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My brother is an asshole
I am twenty years old. My brother is eighteen. My parents have never disciplined him EVERY, I mean he was never sent to his room or ever told he ever did anything wrong. I live at home, my brother goes way to school. He came home this weekend and I begged him not to harass me because it always leads to fight. He has always harassed me my whole life. He makes comments about my breasts, about my appearance, he tells me to shutup when I talk etc. Well what did he do? He started with as soon as he got come. I completely lost it and yelled at him. My mom then yelled at me for yelling at him? Does this make sense so far? I am not speaking to my mother or anyone else in my family for that matter, because they think I'm the one who is crazy and they refuse to tell him to leave me alone or that he did anything wrong! However, a year ago I made a casual remark that him and his best friend were more than friends and gay and he lost it and yelled and screamed and kicked and punched me for a week, no joke. My parents blamed me for starting and ruining his "graduation week" However, when he makes constantly calls me a lesbo and says my boobs are too big my parents don't say a word and yell at me and punish me for yelling at him. Is this normal or do I have every right to hate my family?Does anyone have any advice, b/c I need it!
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sweetie, move out, get a job, and just grow up. aight?
I think it sounds like your brother and your parents are the ones in the wrong!! There is no reason that he should be allowed to treat you this way. Even if he means these insults as jokes or teasing, you don't take it that way so he needs to respect you and stop! And he is far too old to be hitting you. You could get him thrown in jail for punching and kicking you. It is wrong and abusive. You don't have to take it.
I don't know all the details, obviously, but just because you are living at home and your brother is in school is no reason for you to be treated worse than him! It doesn't make him better than you or mean that he can abuse you.
You have every right to be angry with your family! I would recommend moving out to get away from them! (NOT because you need to grow up or something)
Good luck! (:
This is the result of a screwy family dynamic, and if you don't remove yourself from it you may have problems in the future. This is abnormal on your parents' part, and you are right to be angry with your family; that is very normal and healthy on your part. Use that anger and get out of there asap.
Get out. Not because you're 20, but because you are in an extremely unhealthy situation. Get out, distance yourself from those people and get into counselling immediately.
And yes, get a job, save up, move out.
You shouldn't have to take such abuse. Verbal abuse is unacceptable. It is extremely difficult to live in such a hostile environment.
On a side note, it is possible that your parents and brother are hinting for you to move out. Maybe they do not know how to convey the issue to you. Perhaps the negative comments from your brother are to antagonize you to move out. Maybe he was privy to a conversation with your parents about you still living there.
Or, perhaps your brother is immature and is jealous that you still live at home. Your parents sound typical. I don't know why it is that boys always get away with unacceptable behavior in the home.
Regardless, I think you should sit down with your mom one on one and talk to her about the verbal abuse and how upsetting it is to you. I also think you should ask her if you are still welcome in their home or if it is time for you to move out. Bring the issue up to your father next. Good luck!
I think you need to sit down with your parents and talk with them calmly tell them you r being treated unfairly. Remember not to shout. 20 is NOT too old to be living with your parents shut up other ppl!!!
Who says? YOU. Yeah that's right! It's actually very common these days. In Europe kids stay with their parents until their mid 20's. But anyone, don't judge. Each to their own. Also it's a lot cheaper!
He used to call me bit@# and slut, and whore and would never call me by my first name. My parents NEVER did a damn thing- I think because they were afraid of him too. I'm 32 now and we still don't get along. My advice is to save as much money as possible and move out ASAP- get a friend to find an apartment with. Don't try too hard with him sounds like he was exposed to a lot of disrespect either at school or earlier in his life- that same problem that My brother has. I would never chose to be friends with my brother and just because they are family you don't need to be obligated- get out as soon as you can.