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I need some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for only 5 days, but we've been best friends for 4 months now. We're pretty close and I like him a lot, but he thinks he loves me. I'm not going to say he doesn't, but I personally don't know what to think. Anyway, lately I've been thinking of breaking it off with my boyfriend. Although I like him, he scares me. He has been through a lot in his life and today he told me about all of the things in his life that have caused him to become super depressed. While talking about it, he became depressed and kind of started crying on the phone with me. Following that, he told me that I mean so much to him and that I'm one of the things that have been keeping him going. I'm so worried that if I break up with him, he'll become even more depressed or commit suicide because he has already said that he wants to die. He also told me that after a shower, when the mirror was still steamed up, he wrote our initials on his mirror and wrote "FOREVER" under it. I'm 17 and he's 14 and I really don't want to spend the rest of my life with somebody I met in high school, especially somebody that I won't be allowed to legally date within a year. I also have feelings for many other guys and I'm not a cheater, but my feelings for those other guys have been taking away from me feeling much more for my boyfriend. I don't feel anything when I hug my boyfriend, as well. Basically, I'm under a lot of pressure and I need advice on whether I should break up with him or not.
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Comments (7)
I think that the sooner you break it off, the better. You are too young to be tied to someone like this. Fine if you really love him and you are committed to helping him through his problems but it doesn't sound like your feelings are strong enough. Be his friend and point him in the right direction for counselling or something.
You can't stay in a relationship with someone just because you feel sorry for them. It's only been 5 days so I would say be straight with him and don't lead him on.
He is a bigger girl than you ditch him and all his problems you dont need it and he should get on with his life and stop moaning about his life
you have feelings for MANY other guy? yea I'd have to say I don't really get that. Sounds to me like you need to figure out what you want, and who you want, before it blows up in your face.
When I was younger, so much younger than today...
I never needed anybody's help in any way!
i don't want to ditch him because he's my closest guy friend, but he's driving me up the damn walls!
Sounds like he's dependent on you to an innappropriate extent, and I suggest ending the relationship before it moves further along. Simply explain that you don't have romantic feelings for him but do value his friendship and hope to keep it. If he still doesn't understand, throw in the age factor that the relationship has against it; in a year or so it would be illegal for you to have any sexual contact with him. After all of this, if you're still worried he might hurt himself, then you have to talk to his parents or a trusted adult to get him help.

As for you, try not to feel guilty about hurting his feelings. It is no one's responsibility to be the source of other peoples' happiness, and your guy needs to learn that before he can start to feel better.
things have gotten better. we have been together for nearly 3 weeks and i am beginning to feel more when we hug and stuff. :-)
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