I don't care who tells you differently hun. Anal sex is ALWAYS painful initially. Done by some one who knows what he is doing and is TOTALLY considerate, uses PLENTY of lubricant AND A CONDOM, it becomes managable and to some enjoyable. But it ALWAYS hurts at the start.

get used to fingers and smaller stuff before you try a dick.use lube and go slow and maybe being a little drunk wouldnt hurt....it will take the edge off the uncomfortable feeling.after a few times your butt will sort of open up and accept penetration .but some guys have rods that are so big that it wont ever be pleasureable for the female.I know.

Here's another option. DON'T do it if it doesn't appeal to you. If it's something you really want to give a fair try and it's important to your lover, I guess you can go with some extra lube and relaxation techniques. But the majority of women I've known throughout my life have not found it pleasurable, no matter what. Sorry if that makes me sound like a bit of buzzkill in this area. I'm actually all for whatever two consulting adults can enjoy together, but this is something that I don't fully grasp, either.

Um... Yeah its normal I guess- I actually find vaginal sex to be almost painful- I like anal more... but I am strange like that :P

I wasn't saying you HAVE to participate, merely advising that, even to a seasoned taker like myself, it always hurts.
Of course you have to WANT to do it to participate but it is stil gonna hurt initially no matter HOW you prepare. I KNOW!

i think they get pounded so much, it stretches it out. So it's ok for them... i dont know. Never did it.

Now, that is strange. I'm a male that stimulates himself anally, and I know it sometimes hurts