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Please give an opp. ..... I just want the truth

Um, I suppose the purpose of this is to find out if I'm weird, unique, strange, or a freak? I have been called them all on many occasions. What I would like to take from this is an unbiased oppinion of my general being by giving my story.

To start off, the reason I am SO often called these things is because of my appearance. I am a guy, 20 years old, and I am pretty, beautiful, however you want to describe me, but the truth is if you were to crowd a group of males same age into a room, I would stand out because of this characteristic. The problem is that I am male, and im BEAUTIFUL. Not handsome, not sexy, beautiful If you can understand ? I have the cheek bones the green eyes the black hair the long white teeth the height. So needless to say, the guys that are all musclely and tanned and etc. call me fag, female and the like. This is so common, I have had to learn to let it slide. But I'm starting to think I really am a freak. People really do hate me. And it really henders alot of social interactions. I don't understand why, It really might be my fault because I dont want to be called these things. Everytime I go anywhere public, even though I live in a big city I attract alot of attention. I am bi * the most sexually active orientation* and yet absolutely turned off by the idea of sex in general. Family members notice it too, when we go out. Most people go into grocery stores and never bat an eye. I go and i'm either called names or stared at like meat, and its really starting to take it's toll. Because I am seperated from the general population, I noticed *as have those close to me* that I see things in a different way. I listen to music that others didnt know they liked and sh!t like that. I dont know.. maybe I'm just being stupid. Some people call me "Unusual" some call me "Special" and some just plain call me "Freak". But unfortunately the point is that they call me things period. I don't think they see this point. If they just wouldn't pay attention to me is the point. Attention on me is amplified 2x. If I have a good hair day, its like "ooo, he looks cute today" "well, I don't know I like it better yadda yadda yah", and when it's bad EVERYONE NOTICES. I want my bad hair day dammet. I want no one to notice if I don't match.

PEOPLE LIKE TO TALK ABOUT ME.

I DON'T KNOW WHY

AND I DON'T KNOW WHY I DON'T LIKE IT

I JUST DON'T

and if you understand anything, understand that I am not being paranoid or exaggerating.
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Anonymous
2006-03-13 08:41:49
It's all about presentation.
Sounds like you stand out in a crowd. I'm guessing you have an outlandish hairdo and wear wild clothes.

If you don't like the attention, tone down your looks, stay away from wild hairdos and clothes. Blend into the crowd with normal blue jeans and subdued t's, a normal short haircut, etc.
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greggbarridallas (1481)
2006-03-14 07:16:42
NO OFFENSE
No offense, but the you done sound too normal to me, the jock the everyday person at the store know what normal is, you said yor bi, and a normal person automatically knows this when they see you (they already know, dont even have to ask and in some cases think your full blown gay!) And what guy says that they look beautiful? It sounds like there is something wrong with you and if it transends through a simple page, I can only imagine what you look like and how you represent yourself. Most people aren't open to gay behavior and its a simple fact that people aren't as open minded as you and DO think your weird. My only advice is to get use to it because I can tell that it is going to haunt you for the rest of your life!!!!!!!
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bombshell (1483)
2006-03-14 20:42:11
I kinda know what you are saying because I am an above average looking female and I have similar problems. Try not to pay too much attention to others, like dont't look at them and try to detract from attention. Still dress how you want though, you can't change who you are just b/c of how you look and how others react. Most people are jealous, honestly! Be proud of yourself!
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pie1985 (720)
2006-03-15 01:21:05
but how can you be so sure
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leah_ropp (1455)
2006-04-16 14:13:01
girls like pretty boyz. why do you think elijah wood is so popular?
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omerta (1644)
2006-04-27 06:44:49
Firstly, you sound perfect to me :S and I'd say you're extremely lucky [:

The problem isn't in the way you look, it's in the fact that you're trying to fit in amongst narrow minded, shallow people. The way I see it, if someone is narrow minded enough to form an opinion [good or bad] of you based entirely on your appearance, they are not the sort of person whose opinion should matter to you anyway.
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Anonymous
2006-04-29 09:10:11
lol apparently i look like elisher wood lol,look alot of girls do like pritty boys*smiles to himself* but try to fit in abit more ust go to the gym and all that and have normal hair and dont be all puffy lol
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Lying_Data (1657)
2006-05-06 23:25:30
Because in this format we can't see a picture of you or anything, I'm just guessing you must have some stand out features that demand attention, negative or positive. I can see why you wouldn't like that. Maybe your hair style or the way you dress is different. If that's the case, a mainstream hair cut and ideal clothing would probably outweigh your softer looks, but changing your style would be lame.

If people are going to stare at you for said reasons, you're just going to have to accept it. This isn't normal and that's not bad. It sounds like you have something to be proud of. My favorite appearances are unusual ones. You need to build self confidence with or without the support of your peers.
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aawood (1744)
2006-06-08 23:21:14
People would not just stare at you and call out because you were more "beautiful" than most people. There's either more going on here than you're admitting to us, or more going on than you yourself are not aware of.

I'd ask yourself if there's any particular way you dress or act that draws more attention to yourself, personally. And that's not to say it's in any way BAD to be an individual, quite the opposite, but it's a possible reason for the extra attention.
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