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IS SHE NORMAL???
I am 20 years old and I believe that I am a go getter.I have been with this girl for 4 years and we have a son together and another kid on the way with her.She is a year younger than me so while she was finishing high school, I was working and got us an apartment.Towards the end of our lease she left me because I kept getting mad that i would work and have to come home and clean the house and cook the food because she didn't want to.After hearing the real reason she left, her mother told her that i was right and she was wrong.So since HER MOTHER told her that she should be the one to do all if not help with the house work, she wanted to get back together but it was towards the end of my lease so I decided to move back in with my mom and go to college.I worked a full time job for 20 months and went to school at nights full time during that time also.I would leave at 7:30 in the morning and come home at 11:30 at night monday through friday for the most part.She finally got a job even though I wanted her to alot sooner than she did, and got a car(which was a dumb move because she worked part time and only made alittle over 300$ a month which was just enough to pay for the car which meant I had to constantly give her gas money.).She worked at nights when i was in school so I only got to see her and my son on the weekends which consisted of me laying around the house because I was gone 80 hours a week working and going to school.So I admit I wasn't the best father in the world but if he wanted toys or anything I would ALWAYS get it for him.I would try to recuperate over the weekend for all the work I did during the week.This went on for 20 months .*this is something important for you to know, her mother doesn't work and her dad works 2 jobs with the same schedule I did with both work and school and all he does is sit on the couch and sleep during the weekend.*Throughout the time I was going to school, she kept pushing for an apartment and I had to keep telling her, "I only make 10 dollars an hour and if you would even get something better than a minimum wage jb we could be together because if not were going to have to wait until I finish school to get one.Well, I finished school on March 10 which was a friday and I think she just assumed that since i'm finished, i now suddenly have money even though I haven't looked for a job yet.On march 13th, she told me that she needs an apartment now and I explained that I have to get a job first. I even told her that I wanted to get rid of my car and she could pick me up from work for only 1 month so I can save up.She then said she could not take 45 mins out of her day to pick me up at 3:30 because she had to be at work at 6:00.WTF??? Iwas pissed and she started crying saying that she was stupid for waiting so long and she knew when I finished school I was going to leave her.She broke up with me and said I dont love her(she left with my son)excuse me for trying to better myself and trying to so something for US!
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Well, I always believe there are 2 sides, (maybe even more) to the story. I don't want to sit here and kick her back in, but from what you've written, it sounds like you are doing the best you can, and she doesn't want to face reality. She also sounds like she was very spoiled as a kid, and doesn't know what adult responsibilities are. I think you should get yourself a well paying job, and do what's best for you and your son. You aren't married, so no need to try and care for her. If you love her, and want a family, then you will have to be very open with her and tell her how you feel. Listen to how she feels too, and maybe you all can work something out, but for now, get your career going, and be sure to see your son. Good Luck.
I wrote the post and there is more. since her mother doesn't work she thinks that is the norm and that her dad works 2 jobs because he loves her. Her mother is a real bitch and thought that me going to school was a dumb idea. this coming from a womens which had a big enough ambitiion when she worked to work at a lunch line in a high school cafeteria. I also recieved an award for best student in my course study at my graduation and upon hearing this she replies "Oh, I recieved that in high school" and thats all she said which makes me seem like she is trying to down play that accomplishment I recieved. Her parents are not all there in the head and it seems that there is nothing I can do to convince her that all you need to do is pick me up on certain days for 1 month and we will move in together. When i told her this yesterday she jumped off the deep end and went with the old "see i knew everyone was right, you just wanted to be with me while you were in school and after you got out you weren't going to need me anymore." WTF was I going to school for??? she cant get that through her thick skull. I bet if her dad needed a ride she would find a way to pick his ass up but for me HELL NO. She thinks I dont want to move in with her because I was stupidly too tired to work a full 8 hours a day and go to school for 20 months to be able to get an apartment. When I told her I was going for Computer Engineering she said why dont you get a real job(which meant work my ass like some wetback and make 12 $ an hour doing warehouse work like her dumb ass father). Well F me!! I must be the worst guy in the world!!!!!! Her parents are the dumbest people I have ever met and it breaks my heart to think that she will take my son from me but I know if that happens, when I get a good job I am going to fight for joint custody if not full and show the courts what I have sacrificed to make myself better for which i thought that I was making myself better for US! she will still probably be a janitor making 300 dollars a month with no career goals so I am pretty sure the courts will see myside. Its just frustrating that I didn't see this when we first started going out. No she wont return my phone calls. My son is already pretty smart so I I have to one day explain this to him, I know that he will be smart enough to understand why I never wanted this to happen and why his mother is a jack ass!
The daughter sounds like a fucking idiot. I pity you and your child.
Sounds like you needed to vent, I stand on the advice i offered. All I can say is good luck and don't drive yourself insane chasing after a selfish biatch. Do your thing, and take care of your son. :)
dude, this chick does sounds extremely spoiled/blonde if you know what i mean, i give you props for dealing with her while going to school and working full time keep it up and you deff. would get your son if you fought for custody! and her parents sound soooo closed minded, so does she, i hope your son takes after you!! GOOD LUCK!
Bahh, your story is too long... cant read them!
I've been in a similar situation to you, I was also 20 with a little girl and a little boy on the way, and I continued studying. Your doing the right thing, You deserve way better than this and I know things will work out. Keep your chin up and take care of that little boy...You'll get that job you want, although even with an education it's sometimes hard to get the job you want. I really really hope everything works out for you dude, You sound like a nice guy with his head screwed on the right way and they sound like a bunch of numbnuts. I wish you all the luck in the world friend..........
WOW!....dam why the hell couldn't she wait?.She messed up as hell...dam i dont got anything to say but that shit is sad...just take her to court...you got many shit to say bout her...i bet they gonna let u keep the kid
Fuckin hell you can talk.
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