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So, I've been feeling sad for a few years on and off, and i'm finally begining to work out what is making me so upset and deflated all the time.Im so angry because I feel like i've just had heaps of rubbish thrown my way.
My parents devorced when i was about Six, but funnily enough, I can remember a lot of what was going on, including incidents like my mum threatening my dad with a knife, and my dad throwing all of our clothes out of the bedroom window.
I have an elder sister and a younger brother, who when my mum and dad broke up, came with me and my mum to live in a different house, we still saw dad every other week, but when we were staying at my mums, she used to lock us out of the house so that she could be with her boyfriend (who later became her wife beating husband and father of my two little half sisters) I just feel so resentful of my family,My elder sister and younger brother live with my dad and so dont see the issues that i have to deal with and my dad is so busy all the time that whenever im depressed he gets angry about it, i know thats a bad thing to say that im resentful, but seriously, the stuff doesnt stop happening.
Mum's recently devorced the guy, and we are now left with no money, apart from the money i'm earning working in a stressful job as a nurse.... I might add that i'm nineteen, and i feel like i've not had a normal teenage life. All my friends are off at university. And im still stuck living at home with my mum, who i love and care about, and my two disobedient younger sisters, but I feel so angry at myself for being so selfish. I DONT WANT the responsibility of looking after everyone, I have no time for myself and I dont have many friends anymore because I feel embarrassed to invite them over and when i get invited out i cant go because of my money issue. I Guess What I'm asking is.... Is it normal to be in my situation... and to feel so negitively about my family... and to feel so darn alone all the time?
any help would be appreciated
Pip
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I'm assuming that you are probably an LVN or an NA at your age, which probably means you don't have a lot of money. If you have a friend or family member who would consider rooming with you, please consider looking into some housing away from the stressful family situation that you describe. At age 19, it's really time for you to become your own person in any event. "Looking after everyone" should not have to be your sole responsibility, particularly if you want to be able to keep what you describe as a stressful job. Once you address your family issues, maybe the job will actually seem less stressful.
You say that you are supporting the whole family? Why isn't your mother taking care of her responsibilities? She doesn't work? If this is the case, then perhaps you are enabling her, in a sense, to allow you (and other people) to take care of her family and the responsibilities that come with it. I know it may be intimidating to confront your mother with this, but I think it must be done to give you a bit of a break. Also, keep in mind that this will only be temporary. Eventually your half-sisters (and hopefully your mother) will be self-sufficient, and you'll be able to continue on with your life. It's all just a matter of time.
I'm quite scared about how my little sisters are going to end up, ella who is 7 already said to me
"I know mummy loves me, but i dont feel like it sometimes"
That kinda breaks my heart, which makes me feel worse about wanting out of this scenario. Thanks for the advice, i know it makes sense.
For the sake of your sanity and self-actualization, you cannot make yourself solely responsible for your entire family. Someone else must share the burden with you. If your father refuses to assist, perhaps he can be "encouraged" to do so legally. If your mother is able to work but does not do so now, perhaps this is the time to "suggest" that she consider doing so for the sake of her daughters and herself. You need not feel that all of the possible solutions must come from you just as you need not feel that you should be responsible for everyone's welfare if the adults in this family will not take responsibility for themselves. Once everyone starts seeing that you are are standing up for yourself and beginning to make the first steps towards the door, it's possible that you'll see some changes for the better just because they'll know they HAVE to change. It may not happen overnight, but given time and your firm resolve and a tough love approach, you may get some results.