I love Oral stimulation

It's your sex life, not your friend's. If you and your boyfriend enjoy it, then that's all that matters.

I agree^
One day, before you cum, see if he can get it in.
Also, I really hope you are giving him head. How old are you?

We had a very long discussion and we shared our intimate feelings. It seems that we actually do have a problem that we are going to work on. My bf is 18 ( I'll be 18 in November) and ever since he was 14 years old he has been having pre-mature ejaculations. He says he really gets turned on by cunnilingus and that he always ejaculates sometimes but not always before I even have my orgasm. As soon as I touch him or even attempt a bj he ejaculates. We have kinda settled into a routine that neither of us know how to break, but it doesn't stop me from feeling a little bit guilty when he is spending so much time every day pleasing me and he just comes on his own. I do like avoiding intercourse though, It never felt that good with my last BF and I could never get an orgasm anyway. I hope this guilt feeling stops soon. Last night I didn't even need to ask him for sex and he was right down there for me again and again. Is there anything I can do to help him or should I just accept him as he is and just relax?

My boyfriend has a premo problem too. There are different things you and he can do to help him learn control. You both should talk with therapist. They really do help. We have tried different things - some work and some don't. Try having him take a cold shower before sex. This was how we started. It worked for us for a while. Something about what cold tempature does to the male genitals. Be aware though that many men build a resistance to cold so he might have to start soaking in a cold bath tub for longer periods of time even adding bags of ice. My partner resisted this for a while, but it seems to work great now. We even make this part of our ritual. I don't know how he is able to soak in a bath tub full of ice for so long, I could never do that but he is so intent on controling his premo that he rarely ever complains.

It sound like your guy wants to solve his problem, You should both see a therapist or try differnt things.

Good luck. I m going to show your post to my guy. Maybe it will inspire hime to go to lunch on me more often.

^ That sounds like good advice. Maybe you're just so sexy, you turn him on like crazy :) If you guys chatted about the issue, and he's truly ok with it,I say don't fix it until it's broken. Try not to feel guilty if he really has no problem whatsoever with your sex life. Sometimes your basic routine gets played, and maybe he'll get stronger in the pre-ejac. area. One day he'll say "Hey, I think I'm ready for that BJ", or "hey I think we can get it in now." Go with the dlow and enjoy what your getting for now. Remember your friends are just haters. They wish they could get the kind of lovin' you get alll of the time :)

Thanks for all the advice. I guess I just need to hear from other people who don't know me to figure things out best. If thing change, I'll write again..

You are all weirdos... No it is not normal.

I thought he was an unusual guy, but knowing his problem from reading the comments I feel sorry for him.

What I thought was unusual was him not wanting any favors from you in return, not his being ready to please you at any time. Eating out can sometimes be work, but it can also be worth it.

If he is happy with what you do for him, or what you are, or what you let him do with you, then there is no reason for you to feel guilty, and no use in it either. But I think its good if you want to help him deal with is problem. Though I think the cold shower and ice idea sounds really stupid, the kind of thing that a dim light would come up with who had chosen psychology and human sexuality classes because they were eaiser than anything else. Quack.

I'm no expert but what I've read about the issue says that increasing foreplay, taking it easy and gradually introducing more stimulation is the way to control premature ejaculation. And that cold water can be invigorating and actually increase blood flow to preserve temperature. The retracting effects on the male genitals are merely visible and do not relate to sensation, arousal or prowess.

If it hurts when you have sex you need to get that looked at by a doctor.

well i know exactly how your boyfriend is, i love to go down on my girl, even if i don't get anything back, even though i normally do
i like to add fruits or m&m's and such and find them with my mouth (makes it funner)
trust me he is happy if he is anything like me

I agree with your friends. You're selfish, plain and simple. He is eventually going to get bored of just pleasing you all the time. And you can bank on that! It's just a matter of when.
You need to find out why it causes you to have pain when you have sex, because that isn't normal. And you need to quit laying their like an old dead fish and please him some as well, whether he ask for it or not.

Look at this way. If you two ever break up. Chances are you'll not meet another guy that will tolerate onesided sex. And nor would I blame him.

That also applies to men who do this as well.

I think your friends are just jealous. If he likes pleasing you and you like being pleased then whats wrong with that?

You are only being selfish if your guy complains and you ignore him.

There are a lot of guys that are completely satisfied to just please their girls, trust me.

Just like there are a lot of girls that spend most of their sexual activity giving BJ's and letting their bf's lay their 200Lbs of weight on top of them whilst they pound away. I hear lots of girls talking about this, but believe me girls rarely leave guys they like over this.

I say that if you like having guys eating your sweet spot, then go ahead and enjoy.

I bet there are lots of guys just reading this BB that would be willing to replace your lover under the same arrangement.

Go ahead and ask right here and see what response you get or look at some of the previous posts.

well if he is happy and you are happy, what else matters?