird if I aid that in a message?

also, she has only "spoken" to me online just one time and it was very brief! here is what she said (exact words, lol): "haha yeah.

I just don't know who you are so I'm a bit confused.

It's fine though, I'm just kinda clueless."

What i interpret it as, "yeah i accept your apology". So I'm lost here. I dont know her that much so i'm asking myself should i put my true feelings, because that is really the down to earth basis of me wanting to meet her. So she seems to be pretty conservative right now, she is probably looking for more info on me. Do you guys think I should make an attempt to get her to know me in person in school?
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nearly (10533)
2007-11-04 03:42:44
for fu cks sake cheesie, we all have to go through this in the stages of growing up. Do what you feel is right and if it don't work out it aint no biggie. There are plenty more fish in the sea and it is what we old farts call experience. You only get it as you make mistakes. Thats all experience is, making mistakes and learning by them or if you are exceptionally lucky, making the right choice first time. Aint no one can tell you what or how. You gotta make them choices yourself. Any other way is false and will ultimately cost you.

Good luck but for fu cks say DO IT.
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realitychecks (11086)
2007-11-04 19:03:44
Hey, sounds like you really interested in this girl. One of my suggestions would be to not contiuously send her more messages if she doesn't respond. Remeber at your age, to play hard to get, (can be any age for that matter.) I would send an email, say what's on your mind and then wait for her response. But, never sound desperate, or send to many messages as she may mistake you as becoming obsessive with her. This can in fact scare girls away. If you truely have the chance to strike up aconversation in the library, then go for it and don't stres. Just be yourself. Good luck.
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