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True Love
I fell in love with a girl a while back, we seemed perfect for each other. I spent countless thousands to be with her and and do anything and everything to make her happy, for a while it was bliss but after a few visits she went back to her ex-boyfriend because he told her "I joined the military just for you!" and she I assume felt pity towards him. Now she is engaged to him for the forth time and is completely miserable, I've done everything I can to try and change her mind but she refuses even though she has told me on numerous times that she almost asked me to marry her or that she wished she had met me first. I never felt like the way I feel about her ever before and hopefully never will again.
Anyways, is it normal to still be willing to do anything for them even if you know you'll never be with them? And I do mean anything, I have done everything that a girl could ever want (showered her with affection, treated her like no one else ever has, large amounts of flowers and jewelry, and anything else you could think of) I even took time off to stay with her after her mother died even though I live over two-thousand miles away from her and had no vacation time left. In the end I just want her to be happy, no matter what the outcome is for me. Is this normal?
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Moi (588)
2006-01-18 09:28:08
Get over her!
Sounds like you still lover her, but she obviously loves the other guy. It's time to move on . . .
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nobody1000 (1229)
2006-01-18 10:37:32
@: Moi
I refuse...
That's just the thing, she has made it obvious she doesn't love him. He is never there when she needs someone, he betrayed her numerous times, he even caused one of her best friends to slit her wrists just to get even with her. How could anyone love someone like that?
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Anonymous
2006-01-18 17:50:44
@: nobody1000
Find something else to bone you fuck head.
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Anonymous
2006-01-18 19:54:12
Umm, it sort of sounds like she is using you. Besides, even if she does like you, she told you that she doesn't really care about you when she went back to the guy she "is completely miserable" with. Try the book He's Just not that into you. It's for women but it can work the other way around. Oh yes, and there is a sequel to it now as well. Try that, too.
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Anonymous
2006-01-18 21:52:21
True Love
I had a man that was head over heals for me at one time. Just like you, I believe he would have done anything for me. He never did spend alot of money on me. I wouldn't let him. I have never been a gold digger or anything of the such. I let him go for the same reason that she did. I still had feelings for someone else. I felt quilty to continue with someone that was obviously head over heals and I did not feel the same way. He still wanted to assist me with my second job and spend money on me and I would not allow it. That was my choice for I do not use people. I don't know your entire story, but she may have used you if she allowed you to spend so much on her. There are alot of woman out there that could appreciate you alot more. Sorry hun, but you need to let go and try for someone better.

P.S. I never did forget about this man (obviously) because he did make me feel good and he was an genuinely good person, but either the timing was not right or it just was not there. You need to figure that one out in your case. Good Luck to you.
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nobody1000 (1229)
2006-01-18 21:55:57
@: unreal
Maybe so but I've been with others and none are like her. I'd rather be alone then live without her.
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nobody1000 (1229)
2006-01-18 21:58:06
@: unreal
And as for spending money on her, that was completely my choice. I would renounce my name and sell my soul for her if it would convince her to stop making the wrong choice.
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Alone (175)
2006-01-20 17:57:13
♥ :(
Yeah, it's normal. I have sympathy for you. I know what it's like. You never know what the future will be. Maybe someday you will be together. In the meantime though, you need to focus on other things. I know what it feels like not being with the person you like. It tears you aparts. It kills you. Just be happy you have your friendship. I know what it's like to lose that too.
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SlimFast (11113)
2008-01-10 21:40:08
Yeah, it's normal. Could you give us an update? Don't worry. Even if your IIN name appears, we still won't know who you are in real life. It would be a good lesson for us all. Thank you for sharing this with us and good luck. I hope that things work out in the end.
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