"Worth the Wait"

Honey, in this day and age you should be very proud of yourself! It sounds like you are very sensible about why you are saving it.

Wow, it's a rare thing that I get a compliment for this, even though it's a good thing.
Whoever wrote this comment, Thanks 4 your positive words of encouragement and support.

I LOVE YOU MARRY ME!!!!!! lol sorry i think that's sweet. and there's some girls out there(i hope) who think so too.

I'm really impressed. Congrats on having so much guts and sticking to what's right for u. and i would know. i'm in the same boat. i'm 20 and am determined to stay a virgin til marraige for many reasons. good luck and stay strong. u rule. : )

I think that is absolutely awesome what your doing!! I'm only 17 but I've already decided to save 'it' for marriage just because i do believe it is very special and is meant for two people to share!! Your wife is very lucky!

Nice to see that I'm not alone in having sanity these days... lol

Its great to hear there are others out there :)

I'm a guy and was in a relationship with a girl who wanted to wait. We waited 3+ years, then did it. By that time we were pretty damn good at pleasing each other without sex, so sex wasn't much of a big deal. Seems like the whole controversy about whether to wait or not was pretty dumb =

I'm a virgin too. I want to save it, too. I think there are more out there than you realise, it's just they don't advertise it as much. Good for you.

WOW! Poor you.. Your really missing out. I'll even let you fuck me i feel so bad and im not even gay!

I really resect you for sticking to your decision to wait. It is very hard to do.

that's so awesome!!! i'm almost 16 and i'm trying to do the same thing, it's nice to know some people actually go through with it! Rock On!

my buddy wants to know your number!!!!!

I'm a female. So When I get married I guess my husband will be VERY LUCKY!!

I'm a female, and I'm not gay either! What's you're gender? (I'm assuming you're male!) I just want to save it 4 the right person, Well, I don't have to explain it to u or anyone else. I just wanted to share my story, was all. Don't feel sorry for me, feel sorry 4 all the people out with all those STDS out there, (esp.) HIV/AIDS.

I just want to let everyone know who responded to my story that I a FEMALE!!!! From most of your replies it was assumed (for one reason or another) that I was a guy! I did'nt reveal my gender in my story at first to protect my privacy, But I've decided to to end the confusion once and for all! Sorry for any confusion this may have caused any of you. As for giving out my #, that's going 2 be a definite No, and as for the marriage proposal, Although I think it's from a female ,and I'm not gay, I just wanted to say that I'm flattered anyway--I would be esp. flattered if were a guy!! Last but least, I hope I've been a good example for all the younger people out there,and Thanx alot for all the POSITIVE responses of encouragement and support.

I am 19, virgin. Not exactly proud of it, lots of circumstances involved with it that would require paragraphs of explination. I am essentially stuck where you are. There are only a few specific people who I am willing to give it up to. Not even my current-- I am really hesitant to type "girl friend". It has been three dates and we still haven't broken any ice! While not average, your reasons seem normal.

No way is waiting until 30 to have sex with someone "normal." It's your choice, but the norm is for people to follow their instincts and have sex.

What is totally freaking bizarre, however is that you claim to be 30 but use junior high computer lingo (eg replacing the word "you" with "u" etc.)

With the two things combined (not having sex in your teens or 20's) and talking like you're 18 years younger than you say you are? You're getting really *freaky* there.

But your attitude about sex and your lingo are both perfectly normal for a 12 year old, which I suspect you are.

I know that you have a right to own opinions, but if all you have to say is downright Bullshit, Then keep it to yourself!! As for what you call "Junior High" lingo, I wanted to be different and not spend my time typing all day, so if u (for the slower people out there, I meant YOU), don't like it, then that's you're
problem. Why do u have to be negative and disrespect someone that you don't even know that's trying to be positive? If anyone sounds "freaky" than it's you. This country has morals that are completely "down the
drain" to encourage teens to have sex before the age of 18. Did you know that we have more teen pregnancies here than in most third world countries? Of course, someone like you would'nt know that 'cuz (I meant, because) you're too busy critizing and judging people on websites like this. Look, This MY LIFE and when and if I chose to have sex is MY BUSINESS!! When it comes to this subject, What's "normal" for some may not be for others. If some choses to have consentual sex at 14 or they wait 'til 20,30,40+ or never, that's their choice. I know some of these comments are gonna be stupid like yours, 'cuz people just want to put you down. But I'm still gonna be positive about this 'cuz I am 30, a virgin, and proud of it! And I'm not gonna let you or any other STUPID, IMMMATURE, PERSON LIKE YOU get to me who has some clearly SERIOUS ISSUES and is in need of some serious THERAPY!! With that said, I suspect that the only TWELVE-YEAR-OLD in this chat room is YOU!!!!

I know that I was really putting myself out there whaen I decided
to tell my story, But,what I did'nt expect is all the STRONG reactions I've been getting, and some of you have shared your stories with me about being virgins over 18 (some still under 18), Which I really appreciate. T the Jerks: I'm just gonna tell all of you upfront: You don't have to agree with what I'm doing, But I if you don't have anything POSITIVE to say , than don't waste my time or yours, because one thing that I think is stupid is for people to send STUPID, NEGATIVE, "comments". If you say nasty things to me about this , I'm gonna send them RIGHT BACK. If you don't agree with my beliefs, than fine, just MOVE ON, and again don't waste you're time or mine 'cuz I don't want to read negative B.S. from people that I don't know (I've told two people off already, and they know who they are!) So keep your negative comments to yourself, 'cuz I just don't need the "Drama" in my life! No matter what you say, I'm NOT gonna let you get to me or put me down!! I'm proud of who I am DAMMIT, and if ya'll don't like it you can all KISS MY ASS!!!! (To the supporters: sorry if I said a little defensive here! again, Thanks for all your KIND WORDS of SUPPORT.)

I once felt like you, But I don't see myself as stuck. I was gonna just "give it up" But I just want to wait for the right person. sounds like reason are very simliar to mine. hang in there you'll meet the right person eventually. Don't be ashamed of what you are.

Saving sex is merely depriving yourself of something great. Sure, be selective; having protected sex with someone you care about is worth it.

Beware, wait to long and your ninny will dry up.

It isn't unrealistic to save yourself. Also, the group to which you are talking isn't very small. Look at the latest surveys. The only one I remember off the top of my head says that 73% of 18 year old girls are virgins (49% of those are proud of it).

I agree that to each is own and it is normal! Hearing some of those comments and stats were encouraging. The negative aspect of society practically damns females if they do and damns them if they don't. You aren’t the oldest virgin. There was an elderly man in his eighties I believe that finally found his true love and well, you know. My good friend lost her virginity at 33 and I myself am a 22 year old virgin and PROUD of it! Yes, it is difficult because sexuality is a big aspect of the human experience; however it shouldn’t consume a person. Has it been difficult? Sure. Have I been tempted? You bet! Believe it or not MEN, women want it just as much as you do and sometimes more.

Thanx you so much for your comment. It was really encouraging and insightful. It's nice to hear from someone who can relate. I know that you may never see this message, But whoever and wherever you are , THANK YOU!!

am 18 and wanna have sex real badly ... Just didnt find any one to have sex with (that i really like )i hope i'm not 30 and still a virgin ... I would be thinking of suicide by that time ...because it not normal not to have sex. I was suppose to have sex the day puberty kicked in lol