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Cuddling, Affection

I am a guy. I love physical affection with my girlfriend more than anything. It really is the best thing in the world. There is nothing better.
For a few months last summer we would spend 2-3 fulldays per week--like 8 hours each day, and alone--just lying down and cuddling close while doing nothing else...usually no tv, no radio, nothing...just cuddling and closeness.
For me this is the best thing ever. I love it. I don't see myself ever getting tired of it. Sometimes I feel like ALL i want to do in life is cuddle and share affection all day and nothing else.
Also, we haven't had sex and we've been seeing each other 8 months and haven't had sex. It's not really an issue. Cuddling and all other closeness is very satisfying, though I sometimes I have a strong urge to go further, to get closer, in a loving way, NOT at all in a raw horniness way.
Basically I'm VERY appreciative of the physical closeness my girlfriend and I share. And it's really all I want in life.

So... Am I normal? Or am I more appreciative of affection and closeness and more loving than normal?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (12)
MADAMEROSE (1206)
2006-01-30 11:58:36
Thats really sweet most guys dont bother with cuddling they're only interested in one thing so its not normal but its a good thing.
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silence (442)
2006-01-30 15:55:50
You sound like a decent guy, I hope your girlfriend appreciates you.
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pie1985 (720)
2006-01-31 09:02:00
i have been through that too and it was ace. no its normal and better to be like that
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Anonymous
2006-02-02 17:48:41
that's like me
I'm a married male. I can so relate to this. When my girlfriend (now wife) were dating we agreed not to have sex before marriage. Our best times were the cuddling / affection times that I primarily initiated; now that I'm married I still prefer these close cuddling times over sex, by far! From what I have learned over the years, women (in general) prefer the affection and cuddling in the relationship; in fact, this seems to be their preferred form of intimacy. Men, on the other hand, are usually not aware of the intimacy needs of women and many men just can't relate to the need for a lot of cuddling and affection as you describe. I am sure you will make your girlfriend very happy to be the way you are!! I think this is completely normal (although I'm a bit biased since this is the way I am too). All men certainly have it within themselves to be like you are, but many tend to be too macho and just too much into their own sexual desires to fully consider the affectionate intimacy needs of the woman. More power to you!
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moonie (1027)
2006-03-04 00:10:38
You are not normal...
...but the world is in need of more men like you! My boyfriend is like this as well and we have a wonderful intimate relationship because of all the cuddle time. It's like our way of "catching up" with eachother at the end of a day and it's how we keep our love running strong (not to mention the wonderful sex we have as well because of our natural closeness). Just keep doing what feels right, you are doing the right thing :)
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Anonymous
2006-03-05 06:00:51
Men shouldn't have to be what they are not
Do all men really have it within themselves not to want what they actually want? The raw horniness rutting and sweating with the woman they love? May as well ask us not to hunger for food. I couldn't discard my appetite for the one any easier than I could discard my appetite for the other.

If cuddling is your natural urge why would it be considered more loving than another man employing his natural urge? Maybe you are closer to being a natural fit for what many women want than a more normal man, but if you are just acting on what you happen to be made to want isn't it just a coincidence?

Good for you that you're happy.
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mn_cowgirlie (1528)
2006-03-30 16:37:40
wow
omg. . .marry me!!!! lol. Those are the best words to ever hear come out of a guy's mouth. Seriously. Your woman's freakin lucky hun. WOW!!!
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Bore_Guy (1732)
2006-05-07 01:09:07
That's great. More important than sex in my opinion. Super abnormal, unfortunately.
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Anonymous
2006-05-08 02:40:04
You are completely awesome.
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girlslayer (1826)
2006-05-08 15:28:39
cuddling, affectoin
It is so normal to want to cuddle with your gf, It is a way of catching up and not going too far.
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Anonymous
2006-05-10 02:12:03
It's normal, but not typical.

As for the "women want cuddling while men want sex" stereotype, as a woman I'll say that sex is probably more important to me. Sure, I enjoy cuddling but not for hours on end.
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HOTgirly (3979)
2006-10-12 20:16:24
IT normal..and really sweet..ur gf is REALLY lucky most guys r just interseted in sex
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