Sexual Orientation

I am pretty sure that everyone goes through this, just because you are straight, doesn't mean that you can't have fantasies. I think what matters is that you don't act on these fantasies and feel more attracted to men, which would keep you more of a heterosexual. I was reading a psycology book and I believe that they call things like this "Self exploration" YOu are still in your early 30's whcih means you are young(I am 18 by the way).

It also may not be the women themselves that turns you on, but maybe just the sexual actions themselves.

Either way what it comes down to is, would you want to be in a serious relationship, or even just have a fling with a woman? If given the chance would you? That is what defines bi-sexual or homosexual. (then again this is just my opinion and mine only, I don't feel like accidentally offending anyone out there)

Hi, I happen to be very close to 30, and in a relationship with a female. I consider myself Bi, on the strength that I enjoy everything about a man too. When I was younger, I used to have fantasies about sexual acts with women. In fact, that's all I mmasterbated, and masterbate to. 4 years ago, I finally decided to act on my feelings, It's everything I thought it would be and more. I do know that if I break up with this person, I will date a man again. It's hard dating a female sometimes, too much estrogen. I think you are Bi-curious, and there's nothing wrong with exploration. If you don't explore, then your sexual desire will eat away at you until you do. You have to fulfill that feeling. A word of caution some women aren't easy to date. You may get with a lunatic, or someone who is psycho. Be sure to pick and choose wisely. Oh and if you just want sex, make it clear that that's all you want. If you don't shit will go down you do not want to handle.If you'd like to chat more, let me know.

To understand Churchill during and after World War II, the historian's job is more difficult because of the Churchill's global influence as Prime Minister during the war, as the media's leading statesman of the English-speaking world and as the legendary figure of English liberty. This reputation was supported by Churchill's best selling memoir of World War II and his History of the English-Speaking Peoples. In addition to this was the massive and masterly biography of Randolph Churchill and Martin Gilbert. Gilbert also wrote a single volume Churchill: A Life "for readers to judge for themselves Churchill's actions and abilities." If the readers are the jury, Gilbert is Churchill's chief defense attorney. Gilbert takes Churchill's own words more seriously than do recent historians. He deals sympathetically with controversial parts of Churchill's career. As for the man's private life, Gilbert passes over some of the charges some of Churchill's contemporaries have made in print. The biographer is, in this incidence, taking precedence over the historian. Gilbert is always respectful of the man whose finest hour, like that of Britain, was in 1940. Other historians have asked tough questions about Churchill's long public life. One such historian is John Charmley, who is one of the group of historians who wear Conservatism on their sleeves. Charmley's Churchill, The End of Glory made a splash only after a review by Lord Clark, a rich and outspoken former junior Conservative Cabinet Minister, asserted that Churchill should not have rejected Hitler's peace terms in 1940 because they would have protected Britain's status as a world power far more than his selling Britain out to the United States. Clark's review upstaged Charmley's general theme that Churchill was a romantic imperialist whose views hardly changed since the 1890s. The last part of The End of Glory and Churchill's Grand Alliance blames Churchill's "Atlanticism' for preventing Britain from being more assertive. While Charmley appreciates that the actions of statesmen must be judged by the exigencies of the situations they faced, he remains indignant over Churchill's sacrifice of so many vital British interests to the United States. Charmley's grasp of politics in London is better than his understanding of Anglo-American policy making and the enormously complicated scene in Washington. He is a partisan British nationalist who degenerates into uncritical anti-Americanism. I am shore that this is usefull information for you and that is all.

You spelled sense wrong.
She didn't ask to be educated smartness.

First of all, You spelled USEFUL wrong, Second, Although you seemed to be a very intellectual person, Your comment was less of a comment and more of an ESSAY!! Your comment was TOTALLY OFF-TOPIC and did'nt make much sense. Not only was the comment LONG-WINDED, But it provided no advice or useful information for me at all!-NONE!! Next time someone asks a question and you choose to answer it, Please stay ON TOPIC, or don't even bother answering the question!!!!

I did'nt have sexual fantasies about women (or men) when I was younger. I was about fourteen when my cousin (who was also female), showed me the first porn flick that I'd ever seen. (She only showed it to me to prove how much of a pervert that her mom's boyfriend was!) Although I did'nt become aroused when I saw it, She also showed me her mom's boyfriend's "girlie magazine collection" (to prove the same thing). Later that day, My cousins went out shopping and I was left alone in their apartment, I went into the master bedroom to get out the girlie magazines. As I looked at them, I became aroused. I did'nt masturbate, But I looked at them for at least a half-hour. My cousins got back early, (my younger cousin that I mentioned earlier) caught me before I could put all the magazines away. She was very angry and shocked (mostly shocked). She started asking me all these questions like,"What is the family and your friends going to say when they find out that you're a girl who likes to look at girlie magazines?" "Do you like to look at women?" But I did'nt answer her questions because I did'nt know what to tell her.-- I did'nt know myself. I ran into the bathroom and cried for over an hour because I was so confused about the whole situation. They took me me home and my other cousin (her mother) never found out. We never discussed the incident again, But I've had questions about it for many years and about my sexuality as well. I guess that's lead me to telling my story on here to perfect strangers on the 'net. (p.s.- I've dated a male who was a total psycho, so I know the feeling!!) I'd like to talk to you online.....please let me know how I can chat more w/you.

It's funny that you've advised me not to act on these feelings while the other comment below you advised me that I should act on them. I've thought about having a "fling" with another female, but I'm too scared that getting involved with another female would be way too much drama, (and just plain weird.) I have and would only want to be in a serious relationship with a male. I think that I'm just a little "bi-curious", but mostly straight. I don't want to act on these feelings because of my spiritual/moral beliefs.
(p.s.-You did'nt offend me, and thanks for you're opinion/comment.)

Hey :). So, there's a chat room here, and I have an email addy I wouldn't mind giving you on here. I'd love to talk about this situation with you. If you want, we can set a meeting time to chat in the chat room or you can e mail me at bisexy_jenisis@yahoo.com. Looking forward to chatting with you.

You should hook up with jenisis.

your bicurious, at least i think you are? any hook up with jenesis, she can explain

your bicurious, at least i think you are? any way hook up with jenesis, she can explain

Bi-curious is spelled w/a hyphen dummy..... Finish you sentences dummy, and by the way, don't post them twice!!

Yeah right....I just said that it's just a phase and that I'd prefer to hook up w/ a guy!!....Please try to understand what you read!!

You are having evil homosexual temptations that I encourage not to go through with.According to the bible,homosexuality is a sin...and besides you aren't into relationships with women,so I suggest that you stick to men.
Read Genesis 19:1-13 in the bible if you want.

^Uh oh. Hmm. I don't think it's a sin if you didn't choose it. And psychology says it's not a choice. Sorry, psych is my minor and I have gay friends. But you are entitled to your beliefs. ;)

Anyway, when I was six, I took the freakin' JCPENNEY catalog in my bedroom and looked at the women's UNDERWEAR section. I also have mostly homo-erotic fantasies when I masturbate. But I think I want a man...or I'm in serious denial lol. A relationship with a woman would be, like stated before, dramatic and tough...and I don't have the desire for it.

I see a lot of these things, guys and girls wondering if they are gay or bi. I don't see the point of it. People often say they don't like labels and sometimes that's rather shallow patter but in the case of something like this, where its your feelings you are trying to sort out I think its important to remember that categories are artificial. They are makeshifts that some people came up with at one time to try and see if it helped them understand why people do what they do.

And just as in discussions of fetishes and fantasies, I think its important to remember that just because an action seems appealing doesn't mean that you have to rush right out and make that action a reality.

It may not be the girls or the girl on girl sex that really turns you on, it may be the sex itself. Sex may be connected with love, companionship, or friendship in your mind, or it may simply be a stirring feeling that is brought about by a chance occurrence. That may be a fickle wind to tie your self-perceptions to.

Apparently its very natural for people of all kinds to occasionally feel interest for other bodies of the same sex. You don't have to let it define you, freak you out, change your perceptions or your life plans. Just accept those feelings and go on with your life.

It sounds like to me that u r bi which is great best both worlds

Don't worry too much about it. you are very normal. Men and women have the same fantasies, yes you are bi-curious, most of the population is. But think hard before you act on impulse. Make sure its right for you. When I masterbate I have lots of fantasies, men and women. Sometimes I look at girls and I wished I had a penis. But, just certain girls not everyone. Believe me you are very normal.

I don't see how that passage affirms that homosexuality is a sin. You could use that passage to argue that disturbing someone's guests while they sleep is a sin, and be just as convincing.

Being bisexual doesn't mean you're exactly 50% attracted to women and 50% attracted to men.

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I think that it is totally normal for you to feel the way you do. I am in my early twenties and feel pretty much the same thing. All of my relationships have been with men, though I have kissed a girl or two. I find lesbians, especially artsy lesbian pornography very attractive. That doesn't mean much of anything. I believe that everyone naturally has attractions toward the same sex. If you don't feel comfortable exploring that side physically, that's fine. There is nothing wrong with a healthy fantasy life.

I would say you're bisexual, but only because I think everyone is. In the most traditional sense, you're probably bi-curious. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You really shouldn't feel pressured to define yourself though. Putting on a label can make you feel strained to fit into it.

Sexual energy is neutral. Many, many people have had homosexual thoughts and feelings, more than would admit to it; if you are comfortable with the idea of having sex with a woman, or if you desire sex with both genders, then you are bisexual. If you are attracted to women but only want sex with men, then you are heterosexual.
You're very normal, many people have had such thoughts at one time or another.

UR A LESBO HOMO LOL GO KILL URSELF [/unintelligent]

Only the DEVIL him/herself would say such a sick, ignorant ,and highly homophobic comment like that, 'Cuz only an ASSHOLE would pick a screename after the devil...Why don't YOU go KILL YOURSELF you prick Oh and bythe way ,satan is a fag and a liar and he SUCKS DICK BIGTIME!!!!OLLA!!!!

i think you should try out girls
but none that you know, someone you will most likely never see again, unless you want to ;)

Does anyone out there know where I can get some Artsy Lesbian Pornography?? Accprding to the commentator Missteya above,It sounds like it would be very interesting to look at. Please let me know.

enough of every1s huge loads of crap and plain and simple theres nothing wrong with bisexual WOMEN

*quoting anonymous person* " 12 The two men said to Lot, "Do you have anyone else here%u2014sons-in-law, sons or daughters, or anyone else in the city who belongs to you? Get them out of here, 13 because we are going to destroy this place. The outcry to the LORD against its people is so great that he has sent us to destroy it.""


you might want to get facts straight, these verses have nothing to do with homosexuality.

~~sorry to all those people out there who are offended by that post of the bible text~~

you probably get turned on when you see any one doing it cuz the thought of sex excites you

all people have a spectrum of sexual feelings inside themselves.,,,no one is all straight or all gay.even if we never act on homosexual thoughts we still have them and anyone who says they dont is lying.

i eat beans.

To: spamjavelin;
Boy, were u bored!

Sounds to me like there are two levels. On one level possibly bi-curious at most. On another level, comparing yourself with the other woman.

Or, for all I know, and judging from what you said. You are comparing yourself with the other woman in a way that you are imaging yourself with her looks with which the idea of making yourself more attractive to possibly other men turns you on hence the arousal. But confusing arousal caused by you having the other woman's looks and being looked at by a man with same sex attraction.

Uhh just me going off in my head. sorry, I do that a lot. And if you wonder about me? I identify as lesbian. Since I was 19 (now 23).