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My unstable boyfriend..
So I've been dating this kid for quite a while, and we've done everything BUT have sex..

I feel like im in love with him, and we exchange those words.. but part of my feels like he pressured me into saying it, and yes, I have told him that I felt this way.

My best friend got extremly upset the other night because the three of us were out to have a good time and she felt as if I treated her terribly. I then thought of breaking up with my boyfriend.. he was so upset he cried.. I didn't think he thought of me as so important to him..

I appologized to both of them for all the drama. Now, he lives two hours away and called earlier to ask what I would do if he were to take his own life tonight.. I know now he is okay and won't do such.. but how do I know it will always be that way? It brings me down too.

He told me today that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He said forever.. I didn't say this back.. I told him forever was a long time, and I didn't want to make any commitments I was unsure of keeping.

I won't lie. I have commitment problems when distance is into play. (no, i have not cheated on him) I am a huge flirt and.. I just don't want to stay with someone so unstable.

How do I break it to him without breaking his heart?

Last night he asked me if I still wanted to be with him after all the drama, I told him I didn't even know anymore..

We talk, and he makes me fall for him, but when I think about it more and more I just want to call it quits.

Any advice..?

insightful advice please.
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Comments (14)
ecman (12742)
2008-01-13 17:59:14
Make it a point not to see or hear from each other for 2 weeks then see how you both feel.

Time heals all wounds.
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flikr (10636)
2008-01-13 18:00:19
boring
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Chris_Ufc (8299)
2008-01-13 18:12:15
This just makes my stomach turn.
You sound extremly young and you have caught your self up into such bullshit.

You have your self caught up in a relationship with a guy who is taking this way to serious and your having second thoughts. If he called you saying he was going to kill him self then I think maybe you need to take a step back and end this before it gets way out of hand. Your not even an adult yet and this guy is maping our your lives together. Thats to serious for someone who hasnt even slept with you yet.

I suggest you watch who you say "I love you" to. Dating is fun but not fun when someone goes psycho path on you.
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DaddYCaT4MommaCaT18to30 (11839)
2008-01-13 18:29:33
GROW UP AND LET YOUR BRAIN MATURE THEN DECIDE TO DATE , RIGHT NOW , YOU ARE TOO AND I MEAN WAY TOO IMMATURE TO DATE ANYONE
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2008-01-13 19:58:44
I don't like to expose myself and tell people what my stoired are, but this one is mine.

Chris, yours was most helpful thank you. And I totally agree. I don't know what love is, and I do regret saying it to him, and felt pressured to do so. I always thought I was the strong girl that didn't give in, but I've learned better now.

Flikr thank you for reading it?

ecman. I've tried it before.. and the tension is just strange then..

and daddycat person.. I do agree that my mind has some maturing to do. I'm only 16 years old. Although I don't feel I'm too young or too immature to date. I just fell into the wrong relationship, but let's be honest, who doesn't once in their life?

Thank you for your advice.. I'm going to talk to him about backing off tomorrow and see what goes on with that from there..

Anymore advice is appriated.

Thanks

Angel
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flikr (10636)
2008-01-13 20:15:06
@: babyangel2580
oh your cute, don't listen to daddyperson, you are more than old enough to date and to have sex, i think you should stay with him
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flikr (10636)
2008-01-13 20:18:17
@: babyangel2580
i hate all this bullshit people like to come up with about, "your brain shouldn't have sex and let it grow, sex is bad, don't do it" if you wear a condom then nothing bad can happen, or just do it in the ass then you can't get pregnant
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2008-01-13 20:38:50
flikr my story had nothing to do with sex really..

and i just talked to him on the phone and told him things were moving too fast, and i refused to say i love you back to him..

he asked why, i told him that i just dont think i know what true love is and that this talk of forever isn't me. i like to live my life day by day.

he cried.. but im starting to wonder if he is just weak, or if i hit that soft spot in him.. that he really does care.

but if i dont feel the same after contemplating my feelings.. isn't that life that sometimes you're just going to get hurt?

im just so confused.

what the hell.. im venting on the internet..

ADVICE?!
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flikr (10636)
2008-01-13 20:56:13
@: babyangel2580
tell him that you don't love him, you don't want to be with him forever, but you still want to date him
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cabinet70 (4440)
2008-01-13 23:31:42
Set this boy straight end it now never yield to emotional blackmail he is an imature idiot who talks aboput suicide evrytime things go wrong your too good for him angel act quickly before it goes too far
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2008-01-14 12:04:54
so now he tells me that if i break up with him he'll understand but he's not sure what he'll do w/o me..

is this the time to do it? or should i hold onto the relationship & see if things calm down & work themselves out?
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2008-01-14 16:18:20
we're not together anymore.. i guess it was that simple as to telling him the truth

he told me "let the blood flow, i give up, just remember im giving up all my dreams for you"

i talked to one of his best friends about it, and he seems to be all talk. im glad im out of that fucked up relationship.

thanks for the advice though everyone

angel
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cabinet70 (4440)
2008-01-14 23:49:31
@: babyangel2580
Nice to hear angel Im glad for you
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2008-01-19 08:15:19
we're back together..

i dont know what it is about him.

but i dont care anymore.

i
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