My brother is an asshole http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/ I went through the same exact thing, and my bro and I are the same age difference apart, and he went away to school- same situation I lived at home until 22. [I was going to a really expensive school and had to live at home until I graduated, got a job saved and then moved out]. He used to call me bit@# and slut, and whore and would never call me by my first name. My parents NEVER did a damn thing- I think because they were afraid of him too. I'm 32 now and we still don't get along. My advice is to save as much money as possible and move out ASAP- get a friend to find an apartment with. Don't try too hard with him sounds like he was exposed to a lot of disrespect either at school or earlier in his life- that same problem that My brother has. I would never chose to be friends with my brother and just because they are family you don't need to be obligated- get out as soon as you can. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-22786 2006-07-10 00:44:58 ouch sucks for u.....why dunt u beat him up or push him down the stairs or sumthing' jus get rid of him or better yet u move out http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-21556 2006-06-25 19:59:48 beat that kid to a bloody fucking pulp, then hide his body under the house and blame it on ur parents http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-21554 2006-06-25 19:52:07 "Move out,20 is too old to be living with Mommy and Daddy." Who says' YOU. Yeah that's right! It's actually very common these days. In Europe kids stay with their parents until their mid 20's. But anyone, don't judge. Each to their own. Also it's a lot cheaper! http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-18309 2006-05-13 15:05:41 Perhaps your parents should stop cooking with cheese! http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-18254 2006-05-12 22:39:54 Hiya hunny I think you need to sit down with your parents and talk with them calmly tell them you r being treated unfairly. Remember not to shout. 20 is NOT too old to be living with your parents shut up other ppl!!! http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-18199 2006-05-12 14:26:10 why do you feel embarassed over your boobs, i feel great about my cock. Anyway your brother is probably a cocksmokin faggot. I reccommend antagonizing him until he gets the AIDS from his male companion. Also instead of letting his bullshit get to you, ignore him. Bothering you is just a way for him to gain attention. If you follow an intermittent reinforcement policy, you are likely to change his behavior. btw by intermittent, i mean don't reward all his positive actions, but reward randomly. Using the intermittent policy, the obnoxious behavior should become extinct, and the conditioned behavior will become the norm. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-18163 2006-05-11 23:39:58 Move out. You shouldn't have to take such abuse. Verbal abuse is unacceptable. It is extremely difficult to live in such a hostile environment. On a side note, it is possible that your parents and brother are hinting for you to move out. Maybe they do not know how to convey the issue to you. Perhaps the negative comments from your brother are to antagonize you to move out. Maybe he was privy to a conversation with your parents about you still living there. Or, perhaps your brother is immature and is jealous that you still live at home. Your parents sound typical. I don't know why it is that boys always get away with unacceptable behavior in the home. Regardless, I think you should sit down with your mom one on one and talk to her about the verbal abuse and how upsetting it is to you. I also think you should ask her if you are still welcome in their home or if it is time for you to move out. Bring the issue up to your father next. Good luck! http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17959 2006-05-10 10:01:54 The older sibling is the guinea pig, the youngers are used to correct mistakes made on the older. I know from experience, but that's just the way it is. My now 21 year old sister never got on my nerves a lot, but my now 20 year old brother and i were best friends, but got into a lot of bad arguments. He got away with a lot of stuff I never did at his ages, but the past is the past. Just play along with him, that is the best way to handle a situation, rather than get mad http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17876 2006-05-10 01:06:15 You're 20 years old and still being punished' Next time your brother even says something negative towards you, tell him to shut the f*ck up, that he can burn in hell for all you care, and you hope he gets Aids from his gay boyfriend. If your parents try to take his side on that one, simply say you're sick of the BS, and ask what their f***ing problem is. Stand up for yourself and tell everyone how you feel about the situation. And yes, get a job, save up, move out. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17844 2006-05-09 20:10:58 No, this is a form of abuse. You have a dysfunctional family. Get out. Not because you're 20, but because you are in an extremely unhealthy situation. Get out, distance yourself from those people and get into counselling immediately. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17712 2006-05-09 05:53:46 kick his ass http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17599 2006-05-09 00:40:09 This is a bad situation for you, and you should make every effort to get out of it as soon as you can. You're an adult now, and don't need to be putting up with this. This is the result of a screwy family dynamic, and if you don't remove yourself from it you may have problems in the future. This is abnormal on your parents' part, and you are right to be angry with your family; that is very normal and healthy on your part. Use that anger and get out of there asap. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17503 2006-05-08 19:05:13 Kick him in his fing nuts. Then go to his room and throw all his shit on the ground. Then threaten to kill yourself.. that will get your parents attention. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17334 2006-05-08 13:23:18 The situation you are in is totally unhealthy. You're parents and brother are completely in the wrong. You really need to get away from them. Get a job. Move out. I did when I was 19. It may be difficult but if you have a job and some roommates, you'll make it. And really nearly anything is better than what you're dealing with now. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17241 2006-05-08 01:52:55 Funny no one's noticed that maybe he gets treated like the perfect child is because he's a boy. Has no one ever met parents who only wanted a male child, and made their daughter's life hell for the 'mistake' of being a girl. Considering it's the father who determines the child's gender. Eh, I'd hit him back, what are they going to do' Or call the cops when he hits you. He's old enough, you know. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17153 2006-05-07 21:19:53 Wow. I'm surprised at the comments you got back on this one. I disagree entirerly. I think it sounds like your brother and your parents are the ones in the wrong!! There is no reason that he should be allowed to treat you this way. Even if he means these insults as jokes or teasing, you don't take it that way so he needs to respect you and stop! And he is far too old to be hitting you. You could get him thrown in jail for punching and kicking you. It is wrong and abusive. You don't have to take it. I don't know all the details, obviously, but just because you are living at home and your brother is in school is no reason for you to be treated worse than him! It doesn't make him better than you or mean that he can abuse you. You have every right to be angry with your family! I would recommend moving out to get away from them! (NOT because you need to grow up or something) Good luck! (: http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-17138 2006-05-07 20:33:17 remember that when your parents are gone, all you will have are your siblings. this is hard to realize when you are young. it is normal to practice ways of dealing with conflict with your siblings. we all do that. but finding ways to get along is more challenging, and more important. it sounds like both you and your brother may have too much time on your hands. throw yourself into lots of activities and work to save the money to move out. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-15569 2006-04-10 10:35:18 i love the cock http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-15312 2006-03-30 17:53:47 Have you noticed that perhaps the reason your parents treat him differently (maybe as more of an adult, shall we say' although he may not act like it with you) is because he is the 18 yr old son who went off to school to make something of himself, while his 20 year old sister stayed home to---do what''' rely on big boobs and mommy and daddy's money the rest of her life''' sweetie, move out, get a job, and just grow up. aight' http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-15305 2006-03-30 17:09:24 sounds like your brother needs an ass wooping, nothing too harsh though, he just needs to know that he is not a kid anymore and the childish behavior will have dire consequences in the real world if he keeps it up http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-14778 2006-03-14 10:24:51 To be honest, it is probably all your fault, women-folk are usually in the wrong, plus, every sibling in the world thinks that their brother/sister is the favourite. Maybe you should show some class and be the bigger person' Also, move out of your parents house http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-14759 2006-03-14 09:53:19 Move out,20 is too old to be living with Mommy and Daddy. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-14679 2006-03-12 14:16:08 Men a much more homophobes then women, thats why he won't have liked it, maybe the reason he doesn't get done is because he doesn't wine about getting done makeing it seem like he hasn't got done, you on the other hand probably will get the real face on and start thinking that you are the victim when ure just much mardier. learn to laugh at him as if your natrualy the better one in time he will get board and just not even talk to you, then give it a year and you will be gd friends, see how it works. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-14055 2006-02-21 05:24:23 Move out, you are 20. http://isitnormal.com/story/2082/#comment-14048 2006-02-20 20:38:49