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Scholarships and rich parents?
Hi all,

First of all, thanks for reading this post. I've never posted something like this online before, so thanks for taking the time, I suppose in a way it's cathartic for me.

So ok, here's my story. As you can tell from the title, my parents are relatively rich and I've had a relatively easy childhood/life. I'm not saying that I wear Armani and buy champagne, but it wouldn't be outside the realm of possibility if I wanted to. Please though, I hope you don't take that as being obnoxious.

But anyway, my question is this: Is it ethical for me, being a child of privilege, to apply for scholarships to do a summer internship where I'd work for the public interest (providing legal assistance to minority communities facing eviction, eminent domain, etc. no more info, sorry, as then I might be identifiable)?

On the one hand, I want to be self-sufficient and not rely on my parent's assets during the summer. Applying for the scholarship (and of course, this presumes I get it) would be me "doing it for myself", in a way.
On the other hand, there are hundreds of more deserving, and definitely more needy, individuals who would love to have the summer scholarship to do a public interest internship they've been dreaming about. I have access to so many resources, and I'd feel horrible about taking away someone's chance at helping a community, or even *their* community that they're trying to better.

In a sense, getting the scholarship would make me feel better about myself, raise my self-esteem: I can support myself in a field I'm interested in and committed to without my parents assistance. But is it right to pursue that goal of self-assurance at the cost of tangibly affecting someone else's dreams of helping others, especially when they have fewer resources than i do?

Thanks again for reading.
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Comments (17)
you sound like a good person, but i don't think you should help minorities, there is plenty of white people that need more help than minorities, that's kind of racist to focus on a certain race
actually it's not kind of racist it is racist
bigot
@: flikr
But you're saying I should help white people? Wouldn't I be racist as well then?
@: flikr
By the way, do you even know what bigot means? And you don't even know what race I am, or who I'm helping.
Go troll somewhere else.
I say take the money from your parents. Seeing as they brought you into the world, they are somewhat obligated to help you as long as you don't take advantage of them. The act of your parents helping you better yourself so you can be more self-sufficient in the future isn't the same as you taking advantage of them. It's simply them helping to guide you towards your own future. So let those less fortunate people have the scholarship funds, and perhaps it will help their future as well. And if you truly feel obligated, pay them back in the future when you do have the funds (though if they're decent people, they'll likely decline your offer).
if your parents can pay then they should .you are right there are lots of kids trying to go to college who just dont have a source of money to do so and you would be knocking someone else out of that money.

2 years ago at our local high school I had a relative graduating and I went.the valedictorian ,the one who got all the money to help pay for college,was a doctors kid,probably the kid who needed the least help of any kid that day got the most.It sort of left a bad taste,to know that 1)she probably got those few thousandths of a point she won the valedictorian by because she was a docs kid and 2) that led to all sorts of free money for her.
At least your not too obnoxious to be fussy about what type of education you undertake. You are obviously down to earth person so just get the scholarship and enjoy it.
You have to follow your heart. Who says the 'poor' kid will make the most of the chance? Believe me when I tell you, and all the other kids in here, YOU MAKE YOUR OWN LUCK in this life. Grab every chance you get and make the most of it. Repay those who follow by making something of your life.

GOOD LUCK.
You should do things in life that you are interested in and passionate about, it's not your fault your parents have more money than others, if you are worried about it though can you not do the same thing without a scholarship? Get them to pay for you to do it? If its not possible then go for it, your doing something amazing for other people, how can anyone deny you that chance!? Like others have said, you sound goodhearted and it sounds as if your parents have brought you up really well.
@: ospot
you are a racist
@: ospot
and you get out of here with that stupid troll shit, the reason i am here is because dumbasses like you don't say "your a troll" everytime they don't like what someone says

go to a fucking video game forum, youll get along much better, everytime someone says something they don't like they say "your a troll"

i'm not saying everyone likes each other here, but at least they respond with something other than "troll" or they just ignore the person

i hope nobody else starts that troll shit
@: flikr
Alright, I retract the troll comment, I'm sorry I apparently hurt your feelings.
First of all, you don't even know which country I'm in, why're you presuming I'm in country with a white majority.
And if you're taking so much offense to me calling you a troll, what the heck kind of a response do you expect to get when you call someone a bigot and a racist without anything to back it up?

You know nothing about me or my situation, yet you pass judgment on my supposed racial preferences. So if nothing else, appreciate the irony when you get on your high horse and get testy over being called a troll.
@: flikr
You are a moron!
@: ospot
do what nearly did and call me a moron

nearly is a fag
Nearly does tend to make interesting, wise, helpful, honest comments.
Personally I think you should go for the scholarship. Like someone said, you make your own luck, and if you deserve it, you deserve it even despite the extent of your parent's wealth.
Its admirable you want to help people too :)
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