I cannot cum unless I close my eyes while I'm having sex with my husband and think about some guy forcing me to f**k him. My partner chokes me a little and spanks me sometimes but it's not enough. Am I normal?
I don't like the sound of the choking. THAT is DANGEROUS PLAY not bdsm. Even seasoned bdsm members are wairy of that. But whatever floats your boat. Seems role-play would maybe suit your needs. There are various restraints etc available on the net if you really want to get into it. Just remember before doing it, have a SERIOUS chat with your partner about you fantasies, likes and dislikes and the limits. Next you make a safe word that means STOP IMMEDIATELY. Then go for it. Good luck to you. Incidentally, type BDSM into your search engine. You'll be surprised how many sites there are out there dedicated solely to BDSM.
communitaction. dun tell US this. tell ya hubby! if he truely loves you he will be willing to do anything to satisfy you.